Lonely!!

[DD203]

Feeling very lonely at the moment. Not really sure why, have good friends and a lot of family but no gay friends and definitely no one with HIV.

[Hidden]

It's hard to know what people's agendas are these days. You'll get people say they want to be friends but expect to recieve a thousand photos. I find that strange as I don't care what my friends look like. I'm their friend because I like who they are.

Then you get guys saying they want to be mates but then get a bit over familiar and flirty.

It would be nice to have genuine mates who don't try blurring the lines and can offer real support without "benefits".

I'm sure there will be people who read my humble opinion and think .... Ooooooo get her! Lol

But that's exactly it, just an opinion based on my own experience and it does happen a lot!

Keep those friends you have close, know the type of people you want to meet and let into your life and don't ignore the warning signs of those who don't know what FRIEND means

Best wishes to you

[DD203 in reply to Hidden]

I agree, it's hard to find just a friend. The reason for asking on here is because i do want a friend who is like me! I'm not looking for someone to fool around with, I can find that easily enough in other places! I just want someone who I can chat to, go for a beer with! The usual things you do with a friend! But it just so happens we both are HIV+!

[George147]

Hello there, everyone feels lonely at some point, and I know how you feel, I too have a lot of friends but can still feel lonely even if it's just for 15 minutes. I'm George , I live in york , I'm single and have been hiv for 14 years now the last 8 I've been undetectable , there is still a lot of stigma particularly in the gay community about hiv , but I am a genuine guy and always willing to talk or help if I can so please get in touch, my email is , [e-mail]

Look forward to hearing from you xx

[Davidthomas06]

Hi

I have to echo Lilchimp's comments, I too want more friends as there are many apps or sites about the aim appears to be for hook ups. You chat to people and if it goes on too long, it basically dies or becomes very direct.

With my diagnosis and accompanying illness I ended up with neuropathy from the waste down ( I think you can work the rest out)

As for the loneliness aspect, I too have friends and family that are close, but I also feel isolated. Which I am trying to work my way through.

Btw I'm in the nort east.

David

[George147]

I only have one friend who is positive but we keep in touch by phone most weeks, but why do you need friends who are hiv? Surely having friends is a good thing xx

[DD203 in reply to George147]

Just want someone who understands what it's all about!

[George147 in reply to DD203]

I've been hiv for 14 years now so if you want to get in touch I can give you my mobile number if you like? Where abouts are you??

[DD203 in reply to George147]

I'm in Hertfordshire

[George147 in reply to DD203]

Well I understand most things about it and I've been diabetic for the last 6 years which is worse believe me but recently read that it could have been the medications I've been on for the hiv to cause me to get the diabetese and I could be just at the end of a phone if you want xx

[George147 in reply to DD203]

Well I'm understand most of it

[Greysquirrel]

were u at i be ya new friend

[George147 in reply to Greysquirrel]

I'm in York

[CaveyUK]

Suggest to all that joining the THT HIV forums may be worth the effort. Aside from online peer support (they have a chat function which is used for support/advice every evening), they also organise things like socials and pub crawls and suchlike. There are also social groups set up in some areas (such as Thrive in Newcastle).

I don't know anyone in the 'real world' with HIV, but it's even more difficult for me as a predominantly heterosexual guy living in the HIV 'sticks' (Lincs). I get great support from my best mate and girlfriend, and use the THT forum (and Poz forum) for additional support.

May be something for some to look into