After years TTC , a MMC and a Chemical pregnancy , our 3rd embryo transfer has given us a viable pregnancy at 11 weeks today
I have been terrified of another missed miscarriage since we got our BFP, to my relief today’s scan went well and I am starting to believe this may be our time .
I guess I’m just looking for advice / reassurance from ladies who have been in my position , can I start to relax a little bit now ?
I am so grateful to be in this position but I feel like I’m holding back because I am so scared of something going wrong again
Thank you all x
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Congratulations & lovely picture! We're all a bit different and if you feel you can relax then that's the main thing. I personally have been a nervous wreck throughout my pregnancy, I'm not saying I havent calmed down a little as I've hit important milestones but I think when you've suffered loss and tried so hard for a baby it's hard to make that anxiety to go away. I hope you can relax a little more as time goes by, wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy.xx
Thank you ! Congratulations with your pregnancy , it’s really hard isn’t it , how far along are you now ? I’m trying really hard to stay away from google as I can become a bit obsessed with forums which often don’t reassure me at all 🙈🙈 I’m glad it’s not just me that struggles with the worries xxx
I've got just under 3 wks till they're here! I've seen loads of success stories on here so there is no reason to think it cant happen but it's still difficult to believe!! You're definitely not the only one that struggles, it's fair common for us IVF ladies!! Hopefully the support here will be good for reassurance as we understand how it feels. There is also another forum on here called baby and us that some of us have moved over to after pregnancy so we arent posting stuff here that might be sensitive to others.xx
Thank you for the tip about the other group I will definitely look at that ! That is amazing not long for you now 🙏🏼 I don’t know what I would have done over the last 4 years without support from people on forums like this xxx
I don't have any advice as I'm only just ahead of you, but just wanted to say congratulations and I'm keeping everything crossed that this is your time 😘 xx
Ah sorry your feeling poorly ! That’s deffo a great sign though ! I have few and far between symptoms very gassy and bunged up 🤦🏼♀️ And sore boobs but not a lot else , which did worry me but feeling a bit better now I’ve had this scan xx
Congratulations 👏🏻 and just wanted to say what a cute picture 🥰🥰🤗🤗
Congratulations ♡ I totally understand what you mean. For me i couldn't relax a bit until i had my 20 week scan. I kept worrying. I had a very easy pregnancy which i know i was super lucky but it actually made me panic more as was completly symtom free until 14 weeks. I hear people saying they have sore boobs, feel sick, get pains etc and i had nothing so was panicking that something was wrong. I think IVF can take the excitment away from pregnancy. However all was well and we had a wee girl in november from a FET
This is SO relatable !! This is part of the reason I am so worried , the mild symptoms I had were few and far between and they have now tapered off which adds to my worry ! Thank you for replying this makes me feel so much better ! Congratulations xxx
Congratulations! What an amazing photo 😁 I can’t wait to hopefully get the that milestone, I am currently 7 weeks, similar to you I’ve had 2MMC’s and 1 chemical previously so I’m just an absolute nervous wreck atm. I’m hoping it gets a little easier as we reach those important milestones. Someone gave me advice of trying to live in the moment, saying ‘today I am pregnant’ so I’m trying to do that as much as possible! Best of luck xx
Oh congratulations ! It’s such a nervous time , that advice is really helpful thank you I might write it on a little post it on my mirror so I can look every day , everything crossed for you ! Xxx
Massive congratulations to you!!! I'm so pleased for you!! I think I've started to relax a bit more now, currently 21 weeks, but I get nervous for the scans each time they come up. I think the whole journey of infertility does change your mindset and so just because we get the positive test and little baby growing inside of us doesn't take away all of what we've been through to get here, and I don't think the way our brains have been trained to deal with things adjusts quickly. So it may take a bit of time to relax, I'm just trying to enjoy all of the moments where I can, enjoy looking for maternity clothes, working out of you can feel the kicking yet, growing bump etc. They help me for sure.
