Best friend pregnancy announcement

[Melonay1987]

So, my Best friend has just announced shes pregnant. I'm so happy for her but part of me is upset. I've waited 2 years to have our first IVF appointment, im due to start in January and everything has literally been an anxious waiting game. I really hope I dont sound awful saying its upset me, I just need to express my feelings and know you guys will get it

Xxx

[Hidden]

It's like drinking cocktails as in one hand of course you are glad for her and wouldn't wish her ill but in the other hand you wish it was you as well and it's normal to feel jealous when someone else gets pregnant as it shows its something you want for yourself but can't have at this time.

[Melonay1987 in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely, im glad someone understands. I hate these feelings but so glad I can share them on here xxx

[Hidden in reply to Melonay1987]

Thats it you don't sit at home planning to have ill feelings towards anyone they come and find you!

[Melonay1987 in reply to Hidden]

So true. I'm also so frightened that the new lockdown end of dec/beg Jan is going to stop our treatment such a roller coaster!

[Peanutchips]

Oh lovely, I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with this. I think it’s the most normal reaction in the world though. Don’t feel bad for how you feel. You’ve been trying for 2 years and it came so easily to your friend. It is unfair and it is tough. I’ve been through the same with friend’s announcing pregnancies, even twins, in the time we’ve been trying. Whilst I feel happy for them, I usually have a little cry for myself and my partner behind closed doors. I think it’s all these mini challenges that make us all strong warriors / people at the end of it. It’s great that you’re able to start IVF soon and hopefully your good news it just around the corner xxx

[Melonay1987 in reply to Peanutchips]

Thank you for understanding, glad I'm not the only one. I'm hoping soon enough it will be me announcing my good news. Good luck on your journey my lovely xxx

[XOXO13]

Ow.. don’t feel bad for being upset.

When my bestfriend told me she’d fallen pregnant with twins after just a month of trying, I cried in bed for two days. I’d just lost our first baby after years of trying. It didn’t seem fair.

She gave birth last week, shortly after the failure of my first IVF cycle. I cried again.

I haven’t been able to chat to her about baby things, and the sad thing is I always thought we’d have our babies together and be able to share this.

I explained to her in the beginning that this is too raw for me and whilst I’m happy for her, I’m hurting for me and my husband and there will be times that I need to take a step back to look after myself.

She totally got that.

I’m sure if you told your friend that you’re happy for her but hurting for you, that two two feelings can coexist, she’d understand.

Take care of yourself.

Big hugs and love. Xxx

[Melonay1987 in reply to XOXO13]

Ah my lovely im so sorry to hear this. Its so tough isn't it. I wish life could be a bit more fair. Wishing you all the luck on your journey. Lots of love xxx

[Hidden]

Hi, this happened to me my best friend got pregnant whilst I was starting ivf, on both cycles, I have never had a transfer this is our 3rd time and I'm due to transfer first week in January, allow your self to feel these emotions for a short while, then think about only yourself and what makes you feel good sending lots of baby dust ❤️❤️

[Melonay1987 in reply to Hidden]

Aww I'm sorry to hear this :(. It sucks. I shall definitely allow myself to feel the feelings, I had a good chat with my partner about it all last night which really helped.

Good luck on your journey xxx