When do I go for 2nd cycle?

[L400ynd]

Hi ladies. I was wondering if you could give me some opinions....

We had our first cycle in May of this year. It was a bit of a disaster. My daddy had just died unexpectedly but I still went ahead with the treatment cos he said he had a good feeling about it. I didn’t respond great to the menopur. I was on 150ml. The blood test showed I was doing good and I have good egg reserves apparently. My first scan they said they didn’t have a lot of follicles and gave me another 2 days. On my egg retrieval I only got 3 follicles, 2 with eggs but only one that was ready for icsi. It didn’t fertilise. I was obviously devastated.

They told me I had a suspected polyp so they wanted to remove it. It wasn’t a polyp but nothing sinister and got my results to say it’s all ok to start again.

I’m scared. I’m still grieving but I think I’ll always be because I was so close to my daddy. Should I just go for it or give myself a lil longer. My periods are back to normal. Regular and I’m 35 so I’m worried about my egg quality deteriorating.

What should I do ladies? Please help me decide. My husband just says whatever I want to do.

Xxx

[Zebedee1971]

Hey!

We had our 1st cycle in June/ July and are midway through second cycle now... Physically you should be fine but if you're not ready emotionally I'd say wait? There's nothing worse than stress with things like this. Having said that, if you're anything like me (sounds like it from what you said) you'll be stressing anyway, worrying about egg quality. IVF is never an easy journey, failure of a cycle will always be gut wrenchingly sad ... Might give you something to focus on? 35 isn't old, I've been told that so many times, however if you have low AMH then it probably is best to crack on now. Basically, only you know what's best for you. Good luck with your decision making!

[Ginger1984]

Hi it depends how mentally strong you feel. I'm 35 and I do worry about my age aswell, we gave ourselves a 3 month gap just to go back to normality for a bit and we will try again 21 days after my Jan period starts. We have been through icsi twice this year. Have 1 egg that is frozen but we have paid for 2 fresh goes so meeting the consultant tonight to discuss this hopefully we can have a fresh go again next and save the frozen egg should that one fail.

[L400ynd in reply to Ginger1984]

Thank you for replying lovely. I feel like I am mentally strong enough. (Or as mentally strong as I can be) if we go for January that’s 8 months from the first one. I said I would give myself at least 6 months. I don’t see me being any more mentally strong as time goes on. I worry I would end up more anxious.

Please let me know how you get on tonight. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. Xxx

[Ginger1984 in reply to L400ynd]

Ah if it's been 6 months then yeah go for it. Are you having to pay now or NHS?

[L400ynd in reply to Ginger1984]

I still have another 2 cycles available on the nhs. So finances aren’t an issue for us at the moment. Xx

[Ginger1984 in reply to L400ynd]

Well I've just come back from consultation. We will use our frozen egg next time. All I have to do is buy an ovulation kit, when I get a smilie face phone dr and get a blood test done to confirm hormone levels then go in 6 days later to have egg put back in. No drugs or scans so very straight forward, then if that fails we get one more fresh go do fingers crossed frozen one takes

[L400ynd in reply to Ginger1984]

I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you lovely. Let me know how you go xxx

[sadievalentie]

Hi there! How are you? I hope you are feeling better now. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is never easy. No matter how strong you are, that thing can break you. So basically first of all you need to see if you are mentally ready for it. You have recently lost your dad, and by your post i can say one thing for sure that you still are not over it. After that the thing matters is your physical health. When you think both your things are ready, then go for it. Good luck! Take care. Stay blessed. Bye!

[Alyssa123]

Hi! I hope you are feeling better. I am really sorry for what you are going through. Dealing with the loss of a parent is too hard. It's not something that you can get over in a month. It's always better to wait between cycles. Because whenever you go through a cycle, your body takes time to recover from it. Because of your Dad's death, you are not well emotionally. So just wait until you are good and strong. After that, you can start your cycle whenever you want. I hope this helps you. Still Good luck. Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!

[LorrieWalden]

Hi Hon! How are you? I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is heartbreaking. It feels like you have no roof over your head after they are gone. They are the ones who make us strong. You really need to take some more time and then opt for treatment again. Opt for treatment when you are ready mentally. Losing a parent can make you weak, so you need to give yourself time to heal. I will pray that this gets easier for you. My blessings are with you. Best of luck. Take good care of yourself. Goodbye!