i got asked 1 of the hardest questions the other day it was are you happy?

[nick_01]

i thought about it for a few days. my answer is no my life now is boring and lonely is it even possible to say yes to this question?

[TC1979]

That's one of the hardest questions someone can ask. Along with what will make me happy/happier. Their are often many things that an individual has in life which others would value as an entity from their lives and would make them happy. Health is a great thing when we have it but is nasty when its something we don't be has a knock on effect on everything in a life. I heard a song by Gladys Knight "Try To Remember/The Way We Were" (1980). It had lots of things in it which were true but health doesn't factor into it. Basically it's about the times we are having now will be remembered as the good days.

Don't give up mate.

[ncmurphy1951]

life after an injury changes enormously yes there is the disability money worries and frustrations coping with these is probably the most difficult to deal with but on we all march to give up would be weak and a let down to the many who have and are supporting us as well as an insult to the many thousands who dont survive and their families who i am sure would wish and pray for a tenth of what we have to get their loved ones back befor my injury a saturday would be walk ith family and dog to local cafe full breakfasts chippie for chips walk alonmg bech chips for sea gulls home take kids to school then sainsburys for shoppping while me to starbucks for 2 coffee and read papers 1 collect kids home lunch or kids to a party pm dinner wine snooze by fire now house bound love of life in spain at some time will beg to be taken out life changes but one adapts anbd accepts familes in afica are happy living 6 to a room on £35 / mth we are lucky they are happy we atre not what right do we have to moan answer no right

[Amanda1968]

hi ,well after my brain injury 6 years ago i can honestly say if u were to ask me if i was happy ....the answer would be 'no' but no-one bothers asking me as if people know me they see someone who hides there unhappiness so well i suppose if im honest in this time ive learnt to adapt to the new amanda and this is how i cope now not sure if this helps but hope it does

[formula]

Amanda is right , its no use in thinking what i did or what i use to do , im a different person to the one i left behind and coming to terms with that is difficult but when you do , you start accepting life and things get better instead of constantly fighting your disabilities ! ive said many a time sounds funny but if you did go through extreme trauma as i did its nothing compared to the psychological struggle of your life as it is now and disabilities , i found this the hardest to cope with

Best Wishes Paul