BFN 😢

[Solly-44]

Thanks for all your lovely messages last night.

Unfortunately it was another BFN for us this morning ☹️

I’m a bit numb I guess, feel a bit silly for even thinking it could be positive. I even dreamt it was last night. Trying to be ok, and tbh I feel a lot better this time than last. I think the unknown drove me insane - at least this time I know they’ll probably let us go again in 8 weeks.

Things I am grateful for today...

I will not be injecting progesterone anymore (I bloody hated them with a passion, and they weren’t even the ‘bad ones’!)

I can and will get really, really drunk this weekend!

We are hugely lucky to have lots of Frosties on ice.

Just got to push on I guess! Xx

[HopeTTC18]

Oh hun I’m so sorry. I was really hoping for better news this morning. Take good care of yourself. We are thinking of you. Lots of hugs x

[Solly-44 in reply to HopeTTC18]

Aww thanks love. I’m hoping for some good news from you soon! X

[Stephybivf]

Oh solly, I’m so sorry to hear this. I was thinking of you this morning xx take care of yourself, sending you hugs xxx

[Solly-44 in reply to Stephybivf]

Thank you lovely x

[Lots8788]

Oh hun so sorry to hear this x big hugs to you x take it easy x

[Solly-44 in reply to Lots8788]

Thanks love x

[Hidden]

Oh no hun I’m so sorry. Wish it had been better news ☹️Love your positive attitude think it’s inspirational you’re a strong lady ( you might not feel it right now) & you will come back fighting & you will get your BFP 😊 Treat yourself to all the things you can’t do pregnant ( I know it’s a crap consolation☹️) let your hair down & come back fighting 💪🏻You can do this xoxo

[Solly-44 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, what a lovely thing to say! Hope your little lady is doing good x

[Hidden in reply to Solly-44]

She’s doing well thank you & we feel the luckiest people in the world to have her.

And you will have your miracle baby it will be worth it ❤️keep believing that was something I wasn’t very good at xoxo

[runsoncuddles]

I'm so sorry Solly. I was looking out for an update from you. You're very strong to be able to look at the positives in a time like this. I'm sending you lots of hugs xxx

[Solly-44 in reply to runsoncuddles]

Thank you, it means a lot x

[sarahharas]

I am sorry This is so hard. Hugs to you, I know there are no words that will help you at this moment. Give yourself the time to grieve and come back even stronger. xx

[Solly-44 in reply to sarahharas]

Thank you lovely x

[Jenny_]

I am sorry to hear that. I failed one cycle last year. It’s the built-up expectation that causes big disappointment. When I talk about it now, I am quite calm about it. Hope you get over this soon.

[Solly-44 in reply to Jenny_]

Thank you - yes definitely, time will help and having a plan also helps x

[Nuszkahope]

So sorry Solly I am feeling very similar at the moment ... had a chemical pregnancy confirmed yesterday, this process is so horrible and difficult. I have had some wine last night to get over it ... I have another embryo and then if it doesn’t work out, I will have to go through the entire process again xx Hope next time we will get our positive 😘 hugs

[Solly-44 in reply to Nuszkahope]

Oh I’m so sorry lovely, what a cruel process. Thank you x

[Lou7744]

I’m really to read that you had a bfn this morning. You have a lovely positive attitude and I don’t blame you for treating yourself to a drink or several! 💕 xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Lou7744]

Thank you so much! X

[Cinderella5]

Awww Im so sorry! It is really hard and our mind plays tricks on us, I usually dream about testing a lot and I wake up not knowing what is real and what is not. Try to enjoy this weekend, I usually have a blow out after my BFN's....get drunk and eat junk, you bloody deserve it! Glad to hear you have lots of frosties though. Take care, hugs.xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you love. Yeah a blow out is in definitely in order x

[Hope25]

Hi Solly, just wanted to say im thinking of you x

[Solly-44 in reply to Hope25]

Thank you lovely x

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm sorry it wasn't good news for you this morning. Have a good old cry, a couple of drinks and back on it in a little while. Your frosties are waiting for you xxx

[Solly-44 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thanks hun. That’s exactly what I’ll be doing! Xx

[Sunshineraye]

So sorry hun, i know how u feel

Knowing I have some Frosties has kept me going too xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Sunshineraye]

Thank you x yeah it’s really sad but definitely not the worst place to be in x

[Drives]

Aww hun. Sorry to read this 😢 sending you a big hug x x

[Solly-44 in reply to Drives]

Thank you love x

[Happyspanielmomma]

Oh I really am so sorry, was really gunning for you. Take care, and enjoy a well deserved adult pop. Big hugs...frosties to the rescue🤞! xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Happyspanielmomma]

Thanks so much! I’m hoping you get some good news on Friday 🤞 x

[Happyspanielmomma in reply to Solly-44]

Thank you 🤞xx

[Hope4usall]

I'm so sorry. Take time out of you need it but it's a big positive you have more frosties. Sending lots of love and luck to you xxx

[Shirazlover2013]

Urrgggghhh that sucks, I’m sorry to hear your results. Your attitude is amazing, such a strong person. I hope you have some fun getting drunk this weekend 🤪

I’m 2 BFNs down from 2 fresh cycles, never had anything to freeze. It’s fab you’ve got some Frosties still, may one of those be your rainbow baby 🤞 and yeah avoid those progesterone injections next time!!

