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Sad news today, went for 12 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at nine weeks ๐Ÿ˜ข we are both absolutely devastated as we thought it was our turn ๐Ÿ’” have an appointment tomorrow to discuss miscarriage management, we are both just broken xxx

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So so sorry to read this, thinking of you xx

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I am so so sorry to hear this. I know how you are feeling it is the worst. Support each other and give yourself time to grieve. You will never forget this little one. Sending lots of love xxx

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I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through.

Sending you lots of love. Xx

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I am so, so sorry to hear this, lots of love xxx

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๐Ÿ˜ข so sad. I donโ€™t know what else to say. Sorry. Hugs x

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I am so very very sorry to hear this, I was where you are today three weeks ago and it is the most terrible sad confused feeling. Sending love and my thoughts to you both. Take care of one another and allow yourselves time to grieve for your baby. Iโ€™m so sorry for your loss xx

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Iโ€™m so sorry. Itโ€™s the worst feeling xx

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Thank you everyone ๐Ÿ˜˜ life is just cruel! Xxx

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So sorry to hear this Robb82 ๐Ÿ˜ž look after yourself xxxx

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So sorry to hear this, unbelievably hard. take care of each other am thinking of you xxx

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So very sorry, itโ€™s just the worst place to be. Take care of each other and be kind to yourselves. Much love ๐Ÿ’• xx

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Im so sorry for you๐Ÿ˜ขi and my husband were there and i know how difficult this time is for you, just let yourself a time to grief, no one can help you now but I hope that you both receive the care and support you need during this tough time๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜“

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Oh no. I am so sorry to read this. I really hope you get some answers. Sending you huge hugs xxx

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So sorry to hear this, thinking of you at this sad time x

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So sorry to read this. Sending hugs xxx

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So sorry to read this. Canโ€™t imagine your pain. Sorry you have to go through this xxxx

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I am so sorry to read this, its the most painful moment and feels like your whole world and finished in-front of you. Take time to grieve and look after each other, i really hope you receive all the care you need right now and we are always here for you xxxxxx

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I'm so sorry x

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So sorry to hear this, sending lots of hugs xx

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I'm so very very sorry I can't imagine how you are both feeling ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข xxx

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So so sorry to hear this. What devastating news for you. I feel for you so much. X

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Iโ€™m so sorry. How utterly devastating! Really feel for you. xxx

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Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. Itโ€™s so hard. Iโ€™ve not been in your situation but I have had early losses and I know how gut wrenching it is. Thinking of you and your partner. Xx

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Thinking of you. x

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I'm so sorry to read this. It's the most heart-breaking situation to be in. Sending you love. X

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I'm am so so sorry to hear this. I have never been pregnant so I cannot imagine what this feels like. Hold onto each other and go easy on yourself x

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Iโ€™m so sorry to get that far & for it to go wrong is horrendous. I canโ€™t imagine how you must be feeling ( I had a early loss at 4.5 weeks last year & that was bad enough but to get to 12 weeks is unimaginable ) No words of advice but Iโ€™m thinking of you during this difficult time xoxo

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I am so so sorry..I know the pain you are going through and you will feel utterly broken and devestated. .hold each other tight and allow yourself time to grieve .you will never forget your baby xxxxx

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Iโ€™m so sorry about your loss, itโ€™s just not fair. Look after yourselves as best as you can during this difficult time xx

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Robb82 I am so very sorry to hear this, as everyone else says take time to grieve, lean on all the support around you and take the time you both need. Remember we are all here for you, you are not alone and I promise you, there will be light again it will just take time. Sending lots of love, hugs and here if you want to talk xxx

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So very sorry. Sending lots of love โค๏ธ

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So sorry to hear this

I canโ€™t imagine how you must be feeling but I would be devastated

Take you of yourselves and get some help to try process this (if you need) xx

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Im just so sorry, it's the most awful thing please look after yourselves xxxxx

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So sorry for your loss. It is a hard time and you must be devastated xx

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So sorry to read this. What an unbelievably hard time for you both. Hope you get through this tough time together x

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My thoughts are with you, I know how it feels. If you can, try to ask for some investigations on the fetus, NHS donโ€™t normally do it until the third miscarriage but it would be helpful to determine the reasons. Sending you strength.

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What symptoms did u have like particular to miscarriage...cause iam only 7 weeks and I don't have any symptoms jst slight cramps ....

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So sorry for loss Robb ...am literally getting afraid cause am going for 7 weeks scan ..and I don't have any symptoms at all....i know how ur feeling now but if at all u can help plss reply....

