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Title says it all, 4th BFN this morning, lots of tears this morning and felt like I might never see those 2 lines. Managed to get through the day at work and after chatting to a good friend feel more hopeful that it will happen for us at some point 🤞🤞🤞

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Sayusayme profile image
Sayusayme

Don't worry

All will be fine

When it has to happen it happens

Your time will come soon

May be it's next cycle .Keep trying

Even I am in same boat

Four failed ivf

Still staying strong...

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Core in reply to Sayusayme

Thank you for your positive words. I’m hoping your one will also be the next one xx

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Dreamingofbaby

So sorry for this hun. Big hugs. All here for u XX

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Core in reply to Dreamingofbaby

Thanks xx

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Sunshineraye

So sorry lovely. Yes it will happen, keep faith ❤️ Xx

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Core in reply to Sunshineraye

Thanks, feeling more positive this evening xx

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Italy300618

I'm so sorry, you must be devastated. We learnt on sunday that we wouldn't make it to ET on our first ivf round, and I feel heartbroken 💔, I cant imagine how you must feel 4th time. Sending lots of love, and keep going, you didnt come this far not to ❤❤❤

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Core in reply to Italy300618

Thank you, yes you’re completely right, so sorry to here about your first round. Hoping you’ll have better luck next round xx

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Italy300618 in reply to Core

Thank you 😘 xx

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gemmy999

I’m so sorry to hear this news 😔😢 cycle 5 for our bfp so please keep hope. We’re all so strong to go through this. Look after yourself. Lots of self care. And time out. You deserve it xx big hugs 🤗

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Core in reply to gemmy999

Thank you, lots of chocolate and chilling this evening, 🤞 number 5 will be ours also xx

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gemmy999 in reply to Core

Of course it will be ❣ 👼 xx

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Lots8788

So sorry to hear that hun x big hugs to you xx

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Core in reply to Lots8788

Thanks xx

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Solly-44

Oh love, I’m so sorry. I’ve been looking out for you update and really hoped this would be it for you.

Look after yourself xx

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Core in reply to Solly-44

Thanks, hoping your next round is the one xx

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hifer

So sorry for you. Sending lots of love x

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Core in reply to hifer

Thanks xx

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Tiddly1984

Big hugs to you...x

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Core in reply to Tiddly1984

Thanks xx

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aamiller405

so sorry.. take care of yourself xo

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Core in reply to aamiller405

Thanks xx

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Cinderella5

Aww I'm so sorry! It's so hard getting negative after negative!!😥 Look after yourselves, hugs.xx

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Core in reply to Cinderella5

Thanks xx

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Noah1981

So sorry to read this we all know how hard the negatives are xx

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Core in reply to Noah1981

Thanks xx

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Gueritarubia

Oh damn! So sorry to read. Massive hugs. Had hoped this would be it for you... thinking of you super strong warrior. Take care

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Core in reply to Gueritarubia

Thanks, how is the 2ww going?xx

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Gueritarubia in reply to Core

Don’t know - you know the deal. Symptom spotting like crazy, and all different from last two cycles... haven’t decided yet when I’ll test. Maybe Friday (9dp5dt). I’m reading between your lines that you’re planning on going again? Know when and how already? Thinking of you, so sorry it hasn’t worked... xx

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Core in reply to Gueritarubia

Good luck with testing if you haven’t already done so, will be thinking of you. Yes will go with our next frostie usually it’s about 2 months but I’ve been told to ring clinic Monday for the next appointment xx

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Gueritarubia in reply to Core

I did a cheeky test Friday at 9dp5dt. Negative as hell. So not holding my hopes up. Damn, so disappointed it didn’t work for us both. I’ll have full certainty Tuesday after blood test. Guess I’ll go again immediately at my withdrawal bleed unless they think it makes sense to do any tests. They seemed to think it wasn’t necessary after last round but now it makes three failures. Granted, I have a little girl so clearly I can carry a pregnancy, but why did my first ever transfer work no problem and three subsequent ones fail?!

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Core in reply to Gueritarubia

So sorry to hear that, will keep everything crossed for Tuesday. My doctor keeps saying it’s a numbers game and we just haven’t lucked out so far. Hopefully as you were lucky first time you will be again.

Will you start taking tablets again on your withdrawal bleed then? My clinic have always said I need to have withdrawal bleed, then a ‘proper period’ and can then go on the next period so it takes around 2 months. Did you try anything different this time?xx

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Gueritarubia in reply to Core

Did the exact same regime. Can only do medicated due to cysts (and the clinic not believing in OPKs for accurate determination of ovulation). They are adamant estrogen and progesterone doses are adequate. I’ve done acupuncture all tries as I had it when I first got pregnant. Not sure what else to do... I did my first two FETs back to back, then had a cycle break and now thinking to start the fourth straight at this withdrawal bleed. Don’t think it makes much difference. My clinic is happy for me to do this - say it doesn’t matter (only need a real period after a fresh cycle). Let’s see, will know more maybe late next week as my bleed starts and can get scanned again...

