On the 11th of September the husband of a dear friend died of Melanoma cancer. It all happened very quickly. She has also had treatment for breast cancer, and she has M.S. He was her sole carer. On the 14th of September I was driving back from Kent, (I live in Essex), Where I had just collected my new mobility car from my son. (he works for a ford dealership there, in case you were thinking why on earth I had travelled so far for a car!)
While stuck in a bumper to bumper traffic jam, my mobile rang. Luckily I had my carer with me and she turned on the loud speaker so I could talk to my mum.. Mum told me, near hysterically, that my step dad had died 30 mins earlier! (he had emphasyma and FM He had been my dad for over 30 years as my father had died in a car crash, on his 52nd birthday, In a foreign country.
I had to ring my sons, from the car, and tell them the sad news. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do. The most difficult was burying my son 24 years ago. He was a cot death. (me suffer with stress? Never!)
On Monday we buried a wonderful, caring and loving man... My dad... and today we buried another, Peter, my friends husband..
I am so very tired and everything aches and is swollen. But, for a change, I have a reason to feel so awful. Now I can only hope for time to recuperate and re group.
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Hi Eranox,
So sorry to hear of your bad news I hope it doesn't play too much havoc with your pains, and ill health, awful, take care love xxxxxxxx
My sympathies at your double loss, how awful for you. It is going to take a lot of coming to terms with as you go through the grieving process. Treat yourself gently and time will gradually heal you,
Hi Gail, I'm so very sorry to hear of your sad loss recently and of the passing of your son all those yrs ago! No wonder you will hurt with all the stress you have had to endure. As someone else has said please take things easy and look after yourself! If you don't then you won't be any good to help your mum with her pain in her loss too, you all need to be strong together, you will get through this Hun. Big hugs love Annie xx
So sadden by your post, may god grant you and your loved ones peace strenght and courage at this sad time. ((((((hugs )))))) from Belfast you are in my thoughts and prayers Dixie x
Love to you, your family and friends during this dreadful time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Jane x
Thank you Lynn x Things are calming down a bit now. Just got to make sure I am ready and able to offer support and understanding when my mum or friend needs it. My fibro is holding stationary at the moment so here's hoping x
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