BFN

Well today was OTD and we got a BFN. Strangely I feel ok and its helped us have closure on my eggs as we have done 3 cycles now and I just haven't got the quality needed, therefor we can move forward in time with DE and have no regrets. We feel lucky we still options available to us and it just means for us being parents will happen just using a different route than we initially planned.

Thanks for all the support of everyone and Good Luck to everyone xxxx

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  • I'm really sorry to hear that Button xx

    You've got a great attitude and totally did the right thing in having one more try with your own, you would have always wondered if you hadn't.

    Like you say, the door hasn't closed. Be super kind to yourself for a bit now and good luck with the next step xx

  • Im sorry to hear that you got a BFN! Im glad that its helped you move on with your decision of DE though and you seem to be at peace with the fact you tried all that you could! All the best going forward!xx

  • I am really sorry to hear this Hun. But I love the positivity which is the right attitude for this process.

    You have done so well and been so strong so it is such a shame.

    Please keep us updated on your plans.

    Lots of hugs. Xx

  • Hi button , I'm so sorry . But I really admire your strength . Be kind to yourself and I wish you all the best for your next steps . Xxx

  • Ooooh button I'm gutted for you both. Sending you a massive hug and lots of love.

  • I'm sorry to hear this. You seem to be dealing with it really well. I think your right I think it's not necessarily having the same genetics that makes a loving family. There are lots of different ways to become a parent xxx

  • so sorry Button but glad you have a fantastic attitude. if you want any info on Cyprus let me know. We are looking at going again in February xx

  • Thanks for that, we are stuck between the Cyprus clinic and one in Barcelona we are taking to them both at the moment x

  • Really sorry to hear this and as others have mentioned you have a great positive attitude towards it. I really do hope it works out for you and you get to have your dream family soon. For now make sure you look after yourself and be extra kind to self. Sending lots of love xxxx

  • the door s nvr close n we go through different alternatives....thats grt that u hv thought positively...good u r kind to urself....tc of ur self dear Button....i hope one we wil reach our destination...

  • Hi button.

    So sorry to hear this. I admire your attitude and strength. Good luck in your next steps xx

  • Rubbish news but so glad to read you're feeling positive. Obviously a strong happy couple you're an inspiration to many xx

  • Really sorry to hear you got a BFN. I really hope you get a BFP with DE.

  • Sorry to hear that! Really hope this next phase gives you your BFP xxx

  • Aww button im sorry ๐Ÿ˜” Had to make the same decision but was comforting to know I'd tried a few cycles with my own first. Having had the failures it was easier to make the decision, am now 8 weeks with donor egg ๐Ÿ˜€ This journey is as much about taking opportunities as letting things go. Totally recommend Barcelona. Best of luck with your next steps, please keep us posted xx

  • Aw that's great news you must be so excited, did it work first time? Hope you don't mind me asking which clinic did you use? x

  • Hi button, yes so far so good it worked first time. I went to the Institute Marquez and they were very thorough, had more screening and drugs to tweak than before just to cover all bases. appointments were by Skype and my local clinic for scans etc to limit the number of trips.

    Sometimes I still struggle to get my head around the donor bit but then I remind myself I had no choice and this was an opportunity that not everyone has. Kind of a practical approach I suppose but you get to that point with this treatment when it feels like it's gone on forever and you just need a positive outcome!

    Best of luck with your next steps ๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€ please keep me posted xx

  • Aw thanks for that info and so pleased for you. I feel I have accepted using DE now as it's been in the background for a while, I am actually enough researching and hopefully putting things in place soon. Take care and keep in touch xxx

  • Thanks button, it's hard to get excited as experience has always been a positive turning negative, but hopefully I'll start to believe soon ๐Ÿ˜Š Using a donor was straightforward and there's a good supply in Europe so no delays there. I was in Barcelona only mid last month and here I am making midwife appointments! Take care and let me know how you get on xx

  • Sorry about the bfn Hun

    I think you did the right thing using the last of your own and not always having that niggle of what if after.

    Your so strong ๐Ÿ˜Š

    I can't wait to read about your bfp when you take that step with DE

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  • Thanks, I actually feel quite excited now x

  • Hey hon

    I had 3 fresh cycles all private funded, 3 miscarriages including eptopic resulting in loss of my left tube and blocked right tube gave in and went for donor eggs on round 4 worked for us but sadly lost him at 17 weeks.

    So just want to say donor does work and I was 41 at the time, thinking about going back for his brother or sister or both xx

    Sorry for your BFN and hope you get your wish Xx

  • Thanks Tam xx

  • Hi button sorry to hear this x I haven't started my 3rd cycle yet as they found out I had high immunes so I'm just about to take the drug that brings them down for between 4 and 6 weeks x and then cycle x

    Please do let us all know how you get on with donor eggs !

  • Sorry to hear you have had a delay, but good they found it and it will hopefully put you in a better position when you start treatment again x

  • Sorry to hear about your bfn but glad to hear it's helped you be sure of your decision to try the DE route. Sometimes life has a funny way of helping us! Lots of luck and good wishes for what comes next x