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It really is all over now... 😢

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Yesterday I woke up with really bad period pains which continued all day, and are still going on now. OTD is Friday and I told myself if there was no blood before then, I’d wait before testing. Then the brown spotting started last night so I’ve done a test this morning and as expected, a BFN. Second fresh round has failed. I’m 13DP3DT so the result isn’t going to change in 2 days. My husband hasn’t taken it well, he had been praying to his mum who died a few years ago (we’re not religious but that was a big deal for him) and now he’s hurt and angry. We had 2 little embryos put in and they wouldn’t hang on for us. I just feel so numb.

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Cally_uk

It’s so so hard, be kind to yourself & each other so sorry

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Emma672 in reply to Cally_uk

Thank you for your thoughts ❤️

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Jess1981

I'm really sorry. I had period plain and pink spotting the day before I tested and it was a positive. Implantation can cause cramping like period and cause pink/brown spotting. It can feel like your period is coming. I really hope your test is positive come Friday ☝🏻Xx

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Emma672 in reply to Jess1981

Thank you Jess. Can I ask how many days post transfer you tested? I can’t see this being implantation for me at this late stage x

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Jess1981 in reply to Emma672

I wasn't ivf I was trying. I was 12 days post ovulation using a first response early test and a clear blue digital for complete accuracy. Both tests took 3 minutes to show up as it' very early to test. I honestly thought my period was coming and I almost didn't test as I was that convinced my period had to be coming. Implantation happens around the time of expected period which is why sometimes it can be mistaken for a period ( im not sure how it works with ivf) I do know it can take around 3 days from implantation to show positive on a pregnancy test. I hope it's just a later implanter it's not an exact science. I have heard of ladies testing negative day before test day then getting a positive test on OTD and having a successful pregnancy! Anything is possible. Providing it's just spotting you aren't out yet. Good luck for Friday I hope you get a pleasant surprise like I did! Xx

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Miracle43

I’m so sorry you both are going through this 😢. I hope is that’s it’s implantation 🤞🏻 It can change in two days xx

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Emma672 in reply to Miracle43

Thank you, that’s really kind. I’m dubious it’s implantation this late but I’ll repeat the test on Friday anyway, I know the clinic will tell me to anyway when the nurse calls back later today. I’ve just had a look on your profile as you were thoughtful enough to reply to my message yesterday too - you’ve been through such a tough time, I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope it turns out well for you and you get your little miracle xx

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Miracle43 in reply to Emma672

Miracles do and can happen 💖. It’s so hard to keep positive and have hope.

I know you are spotting but there’s still hope 🤞🏻.

When I conceived last year I had what I thought was a full period. I was a couple of days early, I even had a baseline scan and ivf started injections only to find out I was pregnant days later.

We even saw the heartbeat, unfortunately it wasn’t meant to be.

Our bodies work in mysterious ways. I’m here if i can help. Thank you so much so your kind words 💖 xx

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XOXO13

I’m so sorry 💔

It really sucks when it doesn’t turn out the way you had hoped, and the negative doesn’t get any easier. Like the other ladies say, hopefully it’s not too late and your OTD brings brighter news. But if it doesn’t, look after yourself and be gentle. Sending lots of strength ♥️ Xx

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Emma672 in reply to XOXO13

Thank you for getting in touch. Unfortunately I spoke with the clinic today and they agreed it’s over so no need to wait until Friday to test again. It’s so weird, I haven’t even cried yet, am just sitting staring into space mostly. I know it will pass, but it’s hard. Wishing you all the best for your round this month 🤞❤️

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XOXO13 in reply to Emma672

Ow I’m so sorry, it really sucks. Take your time to grieve and look after yourself. Give yourself some love and treats ♥️♥️

And thank you 🤍 xx

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CarolN2020

Soo sorry to hear sending big hugs to both of ye xxx

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