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First Fresh Cycle BFN - Christmas gets harder each year

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Title says it all, didn’t even make it to OTD as started bleeding before. We just put our Christmas tree up and I burst into tears, each year I think - next time we put the tree up and celebrate Christmas I will have a baby or I will be pregnant 😥

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londonrc

Oh I’m so sorry Sunshine, it’s so hard doing a cycle around Xmas or ones birthday as it seems so much worse. I have been there and still might be again next week! It’s such a rollercoaster of emotions - your filled with so much hope and then it’s dashed. Be kind to yourself. Big hugs to you, and a huge glass of wine! Xxxx

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Sunshine_4 in reply to londonrc

Thank you, I had my transfer the day before my birthday and I was so happy and optimistic. I wish you so much luck with your cycle xxxx

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londonrc in reply to Sunshine_4

Thank you- look after yourself and if you have to cancel some arrangements as you can’t face them - then do - just tell people you are ill of you haven’t told them the truth - just do what you need to do and look after yourself and your partner. Then in 2020 hopefully you will be able to make your next plan. Xx

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ttcemmie

Sorry to hear this, Sunshine. It's an especially difficult time of year as, I agree, it's like a marker. Another Christmas. Allow yourself to wallow in this bad news if you need, and do whatever you need for yourself to get through this. Lots of love.

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Sunshine_4 in reply to ttcemmie

Thank you it is such a hard time of year, especially being around nieces and nephews, I am looking forward to the new year x

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Lots8788

Sorry to hear that Sunshine. Big hugs to you and be kind to yourself. I know what you mean about Christmas too and it just seems to highlight that we are not there just yet for another year. Take it easy xx you're not alone

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Sunshine_4 in reply to Lots8788

Thank you, hopefully next year 😘 x

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Kiedy84

Xmas is extremely difficult time, be kind to yourself as you are saying goodbye to this year xxx

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Sunshine_4 in reply to Kiedy84

Thank you for your kind words x

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KA2121

Oh sunshine, I'm so so sorry I’m in the same situation, heavy bleeding the day before OTD 😢 first Fresh cycle, so heartbreaking.

Sending all my love and hugs xxx

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Sunshine_4 in reply to KA2121

It’s just awful isn’t it, that feeling of dread when you see you are bleeding. I also feel upset that they didn’t really warn me about that, I thought the progesterone would have held it off. I’m so sorry you are going through this too x

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KA2121 in reply to Sunshine_4

Yeah I agree, I wasn’t warned either and thought the progesterone would hold it off, I guess we found out the hard way, it’s such a hard thing to go through def hit me harder than I expected and my OH too, so you have any frozen? Xx

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Sunshine_4 in reply to KA2121

It’s so hard, even though you know the chances of success are low you still get your hopes up. No we don’t have any frozen, do you? xx

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Skippy1982

I could have written this myself hun! It’s exactly how I feel and Christmas seems to highlight how much time has gone by and we feel like we are not getting anywhere. Stay strong and keep believing 💕💪🏻xx

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Sunshine_4 in reply to Skippy1982

Yes exactly, it’s so difficult. Hopefully the new year will be kind to us all x

I am so sorry to hear this! Try to relax over Xmas and pamper yourself. Wishing you lots of baby dust for the coming year!!! X

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Thank you, here’s hoping 2020 will be better x

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Yes, stay positive!!! X

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