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Hi all

My fiancé fell off a ladder last sept and sustained multiple bleeds and fractures to his brain, he was in a coma for 4 weeks and then went onto intense rehabilitation. He came home finally in feb and was doing fantastically well, he even played one handed drumming on 22nd June with his band at a festival! On 5th July he went back into hospital to have a Cranioplasty and is now still in a coma 9 weeks on following a brain stem stroke, they told us there was less than 1% chance of risks. I am broken hearted as we had our wedding booked for 28th nov this year. Can anyone give me any help with this awful situation?

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So sorry to hear that you are having to go through this... PLEASE call Headway UK helpline on 0808 800 2244 they will be better able to help with practical information and they can talk through things with you and point you in the direction of any available support in your area.

And come here as often as you need for a friendly ear or a shoulder... This stuff is so hard and we are rooting for you and your fiance.


Thank you


Hi Karen. I'm so sorry about your partner's stroke and for all the worry it must be causing you and the rest of his family. I imagine you are still in a 'wait and see' situation which must be agonising for you all.

All you can do is persevere with talking to your fiance and with physical contact such as stroking hair and massage of hands as a way of reaching him. My cousin was in a coma for 3&1/2 months after a serious brain injury and her father read to her and played her favourite music whilst maintaining tactile contact every day. And he was rewarded with her smile one night just as he was about to leave for home. He called it a miracle. I just call it incredible patience.........and faith.

I hope you will be rewarded also ; please don't give up hope for your partner's recovery.

We're always here if you need to talk. x


Hi Karen,

Must be a terribly worrying, stressful time for you both, particularly for you, as you must have to be dealing with so much, AND the aftermath of the fall . Awful occurrence's show you how important friends can be. Phone the helpline, they will be of help, you will need all the support you can get.

I also had a ladder related fall, and can only imagine how difficult it must be for you. I was in hospital for 6 months, and my partner received invaluably help from family, colleagues, neighbours and friends. She had no real knowledge of Headway, before I was due for discharge. I am sure she would have found the Helpline of invaluable help; particularly as prior to my fall I sorted the finances, bills, etc. much of the shopping, and cooking.

Hope you seek advise, it all works out, and all the best for your wedding. :)


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