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Ways to tell your mum you’re going through IVF

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1. Sit her down with a nice brew and explain that during her cancer treatment you and your wife will be away for a bit having your own type of treatment

2. Sit down with her and tell her your wife has something to tell her

3. In the middle of her latest appointment to discuss her cancer treatment, when it would start and how it would go... ask the consultant about if your mum can be near your wife during IVF treatment if she’s having cancer treatment. And make sure it’s the first time your mum has ever heard anything about it!

Well; knowing and loving Mr Emu I can categorically tell you it was number three. Allegedly Mr Emu and his mum have the doctors and nurses in fits of giggles most of the time... you know like when she had a scan of her heart and he asked if that was to prove she had one... 😂

So, when he asked about IVF and cancer treatment there was a lot of laughter and Mr Emu’s mum exclaimed: “What a way to find out!” 😂

She was a rock to me during our last cycle so, even though she’s going through her own hell... I’m glad she knows. Mr Emu is relieved she knows. Relieved I’ll be able to be by her side too. And yes........we’ve agreed to eat cake together during the 2ww!

Thanks so much to the women on here who have been through IVF with a close family member suffering with illness; your wise words and hopeful outlook really helped us both. xx

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Cinderella5

I literally don't know how you do it! You are all going through such a massive journey, separately & together....yet you still have time to have your laughs, love & cake! The way you write gets me everytime....always brings a tear to my eye but in a nice way of course! You have a huge gift for writing and capturing an audience....I know that's not your intention but you should write a book my strong lovely lady!!😗

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

I really want to blog all these... it’s my aim. It’s why I put so much effort in to writing on here I guess. The only public place I put stuff is on the Instagram account I have. But I’m struggling to find a name for it! 😂😂😂 I wanted something ‘egg’ related. But all the good ones have gone! So you’re stuck with me here! xx

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

Ps.... thank you for your support lovey xx

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Cinderella5 in reply to emu2016

I know you spoke about blogging before....you so should or write that book!! Very talented that's all I can say and I'm kinda glad that you only have us for now.....we have you to ourselves and we are blessed!! Ha ha ha xx

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

Aww Stop! You’ll make me cry! I think I’m blessed with good stories to write. This journey is bad enough - may as well get something good out of it! And I like my little critics in you lot! 😜😘😂😘

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Cinderella5 in reply to emu2016

Ahhh stop....youll make me cry more!! Well I for one - and clearly not the only one....love your writing!xx

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

Can we all stop crying. I’ll get a gin. That’ll help. Nope. Ffs. 😂 x

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Cinderella5 in reply to emu2016

I've got a gin....ooops sorry!!!😂😗xx

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

Good job you’re so far north.... 😜 x

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Drives in reply to Cinderella5

Completely agree with everything Cinderella5 said!!! 😁

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emu2016 in reply to Drives

Thanks Drives xx

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vic77 in reply to Cinderella5

yup cinderella5 nailed her reply..you are sum wummin as we say up here..brave and strong and we all need cake 🍰🍰🍰 xx

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emu2016 in reply to vic77

I think it’s our northern charm. Though I think you’re bit further north than me! X

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Squeak2

I also love reading your posts! Your a very strong, inspirational lady who manages to smile through all the emotional rollercoasters that your dealing with! I couldn’t agree more with writing a book, would love to read it for a chuckle or two! 💕 xx

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emu2016 in reply to Squeak2

Thanks Squeak! I do love documenting the journey. Mostly the good bits! x

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

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emu2016 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

Right back at you lady xx

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

🍰🍩🍰🍩🍰🍩 2 for you, 2 for Mr Emu and 2 for his Mum. Thinking of you all as always. Diane xxx

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emu2016 in reply to DianeArnold

You’re so generous! I’m holding back on that cake for now... his mum can have my share! So desperate to get about 8-10lbs off in next 4 weeks! x

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK in reply to emu2016

Oops! xx

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emu2016 in reply to DianeArnold

I’ll feel better a bit more healthier xx

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baby2016

Aw brilliant news! And so glad it's all gone well....always good if it's going to end with cake! Haha! I'm sure it made her day tbh, as something else for her to focus on that WILL have a positive outcome! Xx

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emu2016 in reply to baby2016

Goodness; this time I really hope so! 😘

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Agree with Cinderella also. You get me most times, hats off to you all for being such great support to one another. I really hope you all come out the other end with the celebratory ending you all so deserve. Big hugs hun 😘💖

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emu2016 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

Thanks! I don’t know where I’d be without everyone here! x

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llc1987

well i guess it took the pressure off having a 'formal conversation' to let her know...men! From having my mother in laws support through IVF i found that it brought us much closer together which was a huge help at such a difficult time. Enjoy that cake! Maybe even turn it into an afternoon tea x

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emu2016 in reply to llc1987

She was amazing last time round. Even did my hoovering and ironing - don’t think that’ll be on the cards this time round! We’ll enjoy the cake. Not sure we’ll make it out but we’ll see how she feels x.

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Autumnmoon

Wishing good luck to you all x

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emu2016 in reply to Autumnmoon

Thanks! X

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Kyell2

Oh dear. You can always rely on men to just blurt stuff out at the worst possible moment (well I can with my OH anyway).

You sound like you have an absolutely amazing family around you both....sending your mother in law lots of positive thoughts that’s she kicks cancers butt 🤞😊 x

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emu2016 in reply to Kyell2

Thanks! We definitely a force together! x

You definitely need to start that blog lovely - you have such a brilliant way with words. I'm glad Mr Emu was able to tell his Mum, even if it wasn't in the most conventional of ways. It sounds like she took it well anyway!! x

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Bet I’m not as good with words in person. 😜

She took it all for sure. Now hoping we can give her something real to focus on! X

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Rfletcher

You have to tell her, it will fill her with so much joy.

We are in a very similar situation. My husbands Mam has stopped treatment now and is receiving palliative care not only that but my husband is currently in a break from his treatment. He had a bone marrow transplant October and we have found out it didn’t do the job, so he is on a break from treatment at the moment.

All I would say is for his Mam it is a distraction from her pain. She is so excited about it, it gives her something else to think and talk about.

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emu2016 in reply to Rfletcher

She definitely seems to be happy there’s something else to focus on. We wouldn’t have told her if it weren’t for the cancer and treatment I don’t think. But I’m glad she knows now.

Thanks for sharing your experiences and sending big love x

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