Dreaded call

[Kiki0]

Hi everyone

Had the call from the embryologist that my 1 fertilised egg didn’t make it to day 2. Absolutely gutted I was so optimistic that this cycle will be different and that despite my age (42) and low AMH and low AFC that I only need one. But not this time 😔

[MRSrob]

Hi, sorry to hear that. I know how that feels of hearing the heartbroken news that eggs didn’t fertilize. I’ve been there twice and never once my eggs got mature, and being fertilize is long gone. Low AMH only leads to donor eggs but some women do manage to use their own Eve with low AMH. It’s how their body reacts to the medication. Bless you dear! Don’t give up!! Don’t lose hope and you not alone.

[Picalilli99]

So sorry to hear this. It’s such a disappointment when you have to go through so much to reach this stage and then having nothing to transfer, I’m absolutely gutted for you. Sending big hugs xx

[Ariel2015]

I am so so sorry to hear that!! I am sending lots of love and hugs! Xxx

[Clover5]

I’m so sorry to hear this hun. It’s so unfair. Sending love and wishing 2020 brings all you ever dreamed of 💕🙏xX

[emmab178]

So sorry to hear this. Big hugs to you x

[Hopingforasign]

Hi

I'm so so sorry to hear this you must feel Devestated 😔 the ivf process is so hard to go through, then to get to this stage with none to transfer. It's so gutting.

Hopefully you do have another opportunity to try, though I completely understand if you don't want to contemplate that right now. Hope you have lots of support around you and you are kind to yourself ❤️❤️❤️💐💐💐

[Kiki0 in reply to Hopingforasign]

Thank you just trying to get past all the negative thoughts xx

[Hopingforasign in reply to Kiki0]

Of course, i can't imagine how you must feel. I have been through a round of ivf myself which unfortunately failed. But I did get a chance to transfer at least.

I had none to freeze and it was my only try for a full round. I remember feeling what was the point of it all. So I can only imagine how much harder it is for you. X

It did happen to a very close family member at the same time. They had 5 eggs collected none of which fertilised. It was devastating for them. I was so upset for them I did shed some private tears.

Hoping you feel a little better and heal soon 💖💖

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear that. I am also 42 and just had my first failed ivf cycle. Ivf is such an emotional rollercoaster. Have you taken any supplements to improve egg quality, such as DHEA and Coenzyme 10?

[Kiki0 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry to hear that too. You must feel like I do 😕 yes taking both just bought the book it all starts with the egg hoping that may give me some answers xx

[Hidden in reply to Kiki0]

Thanks! Yes, I totally understand how you feel. We need to take care of ourselves. Try to pamper yourself and do what makes you happy!

I would recommend the book.

I am sending you lots of good vibes for 2020. Happy New Year! Let's keep in touch! Xx

[SharlyWarly]

Oh I feel for you. I am also 42 with low AMH and on our last cycle in November I had 1 fertilise (been taking all the supplements under the sun). It made it to day two and we transferred but it ended in a chemical. I am still gutted now. I can't give you hope, just know that there are many others who really do know how you feel. They reckon at our age about 15% of our eggs are 'normal' so it takes a lot longer to find those ones, it's heartbreaking - though not impossible. Takes a lot of nerve and money(!) to keep going xx We are thinking about doing a tandem cycle (well if I can convince my partner) so you can try with your own eggs and a donor at the same time, I think it is the only option left for us.

[Kiki0 in reply to SharlyWarly]

Thank you for sharing I know it’s hard going but it does give me some solace that I’m not the only one. I’m hoping for that one good egg too xx let me know how you get on x

[SharlyWarly in reply to Kiki0]

Me too....it's hard to believe that I don't have any more good eggs in me and if I read one more time about how your fertility drops off a cliff once you get over 40 I think I might start a fire xx

[Sofi1]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I know how heartbreaking it is. I'm 41, my first ivf resulted in no eggs, the second was immature and didn't even make it to fertilisation. Take some time for yourself and be kind to yourself.

Don't give up and be positive, unfortunately you're not alone and there are some lovely people on the forum that will always support you no matter what.

I've recently spoken to a clinic that helps those with low amh and failed cycles. I've not yet gone through further treatment with them but planning to do so in the new year, the consultant seemed very knowledgeable and confident....happy to share those details when you are ready...as I say I've not been through it so cant say how it will be but feel confident to go to them.

Take care xx

[Kiki0]

Thank you appreciate your support. I’m not ready to give up at the first hurdle. If you don’t mind would you pass on the details of your clinic xx

[Flora14]

I'd be interested too for the details after 4 failed ivfs.I'm way down in Devon though.lol.thanks

[Sambab]

Aww bless you. This kind of happened to me too. I had one egg retrieved but it never fertilised. Devastated wasn't the word. I went to gp who told me to grieve. This was in October 2019.

I've come to terms with it not working and now I'm trying to come to terms that I'll never be a mum. I have more good days than bad but will get emotional when I see a pregnant person especially if I know them.

Take time to grieve your loss and take time out for yourself. Sending you love and hugs. Xx