Well I Give Up

[Negeen]

I'm generally determined, strong willed, and a fighter... But... I just can't win this one. At some point you realize that tomorrow will come and you won't be any better.. And that normal people will never be able to understand. Everything I dreamed of in life are no longer realistic possibilities.

[Hidden]

Hi Negeen, Don't give up, let go instead. Let go of things which are no longer realistic, there is a bright future out there once you drop the things that once "could be". When you are free from the anguish that not being able to fulfil those old goals is causing you then you can move on to get the best out of life.

Of course you will have to carefully consider what is and is not realistic, but who knows - you may recover in the future and then pick up on new goals and purposes.

You are young, live your life to the full, don't waste time worrying what might have been.

Dev.

[Negeen in reply to Hidden]

Letting go is giving up

[B_S_A in reply to Negeen]

NU-UH. Letting go is just being ok with it.

Look, it's just tough luck. For everybody here. It's awful, and traumatic, and nobody should have to do all this crap in their lifetime. It sucks, and sometimes I'd like to hurl myself a cliff.

What everybody does now is up to them, including your beautiful self, and giving up is perfectly within your right. We all have a choice, I just wouldn't recommend that one.

(Psssst! I'm trying reverse psychology)

[Hidden in reply to B_S_A]

You know something? You've both been through experiences "normal" people cannot hardly comprehend and come out the other side alive. Not only that but you are also caring and compassionate individuals. If you were my kids I'd be bl**dy proud of you!

Dev.

[vjones2 in reply to Negeen]

you me simlar i carnt let go even reading your bit got me upset for you and me 2 why people incluiding family just dont get it make me want cream if i get oh just get on with it 1s more or live with it or be dea lovely comments i get lot time id take 2nd choice

[Ladyberd70]

Negeen, good advice from Dev. You may not be all that you were, but you are still a bright, articulate, attractive young woman.

I had dreams for my son when he was little, but as his aspergers became apparent and now his TBI those dreams have gone and I have to focus on a new future, whatever that may be.

Acceptance is so hard, but it's the ONLY way you can ever move on. xx

[pauly-paul]

The goal posts may have moved in your life Negeen so you just have to re-aim your shot and give it a bloody good kick Giving up and letting go are different things altogether.

I've had to let go of the fact my Mum as she was has gone for good. I'm not giving up on her though...I've accepted things are different. I've dropped all expectation and I take every day as it comes. Sometimes a bad day can bring great gifts and it is only in hindsight that you realise this. x

[sean1966]

Hi I joined here yesterday, had my acute subdural a year ago and like all on here I suppose it has been one heck of a roller coaster. I was pretty down thinking of a long weekend but joining this has helped, please keep with it as you really never know what the future is, there seems to be a great support on here.

[hayabusa]

Everything is temporary.

Nothing stays the same.

Draw a line and move on.

[iforget]

So now that you have come to this conclusion Negeen, what's next?

[Nks425]

N sorry you feel like this. I do understand. With that being said I still we have to move on. I am not who I use to be but that does not mean I am not as good. In ways I feel I have taught my kids and friends you can persevere. I

saw a picture of my daughter and I last May before she went to her prom and I could barley hold myself up and was so frail this year I was able to go with her to get her hair done and nails done and help her get ready! What a difference an year has made. No I can't go run with her or do some other things but I hope in time I can. If not we will find other ways to spend time together. There is always hope. Look at the glass half full I know we all miss who we were and what we could do but like my family reminds me when I get down like this is at least I am here to share in there lives and it's better then the alternative.

Hugs and payers to you!!!!

xoxo- Niyani

[celtic27465]

Hi nageen. I never thought you would give up ! You are stronger than you think please stay strong as I like you as a friend and hate to see you down ! You are a good person take care let me know how you are getting on !

[Flumptious]

Oh, Negeen

We all love you being around, we know you're a friendly, intelligent, caring woman.

I really hope you cheer up, soon.

[B_S_A]

Also haven't heard from her in a while...

[gr33nmind]

Perhaps, what you dreamed of once doing cannot be pursued anymore. Still that doesn't mean that you can no longer make new dreams. You might see when your pursuing new goals, that your original hopes, weren't even what you truly wanted anyway. Don't stop fighting, just maybe change what your fighting for.