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Beyond devastated to say we had the most terrible news today. Our baby stopped growing around 10 weeks and it appears I’ve had a missed miscarriage. How on earth do you carry on? We are numb, from joy to devestation in one day.

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Twobaby

Really feeling sorry for u..,but what reason did doctors tell?

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Emma04 in reply to Twobaby

Haven’t seen anyone yet, we were sent to the early pregnancy unit but they were so very busy we’ve been asked to come back tomorrow.

Ah bless you Hun, I'm so sorry to read this. I had 2 missed miscarriages & know how devastating they are. All I can advise you to do is take time to grieve & be kind to yourself. Talk to your partner too... I kept my feelings bottled up & it caught up with me further down the line. As heartbroken as you feel now you will find the strength to get through it... I don't know how but we do. Thinking of you x

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Emma04 in reply to

Thank you - that really helps right now, I appreciate your reply x

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Caza2009

I’m so so sorry! I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Sending you all the love in the world xxxx

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Emma04 in reply to Caza2009

Thank you so kind of you to reply x

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Box01

So, so sorry to hear this. It's very unfair and cruel. I suppose you take some time to feel numb, cry and hide under a duvet until you feel a bit better, then the next day you won't cry as much and then you'll starting going back to work, then the next week you'll see some friends and then, eventually, you'll think about next steps for conceiving. It will be a slow process but you'll get there. I suffered a miscarriage at 8 weeks after trying to conceive for a year, it was horrendous, we took a week off work while my body did its thing and me and my husband were together to get through it. Day by day, tear by tear, cuddle by cuddle you'll slowly start getting back to "normal". Xxxxx

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Emma04 in reply to Box01

Thank you, so very numb right now, so many questions and scared of what happens next.

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Box01 in reply to Emma04

I remember saying to my husband when we knew what was about to happen 'I can't do it' I was terrified but just take one step at a time, try not to think of it as a whole, it happens in stages xxx

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E_05

I’m so sorry to read this, its unbelievably heartbreaking. Take time to grieve, in time you will feel stronger again xx

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Autumnmoon

Oh no I am so sorry ! Hope you have lots of love around you x

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TRYING2016

Its such a heartbreaking journey, what a heart break this journey is x

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genten

I'm so so sorry. Xx

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beauty1984

I am so so sorry, life can be so cruel sometimes. Both of you look after yourselves, lean on each other for support and take the time grieve. Sending lots of love your way x

I am sorry to hear your tragic loss.

I had a chemical pregnancy last year & I can’t imagine how awful it must be to get so far and get that news.

Nothing anyone can say will make this better , but know that we are all here for you Xoxo

So sorry Emma....this is terrible news. Xxx

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Clover5

I’m so sorry for your loss. Life can be so cruel, giving you the hope of getting so far aswell. Do your clinic offer free counselling to help at such a difficult time? Sending love 💕Xx

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry. It happened to me twice last year. It is truly devastating and in that moment it feels like your world has crashed around you. I’m sorry xx

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Emma04 in reply to Tugsgirl

Thank you. I’ve been following your updates and I wish the very very best of luck with this cycle - fingers and toes crossed xxx

I’m so sorry I know exactly how you feel I’ve just lost mine at13w went for the scan and measured 9w and another mc before that at 12+3w. I was broken emotionally for months after my first and really thought this time it was going to be ok.

You will be ok but it does take time and you need support. This time it’s been abit easier emotionally but I still tear up.

Take care of yourself sending love and hugs xx

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Emma04 in reply to

Thank you for your reply I’m so very sorry to hear your sad news, and very much appreciate you taking the time to reply. You take care of yourself too x

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Amanda86

So sorry Emma 😞 xxx

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WeeMrsH

Emma04 I am so sorry. Lots of love ❤️

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kt_11

Really sorry. Can’t imagine how you’re feeling but just hope you can get the support you need. Look after each other x

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Devj

So so sorry to read this. This is heartbreaking to read, I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. Hopefully the Unit can have some answers for you and give you some details of a counsellor if you feel you need it. Thinking of you xxx

I’m so sorry.

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_MrsC

Oh I am so sorry. What an awful day for you. It’s so incredibly unfair. Thinking of you at such a sad time. x

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Abaco

So sorry to hear your news, truly devastating X

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Lou7744

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s heartbreaking. I went through a miscarriage last year and it’s such a painful thing to go through.

Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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CC2018

So sorry to read this. I hope you find the strength to get through this difficult time. Sending you healing thoughts xx

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DisneyJL

I’m so sorry, & devastated for you both. This world can be so cruel. 😔 Look after each other xx

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Kiedy84

Oh hun, so sorry to read this. Be kind to yourself in this very difficult time x

Oh no I am so so sorry to read this. Sending you big hugs hugs xxx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

I'm really sorry hun this is the worst news ever. Sending you so much love and hugs 😘💝💝

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vic77

this happened to me in April so I know exactly how I feel and especially that feeling of being scared..ask any questions and pm if you want..I am so so sorry you are going through this. as these lovely ladies said it does get easier with time but allow yourself right now to feel sad upset angry numb and hold each other tight...sending so much love xxxx

I'm so sorry yo read this. Thinking of you xx

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HollieW

Awful news but you will get through it. I hope you can find out some more about what has happened. Be kind to yourself and each other. Sending lots of love at this difficult time xx

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CatDV

So sorry Emma 🙁

I can only imagine the pain you are fgoing thorough.

