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Laparoscopy - Is it worth husband coming with?

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Hi all. I'm due to have a diagnostic Laparoscopy tomorrow. It does say that I can have some one with me but is it worth my husband coming or just coming to fetch me following? Not had any day surgery before and not sure what would be best?? Thanks

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I’ve had two laparoscopys and I really appreciated my hubby to be there with me. I found it helped ease my nerves. Also when the surgeon comes to see you after the op you will not feel quite with it ; they always give you information when it’s impossible to focus 😂so it might be handy to have hubby there listening; the discharge notes are always very vague I speak from experience 😒

I’d recommend bringing a iPad/tablet, maybe some books/mags in case you are waiting a while . Also you will need a dressing gown to cover the hospital gowns you walk into the theatre ;heads up you cannot wear underwear for this op and a pair of slippers. Wear comfy clothes as you might be bloated and uncomfortable afterwards; they will issue painkillers. I had bad pain as I had endometriosis removed both times.but the nurses were great and gave me strong painkillers so I was comfortable 😀

all the staff at hospital are very friendly and will put you at ease 😀 I’ve had three surgeries;which include 2 laps. Going under is really nothing to worry about.

I’ve been referred to a endometriosis specialist who will probably do another laparoscopy (as my endometriosis was left on my rectum and a gynaecologist cannot touch bowels.)

All the best with your laparoscopy; if you have any questions please feel free to ask me xoxo

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P. s important point here; you will need an adult with you 24 hours after the surgery because of anaesthetic. xoxo

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Thankyou so much for your info and words of support.. really appreciate it. My laparoscopy is to confirm Endometriosis and possibly remove/clip my right tube (ive been through all other infertility tests) - he said he won't know exactly until he goes in. Might be an idea for hubby to be there after then to know what's actually happened 😂 xx

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Haha yes it might well do 😂

Endometriosis cannot be diagnosed without a laparoscopy. Always worth checking for: make sure your surgeon checks other organs not just pelvic: it can grow on lots of organs such as bowels. I’m sure they will. 😀

Good luck hope it goes well xoxo

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Will defintaley ask him if I see him before. Thankyou xx

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You should see your surgeon before and after the surgery. He will go over what he’s planning to do and answer any questions you have. ☺️There will probably be additional forms to consent to. You will also meet the anaesthetist prior your surgery. The letter should tell you when you can eat/drink before the surgery; take a note of timings as you will be asked this many times 😂xoxo let me know how you get on xoxo

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Lovely, will write it all down. Yes will do. 😁 xx

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Hi. I had a diagnostic laparoscopy last year. My hubby dropped me off at hospital and went home with our toddler daughter. He collected me when I was ready later that evening for home. I'd say you may want the moral support of your hubby prior to surgery especially if you feel a bit anxious and with never having had surgery before. It is usually a quick procedure but you will feel tender and uncomfortable afterwards. Again, if your husband is there waiting it would be a support. All the very best. If you've any questions please feel free to ask. Xo

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Thank you so much for your reply and words of support. I think I may ask him to come xo

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I had a laparoscopy a year ago to confirm endometriosis and remove an ovarian cyst. I was extremely nervous so took hubby with me. I just wanted to agree with previous comments that all the staff were fab and the whole thing was loads better than I was expecting. The general anaesthetic was fine (that’s the part I was most nervous about as have never had a general before) even after the procedure I had very little pain as was prescribed good pain killers. A good reason to have hubby with you is I was pretty out of it after so cannot remember much so he spoke to the doctor and got my meds 😊 following the lap I did get pain in my chest/shoulders (nothing terrible just discomfort) which was caused by the gas they use in the procedure. A friend told me to drink peppermint tea and keep having a little walk around every hour and that really helped. And one last thing which I wish I’d been warned about, as I was prescribed codeine after a few days I er... had trouble going to the toilet 😳 not good when your still sore down there so I would mention to your Dr about possible taking a laxative, sorry I know it’s TMI but I really wish someone had warned me! Good luck with everything and hope the above helps xx

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ejr1981 in reply to Thegirl84

Thanks so much for reply and info.. really appreciate it, certainly does help. I think the verdict is to defintaley take him and defintaley ask about the laxatives... thanks for the heads up 😁 x

My hubbie wasn’t allowed in but I would have appreciated him being there afterward if he had been there as the ward staff were too busy to really look after me.

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my husband was allowed in with me for the first hour but then all partners were kicked out until visiting late afternoon. Wish he had been able to stay because as others have already said i was pretty out of it when the consultant came round to talk to me afterwards and couldn't remember what she said. Take a pen and paper to write down the main things they say as it could be a long wait until your follow up appointment and trying to find someone to talk you through it again is near impossible. Also take a pillow for under your seat belt as well as having plenty of heat packs for when you get home. One final thing...you will need to do a urine sample when you get there so don't go to soon before or they won't take you through until it's done. Fingers crossed they find some answers for you x

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