We lost our baby at 17weeks

There are no words. I have no feeling only that my cervix opened and although baby was fine my body just wouldn't allow me this one precious thing.

Our journey has stopped here but to you all good luck x

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  • Awww tamtam1 im so sorry to hear this, life is so dam cruel , make sure you look after yourselfs.

    Sending you hugs xx

  • Oh no!!!!! I'm so so sorry...words cannot express my thoughts. Please don't blame yourself, you haven't done anything wrong. You have loved your baby more in its 17 weeks then some cruel people do in their whole child's life. It not fair!!

    Take care X

  • Much love to you TamTam. Don't blame yourself xx

  • I'm at loss for words. Devastated for you both. Take good care of yourselves. Much love xx

  • Oh Tamtam I honestly don't know what to say, this is awful news to wake up to. Your world has shattered and for that I'm truly sorry. Sending you massive hugs. I can't believe life can be so cruel x x x

  • I'm so so sorry, I know words cannot help at this time. Love to you both and take care xx

  • Aw Tamtam I am thinking of you both at this sad time, life is so cruel. Look after yourself xxxx

  • So sorry tamtam xxxxx

  • I'm so sorry to hear this. I know you've been through a lot to get the BFP and this seems so cruel. Sending you much love.

  • Oh Tamtam πŸ˜–

    I just can't believe it, I'm so so sorry for you both.

  • Really sorry to hear that hope you guys recover from this loss asap . Look after yourselves hope this difficult time will pass soon

  • Oh tam tam I'm so so sorry, absolutely heartbreaking. Massive hugs xxx

  • Aww tamtam πŸ˜– I am so sorry to hear your sad news, sending you both hugs. xx

  • Im absolutely devastated to hear about your loss Tamtam!

    Take care of each other! Loads of love and hugs!

  • Tam tam I am so so sorry. Look after each other. Lots and lots of love xxx

  • Oh My God. I have been following your posts Tamtam. This is beyond devastating for you both . I know saying sorry to you is only words but you know everyone reading your post feels so very upset for you , but the shock of this pet will take a long time for you to recover from . Please please don't blame yourself but it just wasn't meant to be . I have been through all the cruelty of Ivf with no baby and reading your post this morning brings back all those heartbroken feelings . Take care of each other , I am so sorry , lots of love to you both xxx

  • So so sorry for your loss Tamtam... Thinking of u at this awful time. *hugs*


  • Oh TamTam I'm so so sorry to read this, sending huge hugs to you πŸ˜” Xxx

  • Awww hun I don't even no what to say😒why is life so cruel took alot for you get up wee miracle baby for it to be took thats so unfair I can't even imagine what you both going through right now my thoughts and prays are with you, please look after yourself hun so so sorry πŸ™

  • Oh Tamtam, what devastating news. There are no words. So sorry for you both, take care of each other xxx

  • Oh TamTam, this breaks my heart to read, so tragic and so so unfair. My thoughts are with you both xx

  • I am so sorry to hear this tamtam. Life can be so terribly cruel. Take good care of yourself x

  • Aww tamtam I'm so sorry I don't even know what to say because I know nothing will make the pain any easier. Life is so unbelivably cruel and unfair sometimes and I have no idea why we have to suffer so much. Just know your in everyone's thoughts and prayers xxx

  • Aw, this is terrible news to wake up to. I wonder if they can find any reason for why it happened when everything seemed fine. That's so heartbreaking. Allow yourself some time to grieve from this. What a tough journey you've been on. I wish you all the best onwards.

  • Oh tamtam1 I don't know what to say. This is so awful!! I just logged on last night to check how you were, and now this! I miscarried at 16 weeks last year- I understand this unfathomable pain. Please please look after each other. All my love xxx

  • Totally devastated for you, life is so cruel, you have been through so much, thinking of you xx

  • Oh Hun I am so so sorry, life is so bloody cruel!!!! I really don't understand life anymore.. We lost our beautiful boy at 36 weeks 8 weeks ago after a IVF and years of TTC so like you he was our little miracle.. How the hell is it then fair that they get taken away from us?! I just don't understand.. I do know your pain right now and I wish I could do something to help X big hugs and I am so sorry for your loss xx

  • Thinking of you at this very sad time XXX

  • πŸ˜– this is dreadful. My heart breaks for you xxx

  • I am so so sorry, that is incredibly sad. Wish there was something I could do or say to help. Sending a hug xx

  • I'm so sorry to read this. Hugs x

  • I'm so truly sorry to hear of your devastating news! Look after yourselves!xx

  • So very sorry darling. When I was at this stage twin 1 had gone and twin 2 was on his way out. I do understand how you're feeling. I felt nothing for a long time. When you are ready please consider the miscarriage association website, they are a fantastic group. There is also a Facebook group for bereavementuk, they have been my lifeline since my husband died and we have several bereaved parents. You can pm me anytime if you just want someone to listen. Take care darling, may the angels watch over you both xxxx

  • Hi Tamtam1. So sorry to hear this, and there's nothing I can say to ease your pain. I suffered a similar fate many years ago, and you will always remember, but it does ease with time. Just wanted to wish you both peace as you somehow begin to recover. Diane

  • There are no words.. My deepest condolences to both you and your partner Tamtam. No words will ease your pain. Your in my thoughts.. Such devastating news xxx

  • so sorry to hear this Tamtam1 look after yourselves xx

  • Absolutely devastated for you. Thinking of you xxxxx

  • Truly sorry to hear your sad news. There is no justice. I hope you find the strength you need to get you through this time. You're in my thoughts. Xx

  • Sending you both all my love. I'm so sorry for your loss. I feel numb at hearing this news and just do not have the words. Please know we are all thinking of you xxx

  • Aww Tamtam1 I am so sorry for your loss, my heart sunk reading this 😒 and I can't begin to understand how you are feeling..we are all here if you need a chat lovely but do not blame yourself. Stay as strong as you can be.. Xxx

  • I am so sorry to hear this Tamtam. Please look after yourself. Sending you loads of love and comfort xxx

  • Oh I am so so sorry. I have reading your posts since you went to Greece and I am horrified that this has happened to you. Any miscarriage is traumatic and sad but after IVF it seems particular cruel. I know others have said it here- there is no answer but time will soothe the wound a little. I still grieve the loss of my twins and it will be 2 years in September. I am just so so sorry. X

  • I'm so sorry for your loss! Crying for you as I write this because I know how it feels to lose your pregnancy in the first trimester and I can't imagine how it feels to have got to 17weeks and then miscarry.

    There aren't any words sometimes. I hope you find comfort in being with the people you love. Take each day at a time.

    Lots of love and strength to you xxx

  • So very sorry to hear this, TamTam. I can't believe it, I just have no words. Look after yourself and your partner, take time to grieve and heal. x

  • Tamtam, I read the title of your post and my heart broke in two for you and yout partner. The devastation you both must be feeling is incomprehensible. Life is so bloody cruel and damn unfair!!!! I know there are no words to help you at the minute but please know that you are in my thoughts. Take care xxxx

  • I am so sad to read this I'm so sorry for your loss!! Thoughts are with you at this time!! Lots of love and hugs xxx

  • So sorry Tamtam1 words fail me! Grieve as much as you need to & eventually heal. My thoughts & prayers are with you both at this trying time x

  • My heart breaks for you, I am so so sorry xx

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