Bit of a long post but I need to get it out!
Not totally IVF related, but definitely having a huge impact on my state of mind. As some of you know my husband has children with his ex, which sometimes makes me feel like we are frauds and people feel as though we should be happy that we have these children in our lives. Obviously we are but it isn't all happiness and smiles and it certainly isn't a consolation prize for not having our own too.
Actually the step children for the most part great it's the ex situation that really isn't. It is becoming increasingly difficult to enjoy any time with my husband's children as their mum will always have plans for them during the time we have. If he refuses these plans (due to plans we have already made) he is told he is not thinking of the children and has been stopped from seeing them. Then in the same breathe told he doesn't spend enough time with them. We are not given notice on these plans she makes and are often told by one of the children the eve before, as she uses her as a go between. It has now come to the point that it is causing arguments between the husband and I. We often dont talk the day before he is due to pick them up. I almost dread it as there is always a battle with the ex and makes for a shit weekend.
We have been through solicitors and it was sorted for a while. we dont have the money to do that again. I am now so stressed that my transfer day will fall on the time we have them and we may end having to cancel or battle with the ex about it. We have had to keep so many secrets from the children inc the wedding, just in case she decided to interfere. We want to be able to share what is happening with his children too. I have simply had enough.
I don't know what to do and how we move forward. We cancelled IVF 3 years ago because of all this too Got sorted and its is just getting worse again. 😩