Feeling confused and unsure

[strong-girl]

Hello all

So some of you may know that Iv had a little girl she is currently 4 months and is such a blessing and I feel like I’m doing okish at motherhood but my family r stressing me out, or maybe I’m letting everything get to me

My husband does soo much for them and they are jus soo ungrateful my mum owes me a large sum of money which she says she can’t pay back thou she has multiple houses

I jus feel soo unsure I thought having a baby I would stop caring about my family and there trivial issues but I still cry over it and feel like they don’t even care

I just wish I could take a step back

I’m supposed to be going on holiday with them to Cornwall on Wednesday jus want to cancel the whole thing

Plz help need any words of wisdom x

[Kyell2]

Ah the joys of family!

I have a nightmare mother of my own. Last year my parents split after 40 years of marriage and my mum didn’t want us to have any form of relationship with him anymore, despite him always being an amazing dad. She made up a lot of things that couldn’t be true and when my brother and I refused to cut him out of our lives she cut us (and her 4 grandchildren) out instead.

I haven’t spoken to her in over a year and I now realise that she took a lot of my time and love, but gave very little back. I do feel very guilty though.

It’s an awful situation but you need to do what’s right for your new little family. Put your husband and daughter first and be a wee bit selfish. Maybe go on holiday and then distance yourself a bit from her to see how she reacts and if you are fighting too hard to save a relationship that is pretty one sided.

Sending hugs xx

[strong-girl in reply to Kyell2]

Thank u soo much u made a lot of sense I need to be grateful and move on xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi strong-girl. Perhaps I might sound unkind saying this, but I don't think you ought to go on holiday with them all. Stay at home and have a couple of days out with your husband and daughter, so you can relax how you want to. Your little one is just at the stage of being more demanding and will be teething soon, so stay back and enjoy her. They may think you awful, but they will forget. Just tell them you want some "me" time with your family just now and perhaps look forward to going away next year when she is walking. Hope all is solved for you. Dane

[Drives]

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time with your family.

If I were in your situation I would cancel the holiday and have some quality time with your daughter and husband 💜 you need to look after yourself and sounds like being around your family isn't great for you at the moment.

I really hope things get easier for you x x