Hi my name is Annette I'm 49 and live in Australia and I currently care for my mum who has stage IV nsclc with mets to both lungs, liver, bone, chest lymph nodes and fungating lesions to the upper and lower chest wall. I joined this site to gain knowledge and speak to other carers and sufferers. Some days are pretty hard and things seem overhelming, I think I'm also suffering anticipatory grief, imagining what is going to be like without my mum, she's the only family I have left apart from my kids and husband. I lost my first husband to head and neck cancer in January 2004, he was 44, I was widowed at 37 with 3 kids. I lost my grandmother to bowel cancer in 2007 and my only Aunt in 2008 to liver cancer so I'm no stranger to cancer and its devastating effects.