Teenage Attitude v Fibromyalgia

[cuddlyka]

Have my 13 year old grand daughter for the weekend so that my daughter can go to a concert. I am struggling tonight and am getting wound up by her attitude...I can literally feel the pain coming on as I write this...I'm feeling so upset because I really don't want to be this grandmother who can't deal with a bit of attitude.

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Ah but its hard,you try to help and be good too them an you get attitude.I have the same with my son who's 21.i sound like an old women. But the youth of today can be spoiled and very unsympathetic I find.they want everything just handed too them and don't appreciate anything,have a rant on here,get it off your cheast xx

[Dinkie]

Ah the dreaded teenage years. She probably feels she's way to old to have to have grandma "babysitting" and she probably feels she is old enough to stay on her own and be "independent". Her mum is being responsible in arranging for her to be with you but she will probably feel you are both of the opinion that she is just a kid who needs looking after. Years ago teenagers didn't exist - one went from leaving school at 14 straight into work, marriage kids and the whole cycle starts again. It's a modern problem teenagers! They seem to lose the power of speech at about 14 and it is replaced by grunting (if you are lucky). Speech returns about the time they either graduate from uni or reach 20! All this doesn't make it any easier on you. All you can do is be there and listen with the occasional reminder about respect being a two way street. Teenagers are selfish and believe nobody understands or has been a teenager themselves Good luck and I'm sure the delightful girl she really is will return.

[cuddlyka in reply to Dinkie]

Good Morning Dinkie, last night I really wished that she had lost the power of speech! I'd foolishly agreed to have her best friend also and they wanted their boyfriends over which was just not going to happen.

In the end they rang their grandfather (we are divorced), they got him out of the pub and they walked back to my daughter's house to meet him there (as he wouldn't pick them up in his taxi)!I think they were hoping that he would roll over and give in because he'd had a drink!! Of course he supported me (that's a 1st) and said no also. Ha ha ha...nice try girls... x

[Dinkie in reply to cuddlyka]

A united front is so important - these teenagers are skilled at trying to divide the adults - hence all those t shirts if mum says no ask dad etc. I find it so amusing when they think they are the only ones to try these tactics. I'm sure they believe we all came down with the last shower of rain. Always told my lot that whatever they try they have to remember that I will have tried the self same thing only decades before them!