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Hey! So I had my implantation yesterday, I was actually less anxious about it then I thought I’d be however now I seem to be super anxious.

I didn’t sleep much and I’m anxious about that, I want to do everything right to give the embryo the best chance at sticking. Anyone got any tips on how to deal with the anxiety and also any tips to give me a better chance? This is our first time.

I need all the baby dust I can get 😂🤞🏽🤞🏽

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Keepingfaith85 profile image
Keepingfaith85

Hi hun, everyone feels just like you do after transfer it completely normal to feel anxious don't worry 😘

One thing that really helped me was listening to the '2ww' (two week wait) section of the mindful ivf app. Worth downloading if you haven't already as it gives you relaxing breathing exercises to do each day and just generally makes you feel more positive and calm.

I'm sure you've been told this but avoid hot baths, heavy lifting or exercise that gets you out of breathe. Other than that you can do as much or as little as you want. I personally watched a lot of Netflix 😂

I found drinking hot drinks (decaf only) helped me feel relaxed and hydrated.

There is so much that is out of our hands so just try to relax and enjoy being PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) for as long as possible.

Good luck, sending baby dust your way 🍀💕 xxxx

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Danniss in reply to Keepingfaith85

Thanks so much, I will definitely download that. I am for sure over thinking things I think because this morning I dragged the bins to the curb and was like oooh they were heavy.

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Nix321

Good luck! Fingers crossed!

I read somewhere about keeping your feet warm, so I now I have socks on even in bed (no idea if it’s helped but I’m 7 weeks today pregnant).

I also read about eating pineapple so being doing smoothies with this every other day - also don’t know it it’s helped but I feel like I’m doing something.

Are you taking any progesterone?

I tried to keep myself busy, seeing friends and going out with my husband to try preoccupy myself.

Good luck

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Danniss in reply to Nix321

I also read about the warm feet, I have fluffy socks and slippers on stand by.

I read about eating pineapple core and brazil nuts so I have been doing that.

Yeah I'm taking progesterone too, I think I just need to chill out a bit lol.

Congrats on your pregnancy.

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ttcemmie

Oh god the 2ww; an awfully awfully anxious time. Keep yourself busy and treat yourself! Tips for better chances - keep hydrated and get enough sleep. Lots of love. xxx

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Danniss in reply to ttcemmie

The sleep part seems difficult, I keep waking at 3am for a few hours, typical me.

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ttcemmie in reply to Danniss

Clearly you're getting enough sleep if your body is waking you at 3am! 😉 Basically, just saying try not to worry x

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amandac84

Hello lovely first of all good luck - echo what the ladies said below. It’s an anxious time but try and find some peace in not doing much, I’ve read books in the quiet, baked a cake, cooked, watched Netflix and made sure I had a gentle walk every day. There’s not too much you can do so just try and enjoy any downtime you have xx

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Danniss in reply to amandac84

Thanks a lot, I may watch everything on netflix by the time this is over. I got called back into the clinic because of low progesterone so day two has not been that chilled.

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BettyBe

Awww good luck 🌺✨ I’m 7 days post transfer and have felt positive some moments and completely bonkers and negative the next.

I kept trawling google for info about any tiny sign or twinge which doesn’t help. I’ve since convinced myself several times that I’ve messed everything up - I put the heated seats on in the car, I sat down too hard on a hard surface and another day I had an argument 😕 I think it’s human nature to want an answer or to blame something. I really hope I haven’t ruined my chances though!!

I read that the egg is like a grain of sand in a peanut butter sandwich, this was a nice vision and helped me! My sonographer told me it’s all a matter of a) will it implant and the body is responsive and b) does the egg have the full genetic material to keep growing and evolving properly even if it’s a perfect looking egg ... and that’s it. So I’m trying to stay positive and that it’s out of my hands.

Relax and try and keep your mind occupied. I found the days I’ve been busy or watched something funny have flown by and the other days I’m not busy just drag... sending you lots of luck 🌺

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Keepingfaith85 in reply to BettyBe

Hi BettyBe none of those things will have effected your chances. As long as you didn't put heat on your stomach you're fine 😂 I worried about the fact I'd eaten a takeaway curry, not eaten pineapple, put my robe on hot from the dryer but I got my first BFP xxx it's all out of hands

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BettyBe in reply to Keepingfaith85

Hi Keepingfaith85,

Thanks for your reply and congratulations on your BFP - yay!! ✨🥰 you must be over the moon! x

It’s a cruel 2 weeks as it feels like a year! I also feel completely helpless and bonkers whilst waiting. I’ve been calm and positive one minute and irrational and anxious the next. My husband has told me off for googling, so I’ve resorted to doing it when he’s not around or in bed whilst he’s sleeping 😂

I test Sunday from a 5 day FET so only a few more days... the mind is a delicate thing and it really is out of hands. So maybe Danniss, do the opposite of what I’ve advised, as it’s clearly not made my time calmer / easier! Good luck 😂🌺 xx

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Danniss in reply to BettyBe

Thank you. Yeah I like the grain of sand analogy, thats how I will think about it.

Wishing you luck also :)

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ttcemmie in reply to BettyBe

Totally out of your hands, BettyBe. Whilst that's reassuring, it's also one of the hardest parts! Because if it was in our hands we'd all get pregnant! Just to reassure you on the heated seats..... unless you're growing the baby in your butt and your heated seat was also burning you, you should be fine! 😁

It's only natural we try to find something to blame in our actions (1/probably society's fault somehow about us blaming ourselves 2/our own pressure on ourselves 3/trying to find a reason if it doesn't work), but it really is just up to nature. Lots of love xxx

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BettyBe in reply to ttcemmie

Thank you ttcemmie! It’s all logical what you’re saying but the rational mind takes a vacation over this period (well mine anyway). This wait is the worst, I feel out of control and I think that’s the stem of it like you said, we can’t control the outcome but it’s natural to blame ourselves, environment or any other factor we can grab in to. I now started to think the body heat from sleeping next to my husband at night might have an impact 😂 yes, I’m secretly going insane during this wait... just 2 more days til I find out and I already have an increased sense of fear and excitement mixed up together.

