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I cant blame him really but he has messed me about for over a year. I never changed any of the tax credits and informing the council until I said enough is enough. I want to be on my own now, he has killed any bit of love i had for him. Anyway, i finally informed everyone so tax credits stopped.

I am only getting contribution based esa and dla, my daughter rang the esa people they said i should consider going over to income related. Will this mess anything up if i do it? I cant afford to lose any more money, i am £94 a week down already.If I try to go on income related would i have to go through everythhing again? I am in the support gtoup.

Thanks for reading xx

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Aurorasparkle

Hi I'm so sorry to hear of your situation.

I'm afraid I don't know much about the benefits situation to give you advice but I'm sure someone will be along soon to best advise you.

Sending gentle hugs and good vibes xxx

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Shazzzy

I dont think this will trigger any changes from support group. Income related means they work out what you will receive based on your present circumstances, i would check with citizens addvice or other advocacy service, they will be able to tell you exactly what youare entitled too. All the best,

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TheAuthor

Hi nanatre

I am so sorry to read of your relationship break up and I genuinely hope that you are looking after yourself? As Shazzzy says get some advice from the CAB or ring the DWP directly and make some inquiries? I want to wish you all the best of luck, and please remember that many members on the forum will be here to reply to your posts if you ever need a friend to correspond with?

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken x

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shadycurt3160

I would love to read the rest of what you have written but don't know how, can someone tell me how to read the rest of all posts.

Jan

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Hi jan, confusing isnt it at first.

Any way if you click on the bold print at the top of the post.

The headline i suppose you could call it the rest of the post will appear.

Hugs sue xx

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fibrokaren

i am so sorry to hear that your relationship has come to an end, even if you know it is inevitable it is a really hard thing to deal with, without having to worry about money on top of everything else you are going through right now.

I can only add to what several others have said and that is get your self an appointment with the C.A.B to find out just what changing your benefit would involve. It helps them if you take along ALL of the paper work you have from DWP so that they can check you are getting every thing you are entitled to, and then help you to fill in the relevant forms.

A gentle hug and all of my prayers are with you at this difficult time.

Karen

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Jeff1958

I am so very sorry , when we get married its for better or worse , unfortunately my ex wife couldn't handle the worse , I know from personal experience my health as destroyed my life , I worked up to 46 years of age , worked for West Yorkshire Police , paid my taxes , worked over time to get vehicles on the road , now some days I can hardly get out of bed , I after pay garages to repair my car when I would have done it myself , we have a government that treats the disabled with contempt and take money off them at every corner , I thought life couldn't get any worse I was wrong , but then I joined this group and realised people are on it who are sympathetic to your problems because they are facing them themselves , yes , the truth is , there is a light at the end of the tunnel .

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Betty67

Not an expert but DLA is not income based but based on your health and ESA is the minimum so any means tested benefits should be higher. This is a link to UK governments web site so should help you.

gov.uk/benefits-calculators

Careful of others you do not need to pay any one to claim.

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chante

Morning so sorry to hear your news. To shed a bit of light on your question. With contribution esa it lasts for about a year and you still have to pay for your prescriptions. With the income related esa it assesses the income, the rate is higher of payment is higher than contribution and you are exempt from prescription charges. You may also be able o get other help. Contact your local CAB or DIAL, they are fantastic with something like this.

Good luck, thinking of you.

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jaynief

Hi Nanatre

I am so sorry to hear of your situation, my partner recently did the same thing and I know how tough it can be.

I contacted Esa and they changed my esa to contributions based with a top up of income based. So basically, I now get both types.

The only change was that my money increased a little and I became eligible for free prescriptions and dental treatment etc.

I hope this helps and i hope you adjust to the change as well as you can. Oh and I'm in support group for esa too.

Jayne x

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jaynief

Hi Nanatre

I am so sorry to hear of your situation, my partner recently did the same thing and I know how tough it can be.

I contacted Esa and they changed my esa to contributions based with a top up of income based. So basically, I now get both types.

The only change was that my money increased a little and I became eligible for free prescriptions and dental treatment etc.

I hope this helps and i hope you adjust to the change as well as you can. Oh and I'm in support group for esa too.

Jayne x

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mason

hi sorry you are going through so much if i need advice i phone turn to us they are very helpfull .give them a try .

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michaelb62

Hi manager have you tried income support if you get DLA you may be entitled to the severe disabled part of IS I am on my own and get incapacity and DLA and also get the disabled part of IS it depends whether you live alone. It's worth enquiring. I'm sorry you are going through this when my marriages broke up it was a relief but when my relationship with my partner I just had for 3 and a half years I am struggling. Keep your chin up there may be other help out there.

Take care hugs to you xxxx

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jellynpain

Hi,

Sorry to hear your recent breakup. Do make sure you look after yourself, can be tough under the circumstances.

Just wanted to say, may be worth you checking out re council tax allowances too. I don't how it works but definitely find out.

X

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Hhhhuiuikki

Really sorry to hear this hun xx

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