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Livinginhope2019

Sending you big hugs xx

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Core in reply to Livinginhope2019

Thanks xx

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TRYING2016

Im so sorry to read this and for it to be happening to you, I really hope everything gets better for you and all gies really positive but in the mean time look after yourself xxxx

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Core in reply to TRYING2016

Thank you xx

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Tugsgirl

I’m sorry. It’s truly crap. Glad to hear you’re not giving up xx

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Core in reply to Tugsgirl

Thanks xx

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Picalilli99

I’m so sorry it hasn’t worked again. BFN after BFN is so bloody tough! Glad that you are feeling a little more hopeful after talking it through with your friend. You are so strong! Wishing you all the luck when you go again xxxx

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Core in reply to Picalilli99

Thank you xx

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Em2405

Aw lovely I’m so sorry to read this. Sending you positive thoughts and wishes. Got everything crossed for you for the next round. Eat plenty of chocolate and put your feet up. Nothing makes a negative easier but be kind to yourself and take care xx

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Core in reply to Em2405

Thank you xx

Really sorry to hear this. Really hope next time works out for you. It will happen at some stage, it has to. It’s just rubbish we all have to go through these huge knock backs before the positive outcome.

I like to think once we have that little miracle in our arms, we will just be extra grateful and feel super blessed following the journey it’s taken to get there.

Good luck xxx

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Core in reply to Hopesanddreams1987

Thank you and I really agree with everything it will so make us appreciate what we have once we get it xx

Gutted for you I am so sorry. I don’t know how you found the energy for your fourth cycle I should be starting mine this month but just can’t face the disappointment again, you really deserved a bfp simply for being so bloody courageous and for carrying on. Huge hugs xx

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Core in reply to

Thank you, they are FETs so not as daunting as starting from scratch. We’ve set next Summer as our date to keep going until. If it hasn’t happened by then we are going to take a big holiday and talk through our options. Do you think you will try a 4th?xx

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Lavender96

So sorry to hear this, the BFNs are always devastating but glad to see you have a healthy positive attitude (a lesson I can learn from you). I have my fingers crossed for your next round x

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Core in reply to Lavender96

Thanks, I definitely have my down days but opening up to some friends in work this time has really helped xx

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Kyell2

I’m so sorry it wasn’t good news. Sending lots of hugs your way xx

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Core in reply to Kyell2

Thanks xx

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Jebby86

I’m so sorry to read this. Sending you love xx

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Core in reply to Jebby86

Thanks xx

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Kat9lives

So sorry to hear this, sending big hugs and crates of wine xxx

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Core in reply to Kat9lives

Thanks, yes I’m defo going to enjoy some wine this weekend 😂 xx

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Debrakay1704

Thinking of you, please take care xx ❤️

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Core in reply to Debrakay1704

Thanks xx

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KriSho

So sorry. Thinking of you. Xx

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Core in reply to KriSho

Thanks xx

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crisps88

So sorry to hear this sad news 😔😔 no words will help but I’m thinking of you and how devastated you must be. Praying for good luck the next round xxxx

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Core in reply to crisps88

Thank you xx

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Halli23

I’m so sorry core, and I only know these feelings too well. I had my fourth BFN back in July and was completely devastated. I was adamant it was just never going to happen.

Time does give you a little bit of reflection and any hope lost always comes back but obviously it does get harder to hope. BUT, here I am half way through attempt number 5 and whilst there’s still hope there’s a chance!!

I have egg collection next week and I’m praying we find our sticky one 🤞🏼

I went on two lovely holidays after a my fourth BFN and drank and ate as I liked and I feel like this has relaxed me a little more ahead of go number 5. I’m always so strict with what I eat, drink and do... so I’ve thrown that out of the window this time and hoping for the best.

Take your time and take care. You’ll find the strength for attempt number 5... because that’s just what we do. Wishing you all the luck for when you do!

Xxx

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Core in reply to Halli23

Thanks, good luck for your round 5! I’ve been like you very strict on what I eat and drink and doesn’t seem to have helped. Have seen quite a few on here lately with BFPs after relaxing the regime. Good luck with egg collection will be thinking of and praying for you xx

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Jaygee

I’m sorry to hear this! Best thing to do is try not to beat yourself up. Non of this is your fault! Have faith that it will work soon :)

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Core in reply to Jaygee

Thank you xx

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Georgie17

I'm so sorry to read this. It is so tough but hang in there. Our turn will come xx

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Core in reply to Georgie17

Thanks xx

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Celloheggy

I’m so sorry 😐. Sending you lots of hugs and strength xx

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Core in reply to Celloheggy

Thanks xx

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Kitcat12

😞 I'm sorry lovely. Sending a big squeeze your way x

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Core in reply to Kitcat12

Thanks xx

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Rowly88

Sorry to hear your news, thinking of you both and sending big hugs during this difficult time xx

I’m so sorry hun 😢 it’s so devastating. I truly hope your next transfer is your baby ❤️ Sending you lots of love and hugs xxxx

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Core in reply to

Thank you so much hope you’re doing ok xx

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Skippy1982

So sorry it’s not worked for you core. 💕sending lots of love and glad you’re feeling hopeful still xxx

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Core in reply to Skippy1982

Thank you, good luck with your FET xx

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Skippy1982 in reply to Core

Thank you xxx🤞🏻 will you go again?

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