Getting everything into prospective.

Today I went to a funeral. A lovely lady not much older than me called Linda. She loved going to the gym, keeping healthy, and was looking forward to retiring early.She was my sons best mates mum. I knew her well and walked her dogs. In February this year she gained a doctorate and with her 2 children went to Oz for 2 weeks whist we cared for the house and dogs. She bought herself a soft top car who she loved to show everyone. Then in July after having pains in her side she was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given a year. She fought to the bitter end but sadly lost her battle last Sunday.

A sad story, yes, but the awful thing is Charlie 24 and his sister Caroline 22 also lost their dad in the same tragic way 3 years ago. I don't think there was a single dry eye in the crematorium when Linda's dad walked up to the coffin and patted it gently and said good bye to his eldest daughter followed by Charlie and Caroline, saying good bye to their wonderful mum. They then stood there hugging and crying, both now orphans. Both will never be able to share their weddings, children, milestones, or achievements with their parents, like most of us expect to do.

Today has made me put things into prospective. Yes I hurt, I ache and some days I feel awful but I am here and I am around for my children.

Life is too short to argue over silly things, fall out with people and I am going to do my best to make the most of what I have. I am also going to do my best to be there for Charlie and Caroline.

I don't feel good at times but it will never compare to the heartache those poor kids are going through and what they will go through in the future.

Xxxx

[Extremelygrumpy]

Well said piggles and it really brings home the fact life is too short... The lady I used to babysit for lost her son when he was just 24 and now at the age of 60 she has just been diagnosed with throat cancer ,, she has never smoked but it's invaded her lungs already she had a holiday booked , the hospital told her to go and enjoy it... So we are all expecting the worst. So let's all make the best of our real and virtual lives

Hugs VGx

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It certainly does VG. I hope she gets to enjoy her holiday.

Piggie hugs xxx

[Hidden]

Heartbreaking story! It certainly makes you take stock of all you have - at the end of the day those two poor young people have lost so much in their short lives, they shouldn't have known any of it at their age. Life can be so cruel can't it.

I realise I am blessed with a lovely hubby who understands me and my Fibro, I have three wonderful healthy grown-up children and a wonderful mum!

I completely agree, life is so precious and short, too short for petty things! Let's make the most of every day because every day we have is a blessing!

I hope your "lady" manages to enjoy her holiday VG, wishing her all the very best. (((hug))) xxx

Here's a hug for Piggie today, I expect you are exhausted after today. Very harrowing for you. Bless you (((hug))) xxx

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Thank you. Yes I feel physically and mentally exhausted but can't stop thinking about them. At least I know they are not alone and are surrounded by friends tonight.

xxxxx

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That's true, they will be too numb at the moment bless them. It will all hit them later on. I hope they have all the love and support to get them both through this, it's a terrible loss. Bless them. xxx

[jayned]

i count my blessings every single day i wake up , 2 1/2 yrs ago i lost my very much loved niece at the age of 22 from sudden death syndrome she was sat feeding her 7 month baby and just passed away as if a switch had been flicked off it was that quick !!! so i try to just get on with life when im down i just think ' im still here with my family' thats normally enough to pick me up i dont feel i have the right to grumble about my aches and pains ........this put everything into perspective for me im not saying things are not hard both me and my husband have fibro but just try and make the best of things it is what it is nothing is going to change , my heart goes out to the both of them life can be so cruel xxx

[trixter]

your so right life is two short, ppl say u never knew what had til its gone, so sad that them young adults have lost both parents, i knw its dosent compensate but sounds like they have supper family n friends around them who will support through there tough journey....i think some times ppl dnt take to sit and think of they have , as life is all in the fast lane sometimes..i lost my brother 4yr ago was very sudden, my mum and dad are stil coming to terms with it...life is so cruel the things that are dished out to ppl inlife, and affect every different...scarey tbh sometimes...feel so sorry for the loss that your friends chidren are goin through..hugs xx

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It is stories such as this that make us all take stock and count our blessings. Thank goodness those young people still have their grandfather and good friends like you and your son to turn to. Thanks for sharing this with us all. Jane x

[mandyd61]

death in someone at a young age certainly does put things into perspective. Tomorrow is my friends funeral, she was 56 and died 2 years after being diagnosed with a very rare cancer, She made sure she lived the last year of her life to the max, ticking things off her bucket list. I am conducting her service as she wanted a Pagan/Wiccan ceremony, I want to make her 'send off' exactly as she wanted, I hope I do her proud.

My heart goes out to these young people and their family xx

[Ozzygirl64]

It is a heart breaking story and yes it does make you put things into perspective. I often find I think about sadder things in life if I catch myself wallowing in self pity xxxxx

[linksy]

Definately does put things into perspective i give thanks for waking up everyday.Take it easy as emotionally it will be hard on everyone and i am sure you will be there for them if they need some support. xxx