Sending my love ❤️

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Laceygirl

So so sorry for your loss, this is just awful. Wishing you much peace during this difficult time 💗💗 xxx

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Babysitt

So so sorry Emma am speechless allow yourself to cry and you will feel better don't keep it in yourself it's hard have gone through that 6 times it's not easy but believe me you both of you will pull through stay blessed dear

I am so so sorry this is happening to you, I was also told last week after going back and forth to the hospital that I had a MMC, it really is heartbreaking and I'm off work this week to try and deal with it, I have been through lots of different emotions.

There isn't anything I can say that will make it any better but we are all here for you and I hope that you have lots of love and support around you xxx

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Jane_30

I'm so so sorry......

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Georgie17

So sorry to hear this. I went through the same thing on my third attempt and it's heartbreaking. I had a good cry for days and managed to come out the other side and remain strong as we all know that most of us get out happy ending. We can only remain positive and I hope you find the courage to do so. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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M1980

I am so sorry to read this. Devastated for you both x

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Cinderella5

Im so so sorry Emma, life is cruel! Massive hugs to you both!xx

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Aleelilook

Oh I am so very sorry 😞 it really is devastating and heartbreaking, take your time and be kind to yourself lovely. One thing I can promise you (from experience) you will get through this and find the strength to continue, but there is no rush, don’t put yourself under any pressure apart from taking each hour as it comes xxx

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Turtleswimmin

I was in the same situation as you last November, I'm so sorry for your loss. I got signed off work for 2 weeks automatically from the early pregnancy unit. I didn't need the second week physically but I am so glad I took it for emotional reasons. I watched lots of boxsets, cried a lot and cuddled. I know its cliche to say but time does help heal just don't bottle anything up and let people around you help especially your fella xx sending you all the love in the world xx

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gattonero

that's devastating, I'm very sorry. a big hug hun <3 <3

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Billywhizz10

Sending you my wishes, take time to heal and reach out to a friend.

I can't begin to know what you're going through, but as a good friend who went through 3 miscarriages , she got through it and is now a brilliant mother. Take time to grieve and care for yourself, it will happen. She told us, she was broken and it takes time to heal broken bones, but you will heal.

xxx

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bailey5

I'm so sorry for your loss, it is truly devastating. I had a MMC in June at 10 weeks of our twins and it felt like my world crashed around me. It's especially hard when you've been through so much to get there. I took some time off work to grieve and process everything. I can tell you that slowly I stared to feel like myself again. Try to take it day by day, it can be so overwhelming. I'm so sorry you're going through this xxx

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Penders

I'm so very sorry. Ive had two missed miscarriages in the last year it's just so heartbreaking. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxx

I'm so sorry, sending you huge hugs xxx

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Missy_22

This is so sad I’m so sorry. I know how you feel. We have lost many babies along this cruel journey. Take care xxxx

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WaywardGirl

I’m so sorry to read this. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve. I hope you get some answers from the EPU today x

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Lowamh

Sorry to hear this Emma xxx

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Emma04

Thank you so much for your replies, they have honestly helped. We went to Epu today and they ran through our options. I want to take the operation route - I think I need to know this will be over in a set time physically. Sadly the next slot is not until 11th Sept which may mean I begin to miscarry naturally before this. I’m sad I can’t control this but maybe it’s meant to be. I’m also sad that we didn’t get to keep a picture of our baby, we’ve had three scans but no pictures. Silly perhaps but it’s upsetting me today.

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Emma04

Hey hun. I'm sorry for what's happened again. Hopefully they'll be able to fit you in sooner maybe ask them to ring if a cancellation comes through. Regards the pics ask them at the hospital they'll be in your file if you, can have a copy they shouldn't, deny. I asked for one with my last loss and they give me one.

Sending hugs and love 😘💝💝

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kirstyblue

My heart breaks for you. Take care 💕 xx

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Littlemex

take care thinking of you its heartbreaking :-( I went for my scan today too and an empty sac ,life is so cruel :-( .big hugs xx

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Emma04 in reply to Littlemex

Oh my goodness I’m so so sorry to hear that. Nothing prepares you for the shock and numbness. Sending a hug your way. I’m keeping you in my thoughts xxx

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TRYING2016 in reply to Emma04

I couldn’t agree more xx

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Littlemex in reply to Emma04

thanks you too 🤗. You are so right nothing prepares you for it.take care xx

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Leeuwen

Thinking of you Emma, wishing you both strength. Big hugs xx

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Mantaray75

Absolutely heartbreaking. Thinking of you.

x

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Jonesjp

I’m so sorry to read this hunny I can’t imagine what your going through, sending you lots of love x x x

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