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Hi I'm 19 and have been suffering with pains in my legs and groin since I was around 10 years old (shortly after my grandfather past) and they were forever just put down to "she's growing" I've not grown since I was 16 and I still get these pains...

Fast forward to now, these pains have now spread to my shoulders and neck and I have being put on ESA. I've seen 2 rhumertologists 1 saying I have fibro and 1 saying I don't 😩. I have also suffered with anxiety and depression from the age of 5/6 as my dad in manic depressive bipolar and my cousin was in a near fatel car accident so I struggle with that too.

So now my dads saying I'm lazy and if I want to get my own place (I live with my fiancé's family) then I need to go to college or get a job. I had a job for 6 months from October 2014- April 2015 which is when I moved counties to be with my other half. At this job I struggled, I was in pain after every shift. I would have panic attacks and some days I just didn't want to leave the house. As for college I went and within the first 6-8 weeks my mum had to pull me and my anxiety was horrendous and was making me ill.

I've tried getting a Jove since I left my previous one but after 7hours of being on my feet I could no longer move and I was terrified that if I returned it would happen again. I don't know what I pm asking I'm just looking for I guess I'm just asking if you think that I'm just growing my life away. He doesn't understand that trying to exercise can make the pain worse and that's why I struggle losing the weight I have gained.

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Hi Lilyanne97 welcome to the forum, I'm sure you will love it as we all do. I am sorry that you are suffering with Fibro and you had from so young, by the sound of what you are saying.

It is a very difficult illness to live with and takes a long time to understand it as much as we can. I think this is the most important thing. There are some younger members like yourself, so I'm sure you will make lots if friends & get support & helpful advice on how others cope & share their experiences.

Please Go and check out the mother site, where you will find lots of information & useful links on Fibromyalgia.

I look forward to chatting with you.

❤ Jan x


Hi Lilyanne97

Welcome to the forum and it is wonderful to make your acquaintance. I am so genuinely sorry to read of how you are feeling at this time, and it may help to discuss it with your doctor to ascertain if they can help you in any way? I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck my friend and please take care of yourself.

All my hopes and dreams for you



You've got so much to deal with and I wish you the strength of mind and body to deal with just the day you're in. God bless

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