well,yesterday was exactly a year since i first saw my boy after his horrible accident.some of you will recall that i was unable to see him for 17 weeks due to covid/restrictions in h.d.u ward at hospital.he had been transffered to nuero unit from hospital.i remember how terrified i was on my way there,not knowing what to expect...when i think back,it seems so long ago,so much has happened since then,some good,mostly bad.im not sure actually how ive coped,but it has to be said,the support i have had from the people in this group have carried me thus far,so much so that some,even though we have never met,i consider my freinds..the absolute mire of b/s and meetings and rules,regs blah blah is mindblowing.i can understand how some would get bogged down/overwhelmed by it all.of course,it was never an option for me to back down,i am this mans mother end of..ive witnessed things that were wrong,2 of which very serious,i dealt with them as i thought best at time.i have been calm,and also when i thought it neccessary,i have been aggressive too.my son,though he has made so much progress is severely impaired by his brain injury both mentally and pyhsically,i am nearly at the point of accepting this harsh fact,(but not quite)...he is due to move on to another unit any day now.i have learned a lot,lets just say i intend to "set my stall out"..i also still have battles,universal credit have decided that i need to look for full time work,and of course,theres a person out there living his best life that caused my lads injuries and took his life and army career of 20 years away.so,many rivers yet to cross....
most who have been with me on this forum have shared my stories,contrary to what has been said,i have a good sense of humour!i can see the irony in a lot of things that happen,some not so much...happy easter everyonexx
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It’s certainly not easy D. In someways I find things harder now than when our sons injury happened. I am glad we have each other for support as you have to be ‘living in our world’ to really understand. Like you I am very grateful for the advice, comfort and best wishes from everyone on this forum- it does mean a lot especially on the more difficult days. Speak soon. Nanapal x
Hi D, your messages always fill me with admiration for your strength, your fight for your boy like Nan is admirable, you too deserve some peace and good luck, and shouldn’t have to fight every day for every thing. You said your son is a veteran, I too was married to a squaddie and had a daughter who did twenty two years in the army, I mention this because have you had any support from these, ssafa and help for heroes, may be able to help providing specialised equipment wheelchairs etc, always bare in mind for the future, for now lots of luck and love to you and your son love Alice xx
Happy Easter D, sorry for this so very tough year or so to cope with, and knowing that this painful life goes on for you. Totally feel for you as another mother - and as you say, friend x
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