Hi everyone, feeling a little down today tbh. I had another egg collection on Friday. My Doctor couldn’t do the procedure and I ended up with a Doctor who I wasn’t very confident about. (Had no choice but to proceed with him)
I felt so uneasy about the whole thing and my gut told me this wasn’t going to be a positive experience. My gut was right. To start off with, he administered 3 syringes of sedative which I thought was a lot. I was out cold within 5 secs from the 3rd one put in. When I woke up, I was nauseous, very groggy and attached to a drip. No explanation for this. (Didn’t happen the last times) Then the Doctor came in and told me we got 2 good eggs, the others were too small. So I went home, slept all day, felt so awful, cramps and sick.
The next day, I got a call to say the two hadn’t fertilised. I found this strange as every other time they did. I was devastated to say the least. Now I’m just wondering should I give up? I found this whole experience very upsetting. I so desperately want to have a baby but this has set me back a lot.
Any thoughts would be so grateful xx
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Firstly your experiance you went through is not normal and not okay that sounds horrendous no wonder you are worrying and don’t want to continue
My gut advice would be find another clinic one who will actually take the time to listen to you and appreciate it’s not an easy thing to do in the first place.
I’m sorry your embryos didn’t make it but please don’t give up.
My clinic (abroad) were fantastic and they would never over sedate someone.
Please look into somewhere else for your own sanity you can do this you just need the right support.
I'm so sorry to hear this - what an awful experience for you. I had similar feelings with my previous clinic. I woke up during my egg collection from sedation and it is a little blurry but it was so painful and frightening and no one explained to me what or why that had happened afterwards. I struggled to walk out of the clinic hours later and felt dreadful for days.
I would echo the other reply on here and see if you have any options clinic wise. Its really important for all aspects of your health that you feel you are in safe hands and cared for.
Although it was a difficult decision we moved clinic and it was the best thing we did. I look back and really regret the time wasted with that initial clinic. I think some clinics suit some people more that others.
Sending you lots of hugs and strength, hang on in there xxx
I'm so sorry you had a bad experience like this! I would say to definitely change clinics if that is in any way an option for you. We changed last month after the first clinic messed up and it was really worth it. I had general anesthesia and it was a fairly pleasant experience (I mean now I'm on painkillers, but post-procedure was very floaty), so something definitely seems not right in what happened to you. I was completely ready to give up even a week ago because I was so stressed and I had been told my chances were so low, but now things are looking up. I hope they look up for you too soon! xx
I do know what you are going through. My regular Doctor left the clinic altogether and didn't even warn me. I had to start over with someone I didn't know and who I had no confidence with. I thought I had messed up my chances because I carried on with a Doctor that I knew nothing about. Turns out she was a wonderful Doctor who was very experienced and lovely. I made sure she did all my frozen embryo transfers! She did not however collect my eggs. That was another Doctor that I had never met in my life. I had to just think to myself that everyone is qualified and know what they are doing! I guess my advice for you would be to try and get Doctors that you are comfortable with to do your procedures but accept that sometimes it is impossible to have the one you want. I know that feeling of being just uncomfortable with certain Doctors so I informed the clinic that I would where possible appreciate continuity of care with the same Doctor.
If I really didn't feel confident with the replacement Doctor I would make sure I didn't get an appointment with them ever again! I have been in tears over this and I know how hard it can be to just not have that same face doing your procedures. But now I have a wonderful 8 month old baby and came through the other side. I really hope that for you too! So don't give up! You can only control what you can but you can't control everything. I learnt that the hard way and was very upset many times when things didn't go to plan.
Maybe have a chat with your regular Doctor that you like and talk through why your eggs didn't fertilise and what they can try or do differently with your treatment plan. I really wish you the best of luck! Take a little break, be kind to yourself and when and if you are ready to start again, you go for it! Take care and all the best.
Hi Jrss. So, so sorry you had such a traumatic experience of a cycle that should have been easier to cope with. Never perfeoct, but I am astonished that you needed so much sedation. I would always give you standard sedation, then top it up if needed. Best to have you knowing what is going on, even though you would be sleepy, but manageable, if you get what I mean. Perhaps time to seek another clinic, as I feel you wouldn't be comfortable going there again. Perhaps have a little rest, do some homework and go somewhere else - my thoughts. Of course the end result could be the same, but leading up to that should be a far more manageable experience Thinking of you. Diane.
Hi Diane, what would be the standard sedation? I would have thought just one syringe? I just thought not to argue with him when I was in the chair all prepped by the nurse and ready to start. You are very vulnerable in this position 😟
Hi Jrss. Yes, just the one, unless he was giving you something els?? If you're not sedated enough after half an hour, then you can have a tp up. Obviously clinics work differently, but would be worth enquiring as to what you had. Diane
I will, thank you. Tbh, I’m so upset and angry at the same time, I don’t really want to speak to them. The Doctor should have rang me and explained what happened, but nothing!
I’m just wondering are most clinics just money making factories or can they be trusted? I love hearing all the lovely stories on this group but is it just luck at the end of the day?
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