Hi all, first time here. Just looking for some advice and support really. My mum had a TBI on Xmas morning, my sister found her when going to pick her up for Xmas lunch. We were told on Boxing Day she was likely to pass away, but she didn’t. She hasn’t gained capacity since, and can’t talk, and is double incontinent. To say this has been heart breaking would be an understatement. We had to give up her flat, and my mum was a fiercely independent person prior to this. I am the next of kin and am visiting mum twice a week. Some days I can cope better than others. Tonight was a bad visit, I just felt hopeless. She was happy and content playing with her dolls it’s like she’s regressed to childhood. On top of this my mum was actually being tested for dementia so the doctors don’t know if the TBI or possible rapid dementia is the reason for her condition now.
Long story short, I’d like some advice on how to cope with this as I feel completely helpless and just devastated to the point I can’t function some days. I’ve tried to be strong, accept it is what it is etc but some days are impossible.
Thank you for reading.