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💔 Chemical Pregnancy

Clairenix
Clairenix
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Thankyou for all your messages of support, I've just had confirmation that I have had another chemical pregnancy, although I knew in my heart this would would be the case it's still absolutely gutting 💔😢

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Noah1981

Gutted for you xx why is life so unfare xxxx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Noah1981

I know life can be so cruel, I'm just going to give myself some time before going again xxx

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Daisy1245

oh no I was so hoping for better news for you, absolutely gutted for you, its so unfair and really should have been your time. I really hope your clinic can give you some insight into why so next time it works for you xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Daisy1245

Thankyou, the clinic have emailed me and I have asked if there is anything that we can add next time round but I'm already having high dose steroids,Intralipids,baby aspirin as well as the usual so not sure what else we can try? Xx

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CatDV
CatDV
in reply to Clairenix

Claire, have you ever tried Clexane? xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to CatDV

I did have Clexane on my 3rd transfer which was a BFN but it may be worth adding next time? Xx

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Millbanks

Sending so much love. It’s so unfair xxx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Millbanks

Thankyou so much, it is just so hard xxx

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Lavender96

Oh Claire I’m so sorry. I really hoped you’d get better news, this process can be so cruel and unfair! Take care of yourself, sending lots of love xx

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Clairenix

Thankyou,feels like it gets harder each time xx

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jess1981

Oh no hun I am devastated for you I hoped for better news. So very sorry for your loss. Hope you have plenty of support around you during this difficult time xxx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to jess1981

Thankyou I do have support but difficult time as my sis in law had a baby on Tues so I feel a bit isolated, I haven't told her yet because I don't want to upset her when she's going to be so happy xxx

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Tryagain45

I am so very sorry that you got this news. It's absolutely heart breaking for you after the joy of a positive test. Sending lots of hugs and strength xxxxxx

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Clairenix

It's getting harder each time, 1st transfer ended in a MMC and now 2 chemicals out of 5 transfers,just wish I knew what was going wrong xxxx

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Tryagain45

It's just heartbreaking when you've had to go through so many transfers and they have ended this way. It's hard to keep going when you've had some many knockbacks. Maybe time for a full review with your clinic so see what else they can look at changing or some further investigation?

I'm really so sorry this has happened for you.

Sending lots of strength and hugs xx

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everhopeful83

I’m so sorry to read this 😞sending you the biggest hugs❤️xxx

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Clairenix

Thankyou so much xxx

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WeeJacs

Gutted for you just so cruel xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to WeeJacs

Thankyou it really is a cruel and difficult journey xx

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Core

So sad for you how cruel xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Core

Thankyou for your message, I'm going to take some time out and will try again xx

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Lollypop74

😢I’m so sorry and heartbroken for you , it’s so cruel . Before I embarked on this final transfer I made private appointment with professor Charles kingsland, he gave me his opinions and advice after our 2 mmc and it really helped a lot. If you would like any information on my appointment any time feel feee to inbox me! I’m so sorry my love , take some time to take care of yourself xxxxxx

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Clairenix

Thankyou so much I will PM you,any insight would be greatly appreciated xxxx

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MightyB

So sorry to hear this. How awful. X

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to MightyB

Thankyou, I tried to tell myself not to get too excited but that's harder said than done! Xx

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Kitcat12

I'm so sorry to see this update! This process can be incredibly cruel x

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Kitcat12

It really is, we just have to keep trying! Hope all is ok with you xx

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Kitcat12
Kitcat12
in reply to Clairenix

Bless you, don't give up xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Kitcat12

We have 1 frostie and I plan to go back in Apr,need to give my head and body a bit of a rest before going again xx

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Kitcat12
Kitcat12
in reply to Clairenix

A great plan moving forward, I'll be looking out for your updates xx

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Tugsgirl

Thankyou Tugsgirl, I've just got to pick myself up and keep going xx

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GELL18

Life can be unfair, thinking of you Claire, gutted for you was hoping for the best. Yes do take your time to heal... hugs to you...

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to GELL18

Thankyou do much, I'm just going to take a couple of months of being me again before I get back into the IVF mindset,I jusy need some time out xx

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Elynn

So sorry.💐

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Elynn

Thankyou 😘

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Rainbowhope

I'm so sorry to read this. You must stay strong and keep going. Xxx

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Clairenix

Thankyou, I'm just going to take a bit of time out but will try again xx

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Shirazlover2013

I’m so sorry to hear the update, it’s so unfair. 😢

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Clairenix

Thankyou, it's so difficult when you don't know what is going wrong xx

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Shirazlover2013

Yeah I get that, we’re also struggling to understand how to improve our numbers and quality of embryos 😒. It’s a tough journey to travel. Glad to see that you are going to regroup and try again at some point. Xx

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Picalilli99

I’m so sorry to hear this. Absolutely gutted for you. Take care of yourself lovely. You are so strong. I really hope that it happens for you very soon xxx

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Clairenix

Thankyou, apologies for delay I haven't felt great,mixture of emotions and came down with a cold,think my body just feeling run down. We have one frostie from this round and plan to go again in Apr xxx

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Picalilli99

Bless you. I’ve had the evil lurgy for the last 10 days. Not what you need when already feeling bad, but suppose it’s not too surprising with everything we put our poor bodies through with IVF! I hope you feel better soon lovely. It’s great that you have a little frosty waiting for you for when you are ready. April sounds like a great plan. In the meantime take care of yourself and hope you have a lovely relaxing Christmas xxx

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Camillage

Oh no, I am so very sorry to read this. It must be gut wrenching for you. Sending you big hugs and hope you get some answers xx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Camillage

Thankyou,still waiting for my clinic to come back to me. I rang our company counseling service yesterday and also went to my GP who has signed me off work until 25th Nov, in the past I've gone straight back to work but this time seems to have hit me so much harder. Hope ur doing ok xx

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Camillage
Camillage
in reply to Clairenix

I am glad you have some time off. I completely broke after my 4th bfn and had to take a couple of months to recover, regroup, take counselling and also did a thing called kineseology which really helped me. I would not have been able to carry on if I hadn't. Xxx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Camillage

I do keep meaning to look up Kineseology, I am willing to try anything. I have been having reflexology and I will also try accupuncture in the New Year, luckily I have medical cover through work and I get payment towards certain treatments,along with counseling. He was really helpful and made me realise it's ok not to be strong all of the time and I've been putting pressure on myself to return to normal, especially because it's such an important time at work and I feel guilty for taking time out now! Xxx

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Camillage
Camillage
in reply to Clairenix

Unfortunately as we are so strong, it is not until we are really broken that we start to understand this. Please do take as long as you need and dont feel bad. I loved kineseology. It was like counselling for my body and I feel it really prepared me for the next transfers and the outcome of Angus xxx

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Clairenix
Clairenix
in reply to Camillage

That is so true.

I have googled and there is a practitioner not far from where I live, do the diagnose any issues and give advice on how you can improve your health? I bet Angus is getting big now? Xxx

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Camillage
Camillage
in reply to Clairenix

I wouldn't say they diagnose. Just like a therapist wouldn't tell you what to say. But your body will tell them what needs worked on the most. So they are led by your body. It's a shame you arent in edinburgh as my lady is absolutely amazing. Even making me calm about work, so so many areas. I feel like the best version of me if that makes sense.

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gattonero

I’m heartbroken for you Claire. be strong and proud of yourself, this rollercoaster is not for everyone and you’re doing the best you can 🌷 xx

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