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I stupidly took another test this morning as I found one in the cupboard left over from the ones the epu gave me back in July. I’m now paranoid over the darkness of the line, it’s still a strong line and the test was 25mlu whereas the ones I’ve been using are 10mlu ones for amazon. I did a test Monday using the 10mlu one and the line was as dark as the control line, the one today using the 25mlu is lighter, but it’s still a good positive.

My rational brain is telling me the line darkness difference is because of the difference in strength of the test. My paranoid brain is telling me I’m going to have another miscarriage. I’ve not had any miscarriage symptoms other than some cramps and what I think was implantation spotting and I haven’t had any cramps for a week. I’m well aware of the fact that nothing can be done either way, and no amount of preparing for the worst is going to make the situation better if it does happen.

I’m waiting for an appointment for a scan to come through at the epu as I’m either coming up to 6 or 7 weeks on Sunday so I need to wait at least another week before having a scan.

I am slowly driving myself insane. What tips have people got to try and relax? I was doing relatively ok but having had two miscarriages already I think the wait is beginning to take its toll and I am constantly symptom checking and trying to work out if they are pregnancy or cyclogest and these were too bad yesterday so automatically I’m assuming the worst!! 🙄

Normally I would go for a run to clear my head but gp said she doesn’t recommend I do any strenuous exercise. I normally run two times a week, do hiit once a week and yoga once a week so not doing any exercise isn’t helping either!

Sorry this is a really rambling post.. xx

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genten

Sorry to hear of your 2 miscarriages, that must be awful for you and definitely one of the reasons your finding it hard to relax.

I wouldn't take any notice of the line colour, all sounds positive to me.

I've not got that far and I struggled in my 2ww (which was sadly bfn) but in terms of relaxing, maybe a foot massage, box sets, cooking/baking literally anything that will occupy your mind for some time.

xxx

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Binky1983 in reply to genten

Ah thanks for replying. I’m currently binge watching Netflix at the moment and it’s keeping me distracted as I’ve got the afternoon off. Going to bake a cake later too I think. Yum! 😋

Wishing you lots of luck for your next two week window. Xx

Don’t be sorry we all need support & sorry for your losses.

Oh goodness it is such an anxious time after a BFP.

I have also had a chemical pregnancy & I’m now 5 weeks 5 days pregnant.

Every little twinge has scared the crap out of me! No body warns you about cramping in early pregnancy no wonder we think the worst! 😳

My hubby & mum ( my rocks) have researched & from what they’ve found out it is very normal to get cramping & twinges in early pregnancy. In fact it’s a good thing as it means your baby is growing well & your uterus is expanding. As long as there is no heavy bleeding try not to worry ( I know it’s impossible) my cramps are severe a 2 days ago - I had endo removed from my uterus ligaments so hope it’s scar tissue flaring up as baby grows & uterus gets bigger! Luckily no bleeding & my pregnancy symptoms are still strong which come & go 😅 so guessing baby is fine! 🤞🏻

What I’ve done is everyday I tell myself today i am pregnant & tomorrow i might not be but today i am & I’ll enjoy being pregnant. I have no scan booked & have to wait till I’m 8 weeks to book to see the midwife. It feels like ages away!!! 😳 if you ever fancy a chat feel free to message me.

Wishing you the best with this pregnancy xoxo

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Ah thank you for replying. It’s so hard not to worry isn’t it?! I have my fingers crossed for both of us! No bleeding is always good, that’s what I’m focusing on as a positive.

I’m sure the weeks will fly by for you. I really hope they do it’s so hard waiting!

Thanks for the offer of messaging you as well. Same goes for you.

I think I’m going to take a similar approach and try and enjoy each day and just take each day as it comes. Xx

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E_05

Don’t apologise for rambling, we all need to let it out somewhere. I totally understand your anxiety, I’ve also had 2 mmc and am now nearly 10 weeks pregnant. Even though I’ve had 2 scans and seen the heartbeat, I still took a pregnancy test a few days ago to re assure myself - crazy I know as my symptoms should be enough.

I’m trying to take one day at a time and do tell myself ‘worrying won’t change anything’, I think Jess is right that it’s important to try and enjoy the pregnancy.

I’ve also still been having acupuncture and find that helps to relax me a little, id say just keep talking as for me keeping it bottled in makes it worse xx

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Binky1983 in reply to E_05

Thanks. It’s such a hard time isn’t it? I’d like to think once I get to 12 week scan I’ll relax a bit although I’m not entirely convinced! I’m glad I’m not the only one who keeps testing lol.

Yeah I think I’m going to try and do one day at a time as you’re right worrying doesn’t change anything.

I keep hearing good things about acupuncture I might have to try it. Xx

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E_05 in reply to Binky1983

It definitely is, I keep saying that if we get through the first trimester I relax a little but not sure I will 😬

Got to be worth a go with Acupunture at least you’ll know whether it helps or not. Hope things continue to progress well, always here for a chat if you need one xx

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Binky1983 in reply to E_05

Ah thanks. Same goes for me if you ever want to chat about anything.

Hope your pregnancy continues to go well too! Xx

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Autumnmoon

Just hoping the time passes for you and you get a great scan that wait is so hard just think as positive as you can you have positive test x2 that's the only true info you have and it's good x

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Binky1983 in reply to Autumnmoon

Thank you. That’s what I’m focusing at the moment, tests are still positive and I’ve had no bleeding so just got to focus on the good things. Xx

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