HOW ARE YOU TODAY ??????

Three people have asked me that today the DLA man / The Optician and The man in the phone shop !!

Nothing wrong with that you may think ? well no there isnt but the trouble is my answer to all three was "FINE THANKS" !!!!! lol when really i dont know how i was walking in the town i was stumbling and my legs were like jelly the tops of my arms were in pain all down my arms my ankles my feet so why dont i just tell people ?????

it is just easier to say fine isnt it ?????

love to you all Diddle xxxxxxx

[soulsusie]

Yes Diddle but that is lying to ourselves!!!!!

Love to you Sue x x x

[Lizzie575]

Hi Diddle,

I agree. So many times I have answered 'fine' even to people I know quite well. If I say 'not good', all tends to go quiet and nobody knows what to say, so 'fine' it is.

I just find it easier to say 'fine' than have to explain that I'm so tired I don't know how to put one foot in front of the other, I ache from head to toe, my brain is full of fog and I cant remember anything and really I should be home in bed but I'm terrified that if I don't try and get out I will just shrivel up and become housebound. And if I do try and explain, they look at me as if to say, you look fine to me.

So I'm with you - 'fine' it is.

Love and Hugs Lizzie

[marion932]

I had the same discussion yesterday... that when people ask how you are they don't really want to know about your aches, pains, etc etc they are just asking to be polite. Can you imagine the shock on the faces of shop staff if you actually gave an honest answer?

I was actually having it pointed out to me that if someone from my degree course asks I am not to put them in the same category as everyone else and I must give details lol

It just doesn't come naturally. My way of coping with Fibro is to shut it away in a separate room in my mind, lock the door and try to forget it and just get on with life. I love the saying "what doesn't kill me makes me stronger". Its the old addage that you either laugh or cry and I don't want to be someone who dwells about it. Yes there are days when I can't get out of bed, and days when I am constantly falling over and/or stumbling, when I am so doped up on extra pain killers I cant think straight etc but I have to stay positive as I have two sons. They don't need to remember their childhood as one long episode of mum being ill. I don't want them to remember me like that either.

Sorry for the rant...

xx