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Just a little tough few hours

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So I’ve just come back from a close friends baby shower. And yes you guessed it at least 4 people, none meaning any harm at all said- ohh it will be yours next! Now to be fair, none of them now about my husband and I having any troubles having a baby. But it’s just like being kicked in the stomach. It’s our choice not to share it with anyone but immediate family, and I’m sure if they new they would be mortified they’d said anything! It’s just so hard putting on that brave face, when deep down yes, I’d love it to be mine! It doesn’t help that it’s been 4 months since our last appointment. Sorry to have a moan. Xxxx

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Tugsgirl

Wow. It was so brave of you to go to the baby shower. Well done xx

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Sweets1 in reply to Tugsgirl

Thank you, shes such a good friend, and I’m genuinely so pleased for her xx

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Lisaworthy1981

I feel your pain!! We’ve just had our negative test today and we’ve got a christening to go to tomorrow!! Xx

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Sweets1 in reply to Lisaworthy1981

Oh I’m so sorry 💕xx

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Kyell2

It’s like being a deer caught in headlights isn’t it when someone asks the dreaded children question.

I try to stay neutral so that no one guesses we are having issues but then you second guess that they can tell you are lying 😩.

Well done you for going to the baby shower. Hope you at least had some good cake xx

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Sweets1 in reply to Kyell2

I know! I always feel like my face is burning up when I answer, and they can see through my ‘lies’ 😢. Yes the cake was lovely xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Second Vicky. Your very brave to go hun. Well done. I don't believe in baby showers never have. Give your self a nice treat hun you deserve it

😘💝💝

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Drives in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

Totally agree 😘 Well done you x x x

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Sweets1 in reply to Drives

Thank you xx

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Sweets1

Thank you, deciding on my treat is proving a difficult choice 😂xx

It's amazing how many people just assume that having babies comes so easy to everyone. Hope you're ok xx

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Sweets1 in reply to

I know!! Thank you, yes feeling a bit better now xx

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Sarah_S

I went to one last year. I luckily didn't get any of the comments you did, but still cried before and after it. Was hard to hold it together. Super brave to go, well done for supporting your friend xx

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Sweets1 in reply to Sarah_S

Oh poor you, you just want the ground to swallow you up sometimes, thank you xx

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Leannefb

I have been invited to my husbands nieces baby shower which is happening today and I'm hopefully having my egg transfer on Monday. Unbelievably my husband thinks I should go as I'll be the only family member not there and it will look dodgy!!!! He really doesn't get it plus it would be my worse nightmare even if I wasn't going through icsi as I don't believe in them and they aren't my thing. I'm trying to think of an excuse as to why I can't go !!! Well done for going your one brave lady xx

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Sweets1 in reply to Leannefb

Oh I can totally understand why you wouldn’t want to go. It’s so hard at times. Good luck for Monday, be thinking of you xxx

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Laceygirl

Yes I echo the others - well done for going! They can feel tedious at the best of times. And moan away, this is a place for getting things off your chest! Don’t feel bad! Sending lots of love xx

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Sweets1 in reply to Laceygirl

Thank you xx

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charR

I found baby showers the worst thing to do mentally. I did a few and I struggled mentally before and after. It’s totally normal. But I too did it for my friends. It took 5 years to get our little girl and she’s now two months old. Keep the faith and know there is light at the end of what can be a very dark tunnel at times xx

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Sweets1 in reply to charR

Oh congratulations !! Yes I’m trying to keep as positive as I can! Thank you xx

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