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On my third transfer I got my first BFP but unfortunately at 5 weeks 3 days I started spotting/bleeding. I rang my clinic and they saw me straight away and gave me lubion injection and said to continue with my meds and add the lubion once a day.

It stopped the bleeding overnight but then I had more spotting in the morning, now bright red with clots 😥 I rang my clinic and she said there's nothing further they can do, just carry on with the meds and ring them if I get heavy bleeding or cramping. Now the bleeding has stopped again but last night I had period pains from 3am onwards. I just feel like my period is trying to start and the only thing preventing it is the progesterone. It's still another 10 days until my scan and I'm finding it so difficult because when my period stops I get my hopes up but then I get period pains/spotting and I get so upset. My husband thinks this is really bad for me and the chances of pregnancy now are so low that we should consider stopping. Even though I agree with him I feel too guilty to stop trying. It's really taking its toll on me though... 3 x cyclogest a day, 1 x progynova, 1 x lubion. It's not like you can even put it to the back of your mind!

I wish there was a way of knowing for sure that it's okay to stop. I actually just want a heavy period to start so I can move on but obviously the medication is stopping it.

This is basically just a rant but if anyone can give me any advice I'd really appreciate it.

I'm okay about the miscarriage now it's just this horrible limbo that I'm in and feeling ill that's getting to me.

I'm so glad this community exists xxx

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CLDxxx

So sorry lovely. This is so difficult as it is & I completely understand how you want to move on with it but feel so torn 😢

Could you possibly have a blood test to check your levels as if they have dropped, that might help you make a decision without waiting for a scan?

Thinking of you and sending so much love 💕

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to CLDxxx

Thanks hun, yeah I was thinking I could ask for bloods 48hrs apart as I've heard some ladies talk about that on here. My clinic didn't suggest it but think I can keep going until Monday and call the clinic then and suggest trying this. It's just too difficult all this waiting when I know really that it's not going to have a great outcome 😔 Xx

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CLDxxx in reply to Keepingfaith85

😔 I had mine done at my EPU so consider that as an option too hun. Might be worth calling them as you could then be having second bloods Monday rather than having to wait till Wednesday for second lot xxx

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to CLDxxx

Just looked at my local EPU and they would see me from 6 weeks which would be Monday. I could get a referral for a scan from my GP potentially although I'm not having heavy bleeding or cramping yet so they may not class me as urgent. Blood test might be best still x x x

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CLDxxx in reply to Keepingfaith85

I think blood test will be the best thing as when I had a scan at the same time you’re at I still needed the test too as it was too early to see anything on scan.

I didn’t have heavy bleeding either or pain, just light spotting and they still saw me xxx

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Jenjen84

So sorry this is happening to you. I bled heavily, everyday from 6-14 weeks in my pregnancy and my baby boys asleep on me now. I had period like pains too which I think was the uterus stretching. I was terrified everyday but it turned out ion in the end. I wouldn’t stop anything yet. Perhaps see about getting hcg checked? If it’s doubling over 48 hours that’s a good sign. Sending lots of positive vibes xx

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to Jenjen84

Thanks so much for your reply, that gives me some hope. I'm so happy your story had such a happy ending! You must have been terrified though. Did they give you an early scan?

Yes, I think blood tests 48hrs apart is the best way to go so I will speak to my clinic about that 😊 Xx

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Jenjen84 in reply to Keepingfaith85

I was with my local EPU and got scanned every 2 weeks. It was pretty scary, the entire pregnancy which was a short one as my boy was born at 28 weeks was a rollercoaster but his here.

Bleeding is very worrisome but what I found out, is more common than we perhaps think in early pregnancy. I would maybe call the EPU to see if they will see you and scan you if your clinic won’t xx

I’m really sorry to hear this, I hope you get reassuring news soon. Look after yourself hun xx

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L400ynd

Oh my darling. I had tears reading this. You are going thru the mill.

I want you to have faith tho. Your user name is keeping faith and I think you need to do that!!

Spotting in early pregnancy can happen please listen to the professionals and continue to take the medication. You never know. Everything might be ok. Can you go to the early pregnancy unit and ask for a scan?

Sending you lots of love. xxxxx

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to L400ynd

Thank you for your empathy and understanding. I would be 6 weeks on Monday so I could possibly be seen by EPU then if I get GP referral. My clinic think it's too early for a scan and to continue with medication so I will do that but think I need either blood tests or a scan just so I'm not waiting quite so long.

Yes when I set this up there was a tv programme on called keeping faith and I thought it sounded nice and optimistic and would remind me to try and stay positive so I will keep a bit of hope xx

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L400ynd in reply to Keepingfaith85

My sister got a scan at the early pregnancy unit at 5 weeks to check on the baby cos she had spotting and cramps. Her doctor sent her up. Phone docs on Monday, get an emergency appt and ask him to refer you up there. They can phone and get you seen that day.

You need peace of mind my love. Don’t take no for an answer!

Lots of love and cuddles. I wish you all the very best. Xxxxx

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Littlepeax in reply to L400ynd

Agree ♥️ so horrible what you are going through they shouldn't make you wait one more minute then you have to 😔 xxx

So sorry you are going through this, I wish I knew what to say to make all the stress go away. Do whatever you need to do to make it better and be kind to yourself. Sending you loads of love

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Littlepeax

Thinking of you Keepingfaith

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FrancyItaly

I’m sorry about this but it’s not over yet! Keep believing until the end. I hope you’ll get a positive outcome 💕

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ttcemmie

I'm sorry you're going through all this. The not knowing and ups and downs are the worst part of all of this, especially the limbo periods. I imagine your husband is honestly just trying to protect you and make you feel better, but it's not like it's something you can just put to the back of your mind! Really sending you all my love. xxxx

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Tiddly1984

Hi, please don’t stop the medicine just yet, it could make all the difference to an outcome which may yet to be determined. I would definitely agree with blood tests. My local EPU scanned me and did bloods at 4 or 5 weeks so hopefully you get some clarity soon. Best of luck...x

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to Tiddly1984

Thank you, I am definitely carrying on with medication just in case xx

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