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Hospital have confirmed early miscarriage

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That's it.. All over for us at 6 weeks.

I thought the pain of the infertility journey was bad but this loss is worse than I could have imagined.. Feel like my whole world's fallen apart.

I have to stop my meds now.. Does anyone know when I should expect bleeding? Xo

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Livinginhope2019

I’m so sorry, my heart goes out to you. It’s the worst feeling in the world. I can’t help you with your bleeding question I’m afraid. Everyone is different ( I bled from 4 weeks for at least 3 weeks). Take care of yourself, sending you big hugs xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Livinginhope2019

Thank you, so grateful to have this forum xo

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Lots8788

I'm so so sorry hun. Sending big hugs to you and so much love. xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Lots8788

Thank you really appreciate it xo

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3005

I’m so so sorry you’re going through this 😔

Sending you lots of love xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to 3005

Thank you xo

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Dreamingofbaby

So so sorry for this hun. So heart breaking. Been there and it the most awful thing. U will get there bit by bit. Go easy on u and give self time to grieve. Can vary with bleeding for me it took around 2weeks and started v light then increased. Take good care of u. All here for u xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Dreamingofbaby

Thank you so much, means a lot xo

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Lolepops

Absolutely heartbroken for you xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Lolepops

Thank you xo

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Kitcat12

😞 I'm so sorry darling. With my MC I had already started bleeding when we had it confirmed. Once you're off progesterone I wouldn't imagine it will take long for things to begin. Look after yourself and take time to grieve x

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aamiller405 in reply to Kitcat12

Thank you, so glad we have the support of each other xo

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Kitcat12 in reply to aamiller405

Coming here to talk massively helped me through, we're here if you need us x

I'm so very sorry to hear this so sad xxx

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Thank you xo

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TRYING2016

So sad ☹️ its extremely sad to go through this infertility is hard enough. I didn’t bleed until nearly 2 weeks later and bled for 10 days (light) but i chose to naturally miscarry at the end. You do have different choices to go ahead with but go for what you feel comfortable with. Take a day at a time xxxxx

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aamiller405 in reply to TRYING2016

Thank you.. I haven't been offered any other choices for now.. So I guess I'll just see what happens now I've stopped medication.. Thanks xo

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Lou7744

I’m so, so sorry to read this. I’ve been through a miscarriage myself and it’s truly heartbreaking. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Lou7744

Thank you appreciate it xo

I’m so so sorry to hear this, that’s just so unfair, really thinking of you xxxxxxx

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Thank you xo

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry to read this xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Tugsgirl

Thank you xo

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crisps88

O I am so so sorry for you. Absolutely heart breaking. So sorry lovely I really am. Really am. No words To describe your pain, you are going through so much. And this is worse than everything you’ve been through to have your beautiful dream so cruelly snatched away. So sorry darling always here xxxxx

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aamiller405 in reply to crisps88

Thank you so much xo

I am so sorry to read this, life is so ruddy hard and unfair, sending you massive hugs xx

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Thank you xo

I’m so sorry this is such sad news. I hope you can take time out to recuperate and be with your partner. Sending you hugs. Xxx

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Jebby86

I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t understand why life has to be so unfair. Sending my love and thinking of you both at this horrible time 💔 xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Jebby86

Thanks so much xo

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Poppy_2018

Absolutely devastated for you. Take care of yourself x

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aamiller405 in reply to Poppy_2018

Thank you xo

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Kyell2

I am so so sorry to read this. It is just awful that this has happened to you. Sending lots of hugs your way xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Kyell2

Thanks xo

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Faith103

I’m so sorry for you loss....it’s a horrible feeling....I had an ectopic 5 weeks ago and I felt so low..I’m picking up babies ashes in a few weeks...it’s such a tough journey. I have stage 4 endo and I’ve lost a tube from the ectopic I have very little hope but I’m trying to stay positive.In regards to your post I have also had an early miscarriage in the past I started with brown spotting which was what alarmed me then I had my bloods done and then had them done again in 48 hours and my HGC Levels were dropping and loss of pregnancy was confirmed.I just carried to spot for about 2 weeks and then I started bleeding properly. My period was not much different to normal just felt like I was bleeding forever..just some advice stay away from pregnancy test it can take a while for the hormone to come out of your system and I kept testing and convincing myself my baby was safe. Have plenty of rest and keep your head strong the last thing your body needs is extra stress be kind to yourself. Sending you lots of love at this emotional time. xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Faith103

Thank you for your message and I'm very sorry to hear you've had a horrible time too xo

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Bistbee

I’m so so sorry, this is just heartbreaking to hear. I can’t even imagine the pain, knowing how i’ve felt at lost embryos before they even implant is gut wrenching enough, it’s just completely devastating 😔 Sendings lots of love and hugs at this time. Please allow yourself all the time you need xxxxxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Bistbee

