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Today was my official test date and it’s negative and bleeding has increased. Although we expected it, it’s still devastating. After 6 years of trying. We were so hopeful this might help us :(

Does anyone know if they do tests as to why there’s no implanting?

Thank you for all your support over the last 6 weeks ❤️ Really means a lot and appreciate it xx

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Drives profile image
Drives

💔 so sorry to read this lovely.

Sending you lots of love x x x x

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Sunshineraye in reply to Drives

Thank u lovely. Wishing you luck for tomorrow xx

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Drives in reply to Sunshineraye

Thank you 😘

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Kiedy84

I am so so sorry my dear😥😥

Sending lots of hugs, look after yourself. This journey is so unfair 😢

❤️❤️

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Sunshineraye in reply to Kiedy84

❤️ Xx

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Fingerscrossed38

They might to an era to determine if you transferred at the right time. There are still some tests they can do now. Hysteroscopy, microbiome test. Progesterone levels etc. Did you have your embryos pgs tested? Sometimes implantation failure is a chromosomal issue...sorry it's not worked out.

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Sunshineraye in reply to Fingerscrossed38

Thank you so much. Really appreciate the advice. x

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Niki_B

So sorry to hear this, I know how devastating it is 💔 No they dont do any testing unless it's been multiple failures. 9 times out of 10 the embryo is just chromosomally abnormal. While an embryo can look perfect it can still be abnormal. Look after yourself during this sad time, big hugs xxx

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Sunshineraye in reply to Niki_B

Thank you so much. Yes ours was almost perfect they said. Time to keep going xxx

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Fingerscrossed38 in reply to Sunshineraye

When you say it was almost perfect it sounds like they only graded the embryo and didn't pgs test out for chromosomal issues? My top graded embryo was actually abnormal when tested. Pgs testing is very expensive but it saves heartache from the start and I'd recommend you ask to have yours tested during the next round to be safe. Only a thought though xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to Fingerscrossed38

Thank you, this is really helpful and I will quire and see what they say xxx

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Niki_B in reply to Sunshineraye

Yes like I said a perfect looking embryo can unfortunately be abnormal. If PGS testing in New Zealand wasnt so expensive I would have done it. I think it costs about 2,500 per embryo. Ridiculous.

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Sunshineraye in reply to Niki_B

Wow that’s a lot and I agree it’s ridiculous.

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Fingerscrossed38 in reply to Niki_B

Wow that is crazy! Cheaper to fly to London or somewhere and do it. I'm a kiwi but I live in London and it costs £400 per embryo but you also need to pay for time lapse and a one off £950 fee to do it. One round of IVF plus pgs testing 9 blastocyst has cost us around £13,500 which is also crazy expensive when you convert it to NZ $ and we have to pay it all ourselves. Still, I think it's worth doing it rather than a few rounds of IVF without it...similar price in the end perhaps?

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Militarywife7

So sorry to to hear this news sweetheart 😢 it’s heartbreaking. Please take good care of yourself - you will get your bfp one day ❤️🌈 always here if you want to talk xxx

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Sunshineraye in reply to Militarywife7

Thank you lovely. Really appreciate that. I hope you got that darker line and all is well with u ❤️ Xxx

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Kitcat12

I'm sorry lovely, it's so unfair x

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Sunshineraye in reply to Kitcat12

Thank you lovely. Yes it is so unfair. Just got to try and keep going ❤️ X

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Kitcat12 in reply to Sunshineraye

Amazing attitude, never give up ❤️ Look after yourself x

I’m so sorry 😢 x

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Sunshineraye in reply to

Thank you hun 💔 x

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HopeTTC18

So sorry to hear this. Hugs x

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Sunshineraye in reply to HopeTTC18

Thank you so much hun xx

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AS100

So sorry to read this 😔 massive hugs xxx

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Sunshineraye in reply to AS100

Thank you hun xxx

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Ruby26

I’m so sorry. There are lots of options including some which have been menctioned above. Unfortunately there is no test which can guarantee anything. My consultant says 70% of failures are due to an incompetent embryo and half of embryos which look normal actually aren’t. A lot of it unfortunately is luck x

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Sunshineraye in reply to Ruby26

Thank you, yes this true. Just have to keep going as much as we can xx

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gemmy999

I am so sorry to hear your sad news 😢 it’s heart breaking 💔 take good care of yourself. Allow time to heal. Mine is unexplained. I’ve had NK cell testing, a 4d scan, lots of bloods and all normal. I’ve looked at the genetic testing and think it’s a good option. Be kind to yourself. Xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to gemmy999

Thank you hun, will do. It’s so hard isn’t it. Esp when you have tests and they all come back normal. Plus it’s so expensive to have extra tests. Xx

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gemmy999 in reply to Sunshineraye

I know. I totally understand 😢 it’s frustrating and so devastating 💔 but we heal, we find strength and we go again 🤗 take care xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to gemmy999

Yes I won’t give up on my dream easily. Thank you xx

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2962007

I'm so Sorry hun! Take care of yourself

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Sunshineraye in reply to 2962007

Thank you hun xx

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Core

So sorry to read this, look after yourself today xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to Core

Thank you hun xx

Really sorry to hear this. Take care & be kind to yourselves. xoxo

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Sunshineraye in reply to

Thank you lovely xx

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Rella22

I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending you love and massive hug. This whole journey is super stressful and a lot of it with minimal explanation. Take some time to rest and relax ❤️

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Sunshineraye in reply to Rella22

Thank you so much hun, I know it’s so tough. Xx

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Debrakay1704

Sending lots of love ❤️ x

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Sunshineraye in reply to Debrakay1704

Thank you hun ❤️ Xx

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Lou7744

I’m so sorry to read this. Bfn’s are truly heartbreaking. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to Lou7744

Thank you hun, they are aren’t they 💔 xx

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Seha04

I’m so sorry! :-( it’s hard, it’s also something I keep asking myself, why are they not implanting! Sigh.. I’m also not too sure what tests we can do, guess it’ll be pgs to see if they’re chromosomally normal.

Take some time to relax and don’t stress too much!

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Sunshineraye in reply to Seha04

Thank you hun, yes thinking of getting away for a week with hubby for some quality time. It’s hard not to get so wrapped up in ivf sometimes.

So sorry to hear you have had the same. We will get there. Just have to keep going. X

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runsoncuddles

I'm so sorry about this, gosh it's just so unfair. Please don't lose hope. I'm thinking of you and sending you lots of love xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to runsoncuddles

Thank you hun, means a lot. I know so unfair. Just have to keep going xx

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Cinderella5

Sorry to hear this! Hugs.xx

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Sunshineraye in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you hun xx

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CM2011

I am really sorry to hear this. This whole process can be so unfair. Dreading my test day.

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