Wishing you the very best of luck with your bundle of joy 💞💞
Congratulations ! I’m glad you have started to relax a bit more , I definitely feel lighter after yesterday which is great but I’m sure this will only last for a few days , I need to work on trying to keep my worries at arms length , because I am so grateful to be even this far 💕 thank you and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xx
Thank you 💗 I'd definitely reccomend booking in some private scans in-between the NHS scans, they're really reassuring and always nice to see buba wriggling around 💞 xxx
The clinic I went to yesterday was great so I’ve booked a 16 week one as they are so busy ! We have our NHS one on 14th so not long to wait for that at least 🤞🏻💕 you can’t put a price on the reassurance can you ! Xxx
Congratulations LozTC!!! I wish you all luck for your pregnancy. I just passed the 20week mark and just started to relax a bit as I had some worries along the ways, so just announced yesterday to friends and family. Take all the time you need anf enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can even if you worry at times . You and the baby have made it so far and no doubt you will have your bundle of joy in your arms soon!! Happy Eastern and again congratulations.
Thank your and congratulations !! Have you managed to hide your bump ok up until the 20 week mark ? I’m looking quite a bit rounder already ( mostly bloating 😹) and that is what I’m finding tricky at work as I’m usually a fitness fanatic too , I just don’t know when I will be ready to tell people as then I will be letting myself feel like it’s going to be ok , my husband is very excited and optimistic which is great but I do struggle with it a bit xxx happy Easter 🙏🏼💕
Thank you! Yes, was able to hide my tummy until last week, as I have luckily been able to work from home, hence no one in the family was aware other than my two sisters. My friends were worried and have been pestering me to meet up and I had to find some excuses!!! You will know when you are ready and comfortable to let everyone know, you take it easy and don’t pressure yourself to have to tell anyone. I waited as I wanted to announce after week 20 and luckily it was around Eastern and so I have literary become the Easter bunny 🤣🤣🤣I have not felt anything after I stopped all my ivf medications on week 12 and all bloating was gone, so I was always nervous and count the days until next appointment & scan.... but my sisters have become my support system and they are excited as much as your husband is and I let myself carry on on their positive vibes and cheerfulness. I pray the waves of your husband’s excitement can also wash over you and help you relax a bit and enjoy your pregnancy!!!!
Ah lovely that is one advantage of being able to work from home isn’t it ! What perfect timing with Easter 🐰🐰 it sounds like you have a great relationship and support system with your sisters 💕 I am feeling much calmer about things today after speaking to my sister yesterday and having all the support on here ! Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy xxx
I am 4 weeks behind you so sadly I don’t have any advice, but I can relate to the anxiousness of it all! Massive congratulations though and that scan picture 😍 xx
I had a still born, miscarriage of twins and a failed frozen embie cycle and I now have a beautiful 2yr old boy. If you’re anything like me you won’t stop worrying about it until they’re in your arms and then the real worry starts. Just relax as much as you can and enjoy your pregnancy, it really is a very special time and will regret missing it if you panic the whole time.Congratulations xx
I think it’s totally normal to feel anxious still. I know with my first ivf pregnancy I never fully relaxed but that’s not to say I didn’t enjoy my pregnancy I just always had feeling in the back of my mind something could go wrong right up until he was born. Now I am pregnant after another successful FET. 11 weeks tomorrow and still a nervous wreck second time round. I’m hoping I will relax a little after 12 week scan but I think it’s just normal. Especially if you have been trying for a long time. Xx
Oh wow congratulations ! We have been Trying for just over 4 years now so it’s been a long time coming , thank you for replying and good luck with the rest of this pregnancy 🙏🏼💕 x
This is a lovely post - huge congratulations on reaching this milestone! I’m 11+4 today and I’m excited but also worried as hell for my 12wk scan next week as I had a big bleed just before 9wks. I’m *hoping* 🙏 things are still ok and it’ll get easier. Be nice if we could enjoy pregnancy after this ivf malarkey eh?! Xx
Thank you and congratulations ! Oh wow we are more or less Bob on the same dates 💕💕🌈 so sorry about your bleed I had a few smaller ones 5/8 weeks so bloody stressful ! My 12 week scan is next Wednesday when is yours ? 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Xx
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