Facial nerve pain help....

[Will2015abc]

Hi I hope all are well. So my mum passed away 2 weeks ago and Im heartbroken and obviously my anxiety is through the roof. But Im not a crier - its not a :man" thing its just that I find it SO hard to cry. But since mum passed away Ive been crying so much (obviously). In the last week or so Ive gotten this really weird sensation above my eyebrow a nerve pain - it seems like it starts in nose up to eyebrow and travels side of head and around ear. Its on and off but SO bad. Im wondering is it POSSIBLE that Ive just inflamed a nerve by my crying so much? Any help particularly at this time would be appreciated?

[rjoneslaw]

@Will2015abc I don't have an answer for you but I will pray for you. Any kind of loss is always hard. The one true thing is to took it one day at a time

[laverdasf1000]

Hi Will2015abc, I am so very sorry to hear you have lost your, bereavement and coping with the grief it brings is very difficult. I lost my wife in January this year, she was only 54 and we had been married for 20 years. The grief did strange things to me as you pass through the different phases of it. I was sat on the floor on one occasion crying my eyes out with my arms round my dogs, I felt as though I was going insane. The way back for me was through grief counselling not sure where you are but in the UK we have a charity organisation called Cruse Bereavement Care. I have been going for a number of months, having 1 to 1 counselling and it really helps. I also go to the local Cruse social group and this is very supportive and to be with people in a similiar situation does help as well. I am not at all interested in the macho thing of carrying on regardless, that just makes things worse and delays your recovery. We are in the 21st century now and I believe guys need support at times so why not get the help you need. It is a stronger man that accepts he needs help than carries on and makes himself worse.. I must stress that I am NOT a medical person and everything I say is based on my own experience. As regards the physical problem I would talk with a doctor about it, let them check it out. I always feel better doing something about a problem rather than let it fester in your mind until it has turned into a massive issue.

I would definitely look at Cruse if you are in the UK, it does help to talk it through with people that understand what you are going through.

I sincerely hope I have been of some assistance and would be interested to hear how you progress with things.

My very best wishes to you.

Regards, laverdasf

[Will2015abc in reply to laverdasf1000]

Hi laverdasf, firstly Im so so sorry for your loss I cannot even imagine. You seem incredibly brave (and sound) and thank you so much for your kind words. Im based in Dublin unfortunately (if you think the NHS is bad check out our HSE!). Yes Im already doing 1 on 1 counselling so that a plus. I guess its the physical stuff that gets to me - whether this is just a manifestation of grief or something more sinister I will get it checked with GP first thing. If its grief related I can handle it if you know what I mean. I will absolutely keep you posted on how Im getting on and thanks again for your kindness,

W

[laverdasf1000 in reply to Will2015abc]

Hi Will, No problem, thank you for your kindness regarding the loss of my wife. It is very difficult at times, I didn't think you could die of loneliness but it certainly seems possible sometimes. I am getting better slowly, I hope I can get into different things and open up new friendships. It is too early for anything serious as I have found out lately but there we are. As long as we learn form whatever we do it is never in vain.

I wish you all the best with your journey through grief it is not easy and throws up some challenges along the way. Stay strong and continue to seek help as and when you need it. The macho stuff gets you no where the bigger man accepts his failings and gets help.

Take care, catch you later.

laverdasf