Thank you for the reassurance and your kind words. Sending you lots of love too, especially if you are going through the same ordeal 🥰 xx

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ttcemmie in reply to BettyBe

Rational mind takes a vacation over most of this journey! The wait is the worst, at every stage, but especially in the 2ww. Just try to remind yourself that not much you can do can have an impact. Crack addicts get pregnant for god's sake!

2 more days!!!! I have just started this round of IVF. 2ww not for another couple of weeks. Getting there.

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BettyBe in reply to ttcemmie

I know... crack heads, people in war torn countries and all walks of life! It’s a nutty time when you want something to work so desperately!

Best of luck to you!! Sending you lots of baby dust and best wishes that it all goes well ✨🌺 xx

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HemBella

I echo what everyone else says. And dont get too concerned over every twinge or looking for a sign of symptom. You end up googling all sorts of things looking for answers. Just try and be patient. Its the toughest time, take care of yourself and good luck!! xxx

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Danniss in reply to HemBella

Thanks, yeah I will for sure need to delete my google history after this lol

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Apato20

Hey Danniss, so here are my thoughts:

I am 6dp2dt today, I was a nervous wreck the entire weekend (straight after ET). I had a meltdown for drinking decaf tea that wasn’t organic, a meltdown cos I stretched and felt a pain, a meltdown cos I had an argument with the OH, a meltdown cos I lifted saucepans, where they too heavy? and I was googling EVERY little thing I did (and ate). I’ve also been full of cold.

Anyway I found this video (randomly from a nurse at a Las Vegas clinic) which really chilled me out and it basically says what BettyBe’s sonographer said that actually we don’t have a whole lot of influence over it, just be sensible, take it easy (don’t do heavy lifting or vigorous exercise) and try not to overthink every little thing (easier said than done I know...especially when you do or don’t get cramps etc). Somewhere else I found said that if all these things stopped implantation then the human race would be dwindling. I’ve also read about the peanut butter sandwich analogy.

I hope this puts your mind at ease somewhat, 6 days in and whilst I think I’m feeling fairly relaxed I’m also going from thinking ‘ohh this might have worked’ to ‘urgh I’ve done something wrong and it’s all over’....who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️ i think this is normal from everything I’ve read. Just try and relax and do some nice things whilst you wait around 😊

Good luck and Sending lots of love to everyone on the TWW 💫💫💫💫

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Apato20 in reply to Apato20

I am now sitting here wondering about my feet though as they are always cold. I think as long as your core is warm and not overheated this is fine (See Danniss, every little thing 😂🤦🏼‍♀️😬)

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Danniss in reply to Apato20

Don't I was googling how heavy is too heavy but I guess its all subjective. Thats what I keep telling myself, people who aren't trying to be particularly careful get pregnant all the time so if everything is in order then it will happen.

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Apato20 in reply to Danniss

Me too 😂 well apparently no heavier than 5kg...I had to pop out and pick up some supplies on Monday and as I was walking around the supermarket I wondered how heavy it all was...I actually got home and weighed it all 🤷🏼‍♀️😂🤦🏼‍♀️ I have chilled out a bit more now thank goodness 😅

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Apato20 in reply to Apato20

I thought I should quickly add (to avoid any panic) that there’s people doing this with little ones that they’ll be lifting etc so I’m sure 5kg isn’t anything other than a loose guide/suggestion I stumbled across!

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Danniss in reply to Apato20

Yeah, I lifted a door today that would have been more than 5 but then I remembered that Serena Williams trained for and won a grand slam whilst TTC and pregnant so me lifting what I’d typically deem easy should not make a difference 😬🤞🏽

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Cinderella5

No tips apart from to take it easy, gentle walks for fresh air. Try to keep your mind occupied, box sets, puzzles, jigsaws etc. Its hard not to think about it every single minute of the day but just go one day at a time. Good luck.xx

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Danniss in reply to Cinderella5

I may have to buy some puzzles or something.

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Hartley1

I bought a puzzle, cross stitch to do. Watching Netflix and bit of cooking and listening to heart 😂

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Danniss in reply to Hartley1

Oh the dulcet tones of Jamie and Amanda are enough to get me through most things 😂

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Hartley1 in reply to Danniss

Yup love them...but also love JK and Kelly-always make me laugh xx

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UnicornKisses

Hi, I did IVF yoga and listened to tww meditations off YouTube. I was in a constant state of stress and anxiety, constantly reading online & thinking about the “what if’s.” The meditation really did help me relax. I think with my next round I will be a little less stressed, having been through it already. I will keep my fingers crossed for you!

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Danniss in reply to UnicornKisses

I did look into yoga on youtube, I found a series specifically for the two week wait and I think I might give it a go tomorrow.

Thanks, I'll cross my fingers for your next round

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Purplewitch18

I had my first one last week, ive just kept busy and not really thought about it until today. It is really hard, but i dont think theres much you can do about it sticking, just have to hope for the best xx

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Danniss in reply to Purplewitch18

True, I feel like I want to try everything but it is ultimately out of my hands.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you :)

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Purplewitch18 in reply to Danniss

Thankyou, and mine for you xx

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