Did u have cramps ???or any that was not common.. anything......plss do reply.....

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Iโ€™m sure your midwife could answer your concerns two baby, as Iโ€™m sure robb is feeling heartbroken at the moment to discus symptoms! Sorry

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Twobaby - completely agree with Lollypop74, Robb82 will be absolutely heartbroken and itโ€™s very insensitive to ask such a question on her post. Please contact your Midwife to discuss any worries you may have

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So sorry to hear your news,there are just no words. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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So sorry to hear this robb , sending love ๐Ÿ’• xx

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So so sorry Robb82 ๐Ÿ˜ฅ thinking of you xxx

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So sorry to hear this xxx

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Sorry to hear this, allow yourself good time to grieve, hold each other up x

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So sorry to hear this......I can understand how it feels at this stage ...But dear time to be strong .....God decides what next .....Bcoz I lost my kid, when she was 4yrs still not conceived after that ....Anyone waiting in 2 weeks wait including me I have another 5 days to go....We keep thinking on our baby which may or may not be in our uterus..But we go mad in this 2 ww....Only think tht can make us satisfy is networks like this....But though we don't understand we go still mad by reading all post n by comparision ...What I wanted to tell is...Instead of worrying in 2ww....Let's think that a strong baby will always be with us.... That will reduce our 2ww horrible tension......

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Hugs from me.....

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I really can't bear this......Pls don't keep thinking on it...One day when you deliver a baby and see smiling on you ....As a mother everything will make you fine...Just wait for that day...Pls be cool dear

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Oh goodness, Im so so sorry!! Love to you both!xx

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Thinking of you. Sending love and hugs x x

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I'm so, so sorry........

Take care of one another...

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Iโ€™m so sorry xxx

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Oh hun Iโ€™m so very sorry ๐Ÿ˜ข look after yourselves x

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Wow so sorry to hear dat I pray that God gives you and ur partner peace and comfort in these trying times. Be kind to urself and send lots of hugs.๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

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Ah hun I am so so devastated for you.

How awful. Give yourselves some time to grieve- sending lots of love xxx

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Sending you so much love, youre both in my thoughts xxx

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Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. We had a similar situation 2 weeks ago - we had gone for an early private scan at 8+3 (I now think I must have known on some level that something was wrong) and were told there was โ€˜nothing thereโ€™ which was totally shocking and incorrect as the EPAU showed us the scan with the little one visible but no heartbeat. I canโ€™t imagine what it would be like to find out at 12 weeks. It is so shocking and devastating.

When we went to the EPAU, we initially went away thinking that we wanted to wait for things to happen naturally but ended up going back to get the drugs for medical management at home as I just wanted to get it over with. I read lots of horror stories about the pain with medical management but my experience wasnโ€™t too bad, easier to bear than my normal endometriosis pain. I just dosed up on cocodamol and Maltesers and had a hot water bottle for the cramps.

You will get through this... xx

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I'm so sorry for your devasting loss. Thinking of you xx

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I'm so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your partner during this difficult time xxx Lots of hugs to you both

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Just wanted to reach out and say how sorry I am that you are going through this. Speaking from experience, all I can tell you is to try to look after yourself and especially your mental health. It is hard to put one foot in front of another at this time but please don't isolate yourself and reach out to your family and friends for support. No one should have to go through this and it will impact you forever, maybe even change you in ways you may not have expected. Sending you love at this time.

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You are all amazing ladies and I'm very grateful for your support it is helping you guys show so much love ๐Ÿ˜ xxx

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I thought this was my post at first, this was me in July 12w scan baby measuring 9w mc at 13w itโ€™s so heartbreaking getting to the scan thinking everything things ok no symptoms of mc. I had another prev in Nov too. Truly sorry sending massive hugs xx

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so very sorry for your loss... you will come through this xo

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So sorry and sad to read this. Sending love. X

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I'm so sorry :( xxx

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Iโ€™m sorry to hear this sad news. I totally understand your loss. Take care and look after yourself xxx

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So very sorry to read this. Sending you both lots of love xxx

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Iโ€™m so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. To get so far with all the hope snatched away is beyond cruel. I really hope you and your partner find the strength in each other as it can feel like such a lonely time. Sending love and hugs ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ™ xX

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So devastated for you. Thinking of you both xx

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I am so very sorry to hear this.

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So so sorry to read this.

Sending lots of hugs your way xx

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