Husband has stage 4 lung cancer

[jwestmoreland]

My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in late September. October 31 he had tumor removed on brain. Had radiation therapy on brain now chemo for the rest. Was found in back hip kidneys brain and lung. Dr's say a year left has only had 2 rounds of chemo. He is my soulmate my true love. It is hard to see him going thru this.

[jwestmoreland]

So hard for me to be strong

[vivi6121]

Same here, hubby got dx in Jan 2016. What type of LC he has? Do not trust DRs, especially with predictions they have no idea about. They think they are God, but they are not. There are many LC sufferers doing pretty well for many years. Keep faith!

[Denzie Moderator Volunteer]

The doctors guesstimate is based on a bell curve. The curve is based on the outcome is 10s of 1000s of lives plotted on a graph. Half of the people on the graph died before that mark and half after. There is no way to predict where he will come out on that curve. My drs told me 10-15 months with aggressive treatment for my stage 4 was all i could expect. That was over six years ago.

Eating well is certainly an important part of it but please don't not eat something your body needs if you can't afford organic. Feed him many small meals. As chemo progresses he may start refusing his favorite foods. You can't force him to eat. You may have to resort to foods that are calorie laden. You can get back to the healthier diet as his taste buds normalize. I did ice cream therapy daily-vanilla ice cream, hot fudge and bananas

Exercise is another important component. Even if he just gets up and walks around the living room a couple of times. Later he can take longer walks and add gentle strength and flexibility exercise to start rebuilding.

[Ruthie1950]

I'm so sorry. Doctor's can only guess the amount of time your husband has left. Concentrate on loving him and giving him the best care possible. May God strengthen you both and bless you through this.

[tjmj1]

My heart goes out to you and your husband. My husband was diagnosed with Stage 4 non-small cell lung cancer near the end of May of this year. His tumor was inoperable. He only had a few cycles of chemo. He didn't do well with it. His blood counts dropped and he needed transfusions. He soon became septic and subsequently died on July 1. It is my belief that he would have lived longer and the quality of his life would certainly have been better without the chemo. I wish you both the very best. Live each day like its his last. Cancer is sneaky at kills on its timetable. My heart goes out to you both.

[jwestmoreland in reply to tjmj1]

My heart goes out for you. It's not a easy thing. The word cancer was just bad enuf to hear. First few weeks I have been a wreck and cry all the time. My husband hasn't done to well on chemo has been in awful body pain. Was hard to believe he got cancer 2 years ago went thru some bypass issues and had a leg amputation and all kind of test

[Honkingbird]

Hi, I lost my husband to lung cancer 15 years ago. It's a lifetime ago, but it is still fresh. We lived hard until he passed. When he was diagnosed, his doctors estimated 6 mos. (he was also diagnosed at Stage 4,) he lived for almost 2 years. It sounds trite, but just relish every moment. I wish there was more I could say that would comfort you, but I have been where you are. You're not alone.

[FtB_Peggy]

Thank you for joining us and sharing your story.

I am so sorry for you and your husband, don't worry about being strong - just keep loving him!

If you haven't, please talk to his medical team about his symptoms/side effects - they should know what he is enduring, and should provide palliative care (that just means they treat the symptoms). If you need any additional information, please check out some of the resources we offer (they are all free) at freetobreath.org (under free print resources). Besides those things listed, we offer Resource Guides on such things as support groups, financial assistance, help with travel expenses, co-pay assistance, etc. Just let me know if you need anything: [e-mail]. You can also call me at 844.835.4325 if you want to talk.

Also, have you gotten a second opinion. Our website talks about that as well. freetobreathe.org/lung-canc...

Please know you are not alone, you can see how much these folks care. Keep in touch!

[jwestmoreland]

My husband passed away jan.26 from his stage 4 non small cell lc chemo took a toll on his body and got pneumonia and sespi