Thank you, nothing about this is easy is it xo

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Klndmr

I'm so sorry hun 💗💗💗💗 Sending you millions hugs and lots of love 💗💗💗💗💗💗

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aamiller405 in reply to Klndmr

Thank you xo

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JFP30

Oh no... I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending hugs xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to JFP30

Thank you xo

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Baby_gurl

So sorry for your loss. Give yourself all the time and care you need. Sending you lots of love ❤️❤️❤️

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aamiller405 in reply to Baby_gurl

Thank you xo

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Noah1981

This Journey is cruel I’m so sad for you and I hope with lots of support you will get through it lots of love xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Noah1981

Thanks very much xo

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hifer

Am so so sorry for your loss. Sending you much love xx

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aamiller405 in reply to hifer

Thank you xo

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everhopeful83

I’m so so sorry to read this😞❤️xx

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aamiller405 in reply to everhopeful83

Thank you x

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Kama41

I’m so sorry sending you all my thoughts. I have just gone through exactly this and it’s really hard. It was over 2 weeks after my 7 week scan before I started bleeding which was like a heavy period for a good 7 days. Unfortunately mine still hasn't quite cleared naturally yet as I still have a very small amount of tissue left but the hospital is happy to just monitor me at the moment and hope that it passes naturally. Do consider all options available to you though and do let your feelings out. I cried for a solid 2 days. Xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Kama41

Aw im sorry you've went through this too, I haven't been given any options yet, was just told to stop my meds so I guess I'm just to let it happen naturally.. Thank you xo

Oh aamiller405 I am so very sorry for your loss truly devastated for you. I had a chemical pregnancy 2 years ago the sense of loss was unimaginable. I already bled very heavily & all the content had expelled no further intervention was needed my period arrived 28 days after the miscarriage was completed. Miscarriages are awful enough for any woman but when it’s so wanted & fought for makes the loss even worse. I know there is nothing anyone can say to make this better time is the only healer. I do hope you have plenty of support around you. My thoughts are with you at this awful time xxx

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Thank you for your kind message, yeah I'm lucky to be surrounded by great family and friends xo

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Hanbee33

I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s so horrible, last time I started bleeding first and then lasted about 2 -3 weeks. Take care of yourselves x x

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aamiller405 in reply to Hanbee33

Thank you xo

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry to hear this, its so incredibly unfair! The first time I passed my pregnancy whilst still on meds but the second time I had to stop meds and started bleeding 2 days later. Massve hugs at such a sad time, thinking of you.xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you.. I've started spotting already this morning xo

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Cinderella5 in reply to aamiller405

Look after yourselves.xxx

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Millbanks

I’m so sad for you. I really hope you take some time and rest up, then find the strength again to carry on. It’s all we can do xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Millbanks

Thank you very much xo

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Skippy1982

So sorry for your loss, it’s so cruel after your infertility journey. Sending you lots of love xxx

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aamiller405 in reply to Skippy1982

Thank you xo

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Welshwhisperer

We were in the same position last month - we were 9 weeks. It has absolutely devastated and broken me. As you said you think the infertility is bad enough - but the loss of our longed for baby has been earth shattering, and I just felt like my whole world fell through under me.

From the day of the scan when they told us there was no longer a heartbeat - it took nearly 4 weeks for the actual miscarriage to happen. I think I’m beginning to get a little stronger now, but I keep getting set backs. I’m starting bereavement counselling next week, so really hope that will help. Hope you get the help and support you need too X

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aamiller405 in reply to Welshwhisperer

Im so sorry to hear you've gone through that.. Its so devastating..im trying to put a brave face on it in front of people but behind closed doors I'm broken.I hope you start to feel a bit better soon xo

I'm sorry to hear that. It's cruel isn't it that one moment you are pregnant and then its snatched away from you.

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Definitely so cruel.. Thank you xo

in reply to aamiller405

I know someone who's baby died at the last minute which was cruel as well thinking she was going to have the baby and then last minute it was all snatched away from her.

It's devastating when you think you are going to get something and then no you aren't and it's like offering someone sweets and then taking the bag away from them as a cruel joke.

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aamiller405 in reply to

Aw that's awful god love her.. Life is cruel at times. Hope we all get our happy endings eventually xo

in reply to aamiller405

She did go on to have two girls after that but no way will she forget the one that died.

I remember our work team getting the news that had happened and I was shocked myself and we had all cried together as a team.

One thing I learned from this is that horrible things happen to everyone without any particular reason for it.

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Stephybivf

I am so so sorry for you, I can’t imagine how you must be feeling xxxx sending lots of virtual hugs 💔💔

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aamiller405 in reply to Stephybivf

Thank you very much xo

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JadeH92

aamiller, sorry for the delay I haven't been on here for a while. I am soo soo sorry to read this. I am gutted for you I really am! Take care of yourself x

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aamiller405 in reply to JadeH92

Thank you, I hope you're keeping well xo

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Squeak2

Sorry for your news, big hugs 💕xx

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aamiller405 in reply to Squeak2

Thank you xo

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