Support please

[janey61]

Not sure I can sum it up in a nutshell but basically my 22 year old sons need have taken over my life again , despite him not living with me ...he has been ringing me non stop questions everything I do , he is in supported housing and has to move , financial things getting on top of me , I have m.e depression and anxiety and he doesn't take in to account my needs he is autistic also but I have exhausted every conversation is a minefield ...he is wondefprfully curios of life but to the enth degree , lately he is obsesses with sexual diseases and ancestors passing them down , now we have found out he has 6 new aunties and uncles ..it has sent him into overdrive , everything is to be honest ,, the care company are doing their best but it's really all on me to support him ..I,m so so tired ...please any suggestions , not GP mental health he refuses to believe he needs help at all its us apparently 😒

[Jillbrown123]

Hi my daughter has personality change since her last brain surgery. Yes I know how you feel. It’s all consuming trying to manage them. Hard to make plans or feel like anything is actually fun anymore. My kid thinks school shootings are a hoax, that road construction is fake, doesn’t believe virtually anything anymore that comes up in conversation. Yet they are graduating her. She used to be an A Student. Now she just makes no sense. Decent acted my whole life. Ugh

[janey61 in reply to Jillbrown123]

Am sorry for you and your daughter , I,m just exhausted ...no one wrote a rule book for us ...and anyway all brain injuries are different ....

[TaIaV]

Dear Janey61,

What happens if you do not answer 25% of the times he calls? I have a friend who is not 1/50th as demanding as your son sounds like he is, and yet she has exhausted almost everyone in her life. I do not want to reject her but find that I have to limit how often I respond. In her case, there is no terrible consequence to this. In your son's case, I do not know how he responds if you pull back a bit. Certainly, whatever the consequence to him, it needs to be weighed against the terrible toll this is all taking on you. I fear that you will suffer some sort of health problem yourself soon if you do not pull back.

I am so sorry for all that you are experiencing. Please stop frequently to at least close your eyes and breathe deeply enough so that you feel a moment of freedom from it all. I and others on the site will be sending our support.

[janey61 in reply to TaIaV]

Thankyou TalaV , yes I am trying but he is moving soon and care is reducing also ..I am trying to limit the calls to four o'clock ..need to update his phone to as he cant text right now , he is vvery lonely but cannot be around people for too long before he gets anxious ..

My health is deteriorating I have m.e and depression and need to step back , he does say I done care and always questions when and where I've been if I don't answer ...

And Breath 😆😄😄