[Solly-44 in reply to Shirazlover2013]

Definitely! That’s so much lovely, I’ll have a glass of Shiraz for you xx

[Shirazlover2013 in reply to Solly-44]

Cheers mate 🍷

[Core]

So sorry to read this, BFN are so hard to take but next steps defo help xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Core]

Thank you lovely. I just read through your last post and it literally could have been written by me today. We’re both so lucky to have Frosties left but I can’t help but wonder if mine are all just dud? I think the big snotty crying is about to begin! 😂 but really 😭 xx

[Core in reply to Solly-44]

I know it messes with your mind so much! Have you got a follow up booked?xx

[KOT7]

Hi,

Sorry about your news this morning. Had the same myself on monday after our first round.

Well done to you for looking at silver lining of having a drink this weekend. I've decided I could learn something from your positive attitude, so just poured myself a glass of wine (small mercies!)

Thinking of you and everything crossed for your next attempt xx

[Solly-44 in reply to KOT7]

I was just commenting on your post while you wrote this! Thank you so much, it’s a shitty time isn’t it? Wishing you all the luck next time too xx

[Hope76]

So sorry, nothing worse than a BFN. I’ve had 2 so can relate. Did you have embryo glue ? Reason I ask have never been offered it & am thinking of insisting on it going forward as will try anything that will help. So pleased you have more Frosties good luck with the next go 🤞🏼🍀

[Solly-44 in reply to Hope76]

Thanks lovely. No my clinic doesn’t offer it but I’d be interested if they did. Anything that might help! Good luck for your next go too xx

[Hope76 in reply to Solly-44]

Lot of mixed reviews about it. Depends at my clinic which consultant you get. They recommended I don’t get it due to too many risks. Yet am hearing of others at same clinic offered and took it and their FET worked. Am confused and annoyed at the inconsistent info given x

[Kyell2]

I’m so sorry that it wasn’t good news!

At least your have lots of little frozen ones for when your ready.

Look after yourself and enjoy the gin/Prosecco or whatever your favourite tipple is this weekend, you definitely deserve it xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Kyell2]

Thanks so much, I will! X

[Scarlett13]

I’m soooooo sorry, it’s so hard, i hope you get to go again in 8 weeks xxxxx

[Solly-44 in reply to Scarlett13]

Thank you lovely xx

[Rowly88]

I'm so sorry, sending you big hugs xxxx

[Solly-44 in reply to Rowly88]

Thank you xx

[Gueritarubia]

Oh damn, sorry to read this! As you write, good to look forward and start planning your next transfer. Lucky you have Frosties on ice (so do we!). Crossing my fingers for your next round! Xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Gueritarubia]

Thanks lovely - it definitely helps! xx

[emiliajj]

Hi Solly I’m so sorry to hear! I know exactly how you feel I am on the same boat! Didn’t even make it to OTD coming Sunday. I had heavy bleeding Tuesday evening 10dpt5dt we had Natural FET. I was so broken hearted 3am yesterday as it didn’t stop. We just need to bulldoze the next step again with lots of hope & faith!! You are not on your own, Hun xx

I had all the sign and was thinking this could be it. Yeah I’m with you! Let’s get that mimosa this weekend!! Sending warmest hugs xxxx

[Solly-44 in reply to emiliajj]

Thank you so much and I just read your post - I’m sorry you’re going through this too. It’s so crappy isn’t it??

I just got back from my beta test which is such a demoralising process when you know it’s failed but they insist 😩

Yes to the mimosa, I like you style! Do you know when your follow up will be? Xxx

[emiliajj in reply to Solly-44]

Rang the clinic yesterday, they are the most supportive and helpful people, right? but they’ve ask me to do the test as planned on a Sunday. Its like what you have said - very demoralising I am bleeding heavy like heavy! And seeing that BFN on Sunday is like rubbing salt in my wounded heart but I have to do it. We need to decide if we want another FET or fresh Cycle. Might sched for treatment planning again nextweek I still have 2 Frosties left I don’t know I’m not in the right headspace to think about complexities of it all.

You still have Frosties are you hoping for another FET anytime soon? Have you consider/heard about endo scratch? I don’t know how effective it is. I’m scared I’ll get infections 😓 xxxx