How do you rate your self esteem? It's easy... - Healthy Eating
How do you rate your self esteem? It's easy to see everyone else as OK, so lets show how we really feel. This is a single choice poll.
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Another good poll Jerry. I have chosen 'Get by but let self criticism hold you back'. The reason I have chosen this is because I do doubt my own abilities and if someone compliments me I do say thank you but I do sometimes wonder if they are just being kind. I was bullied at school; my own brother mistreated me but I didn't realise that until I was a mother of two daughters and the person I worked for had a Jekyll and Hyde personality and he would often berate me.
I am getting better but I know it won't be an easy process and will take time but I am certainly working on it and places like these forums really help.
Alicia
Hi Alicia, thank you and thank you for being so open and honest as to me thats half the battle as its so easy to nod our heads and say I'm fine and bottle up our real feelings.
I think most of us have been or felt bullied during our lives as I know that I have.
I was an undiagnosed coeliac and Dr's kept telling me I was too healthy to have anything wrong with me and that made me anxious and I remember hearing David Byrne singing "I'm tense and nervous and my heads on fire" and I thought me too...
So I hope that this poll helps others realise that we all have similar emotions in greater or lesser degree's and are far from alone in harbouring self doubt.
Jerry π
Hi Jerry, sorry for taking so long to get back, I have been really busy in the garden landscaping and also working (I have now given that up as it didn't suit me). I am learning more and more about myself each day and as a family we are starting to open up more and more. I have often bottled up my feelings and still do but am working on it.
Agree that I think many people have been bullied at some time in their lives and it's awful.
How awful for you to be undiagnosed, you must have gone through a horrible time feeling poorly.
I do think it's an excellent poll and it certainly is good to open up.
Alicia
Not really a black or white decision, depends on my mood, and what I have recently achieved. Always feel more confident when praise is given, but it is never forthcoming enough.
Hi Sadmia, you're so right our emotions change all the time and in so many ways.
its just good to show that we all share emotions, so thank you for this. π
Jerry, This for can be seen from now a life long prepective. I now have the confidence I once did not with all thing still some doubts which are normal to everyone. Age is a great teacher and wise developing tool. Your emotions change, become more soft in perpectives-less judgemental. Much easier to let the words fly you and not pay attention, the old slogan words will never hurt you! Rings in my ears! Once again a fantastic post, Jerry.
Hi cherv and thank you, self esteem is very important so this poll hopefully helps reassure others that we are all human with human failings/feelings and we can respond to others opinions and perceived opinions too much, which can be our downfall, so some very wise words by you here about "other peoples words..."
And you're right our self esteem evolves throughout our lives, taking us on a roller coaster journey. π
If everything is going well I'm ok , but if something goes wrong I get a bit stressed π¬
Hi Lori23, this is so true for most of us so thanks for saying this and its why we let things stress us is the secret but I feel the same sometimes, so I don't know the answer...π
I am very critical of myself and put massive pressure on myself to be "perfect" any little mistake I punish myself. As I knew where my self esteem stemmed from it made it easier to deal with - I do so much better these days, I have used CBT using the Melanine Fennel Book/CD and also seen a hypotherapist for inner child work - she was brillant, helped me to see things in a differen't light. I am still work in progress but so much better than I used to be.
This is a great poll, makes me feel like I am not the only one
Hi Debs, this is so interesting and I think that you're really strong being open like this, so well done you as being open and honest means we can't pretend or delude ourselves.
If we don't like it then change it and you're learning how.
This seeing things in a different light is just amazing because you've changed your perspective and are reaping the benefits of your actions, so I'm really glad that it works for you.
So thanks for sharing this Debs and CBT sounds amazing. π
Thank you Jerry, that means a lot.
Honesty is the only way to recover - you need to tap into your "bottom line" Its powerful stuff, and never play the blame game as you will never recover (I know a few people like that) you have to look at your roel in whats keeping things going. We may have had a terrible start in life but I believe we can change and learn to value ourselves.
Good Luck to everyone on this journey
Is this poll to be answered on a good or bad day?
Hi Andy, you've answered your own question here, as its why our self esteem lets us have bad days...π
The last three in all. I have depression and ME
Hi mysmugat, hey I'm sorry you have these things going on, so poor you and thank you for saying. We look out for all members so you are safe to post on HE I promise you that.
If you want any help with foods to combat depression you just ask away and here's an article that may interest you:
everydayhealth.com/columns/...
Thanks again and I wish you well,
Jerry π
Thank you so kind I am looking at the article