Are we doing the right thing?

[Lind16]

So 4 weeks ago I was coming up to 8 weeks pregnant and the smile on my face you could not remove it. And then I started to feel weird and got rushed to emergency scan. To be told our baby had no heart beat. Obviously we were devastated. 4 weeks on and I think of our baby every day . But every day gets a little easier. But we decided 2 weeks ago to relocate to nearer my family. We have decided to take a break for ivf. We have 1 egg still frozen . But we feel exhausted and as my body has physically suffered alot and mentally we have suffered alot . We've decided to move get new jobs and give it a year if not 1.5 years till we try again. I'm 33 this year and even though I always said I don't want to be an old mum. I just think we need to be selfish and take our time and enjoy life for a while. It's taken 4 years of our lives up and has made myself depressed and miserable.

I always wanted a family but I also love my husband and would never want to loose him. I'm still suffering hormones etc and feel we might be rushing the move and the jobs but maybe it's time ?

[ChloBo84]

I’m so sorry to hear this honey. I so hope that when the time is right for you both to start up again on your ivf journey, that your little frostie turns into your miracle rainbow baby.

I would have to say I don’t think you’re making a bad decision. Sometimes you just need some time to really step away from all things trying to have a baby.

I’ve just gone through my unsuccessful frozen cycle and we’ve agreed to take time off till the autumn/winter just to get a bit of normal back into our lives.

Trying for a baby has consumed me/ is for the last 5 years, so I don’t think taking a little break is a bad thing at all.

Take care of yourselves, take time, and be a couple for a bit xx

[Lind16 in reply to ChloBo84]

Thankyou. I'm sorry to hear you've had bad luck too . I wish you luck for the future xx

[AmbK]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and all the ordeals you've had up until now to get pregnant! I know your concerns and in spite of the fact that every single day will diminish your potential to get pregnant naturally, the break is much needed. The emotional turmoil often sets in an imbalance in the body and mind, that makes the success with pregnancy or full-term gestation even more challenging. So, it's best to take time to heal before a head start. You've had to go through an IVF already with assisted fertility a couple of years on 33 isn't gonna matter much because even menopausal women find success and get pregnant. The fertility journey is tough and takes a lot of time... but don't be intimidated. Stay optimistic and don't give up on hope no matter what. Wish you a fulfilling break and all the luck in the world to find success when you start thereafter. Sending lots of love!