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Devestated and broken๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜“

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We had a scare last week and our dreams were shattered today after hearing that at 9 weeks pregnant our babies heart had stopped. I'm not sure how much more we can take we are broken. Booked in on Tuesday for a D&C which I wasn't going to have but I just want to feel back to normal as this hurts knowing my baby has passed away inside of me. Thanks to all you amazing people xx

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I am so sorry to read this. So heartbreaking. I am sure you will find the strength to get through this. We are all here for you. Massive hugs xxx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Awwwww lovely I'm so sorry hun, big hugs ๐Ÿ’—it hurts so bad. We're all here for you hun, look after yourself lovely

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So sorry to hear this. Sending you love xx

I am so so sorry to hear your very sad news. My heart goes out to you and I send you a big hug xx

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Wishfully

Oh my goodness, how utterly heartbreaking, Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. I wish I could say something to make it better! Sending you hugs xx

So very sorry. Thinking of you xx

Oh my god how heartbreaking for you both. Iโ€™m so sorry for your loss. I had a loss at 4 and a half weeks but to lose after seeing a heartbeat how awful and cruel.๐Ÿ’” Thinking of you and I hope the D & C goes ok. xoxo

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Dreamingofbaby

So sorry to hear this. So devastating. Look after u n take care xx

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Hope85

So sorry to hear this! Thinking of you xx

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destiny121

Ahhhhh bless you.... i really dont know what to say as we all go throught the struggle... all i will say it take care of your self and allow time for you to grieve..... lots of love and hugs ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

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Hannah143

My heart breaks for you, Iโ€™m so sorry to hear your news, just devastating. There are no words to take away the pain, sending you big hugs at this difficult time. ๐Ÿ˜˜xxx

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Princes14

So sorry for your loss, youโ€™re in my thoughts. ๐Ÿ’•

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Leo2017

Iโ€™m so sorry!! Iโ€™ve just gone through the same - great heartbeat at 7wks - which was gone at 9+5!! I had no bleeding/cramping pain - nothing to suggest anything was wrong!! I had surgical management on Tue!! ๐Ÿ’”

It truly is heartbreaking and Iโ€™m sorry youโ€™re also having to go through this!! IVF is cruel enough without this as well!! Sending you lots of love & strength!! xx

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Crowpingpongg in reply to Leo2017

They said it's far more common than you think. I'm devestated for you also thanks xx

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Leo2017 in reply to Crowpingpongg

They told us the same!! Altho itโ€™s little consolation to you or I at the moment!!

Now the physical side is over weโ€™re just trying to take one day at a time to try and get strength back!! I hope youโ€™ll be able to do the same!! xx

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Crowpingpongg in reply to Leo2017

Me too. How were you after the removal? Did you bleed a lot and for a while? Sorry to ask you must feel terrible too. My heart breaks for you both too xxxx

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Leo2017 in reply to Crowpingpongg

No problem, I donโ€™t mind you asking - this forum has been a great help to me & I want to be same for others!! Iโ€™ll send you a wee private message now!! xxx

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lianm8

Oh I am so so sorry to hear this. Looking after yourself thinking of you xxx

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you xx

Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this. ๐Ÿ˜ข

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Tugsgirl

Iโ€™m very sorry. I just hate seeing stuff like this, Iโ€™m so very sad for you xx

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Crowpingpongg

Thank you to all you lovely ladies you really give me strength. Your hugs and kind words give me comfort xx

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gattonero

It's so sad, I feel very sorry for you... sending a superbig hug for you hon, count on us here please xxx

So sorry to hear this, sending you hugs xx

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Lou7744

Iโ€™m so sorry to read this, itโ€™s truly heartbreaking. Sending you big hugs ๐Ÿ’• xx

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Justus1

I'm so sorry Hun. I've been there and it gets easier. I promise. I had the d&c and it was defo the right route for us. All my symptoms went away straightaway and I just had to deal with the slight bleeding. But for us, I just needed it to be over. Please feel free to message me if you have any questions xx

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Crowpingpongg in reply to Justus1

That's how I feel it sounds awful but it isn't alive anymore and I just want it out. I want to feel me again not this crazy hormonal mess. Thank you I may ask for support I appreciate it so much xxx

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Justus1 in reply to Crowpingpongg

Total know how you feel. I felt just like that. Wanted it over as quickly as possible. Thinking of you xx

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Squeak2

So sorry for your loss ๐Ÿ’• xxi

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Kittykib77

My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry you're going through this awful heart break. Stay strong xx

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Laceygirl

So so sorry to hear what you have been through - that is just so traumatic. Take care and cry all you need to, sending you much love and hugs xxxx

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Becky179

Oh im so so sorry to read this. I also had this in January. We went for our 12 week scan & baby had died at 9 weeks. I also chose d&c because I wanted it "over" quicker. Looking back now it was deff the right decision. I've had a natural mc previously too. With The d&c I only bled lightly after for 4x ish days & the pains were minimal. It meant i could concentrate on my mental well being sooner. I'm sorry your still having to wait a while for the surgery as i just wanted it done that day.

Sending you lots of love & strength xxx

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Crowpingpongg in reply to Becky179

Thank you for your thoughts and advice it means a lot xx

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Becky179 in reply to Crowpingpongg

Xxx

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry to hear this! Thinking of you!xx

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Tezzabell86

So sorry to hear. Take care of yourself and we are all here for you xxxx

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Missy_22

Iโ€™m so sorry this is heartbreaking Iโ€™m crying for you as this happened to me and I know the pain your going through. Look after yourself and message me if you never to talk xxxx

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Crowpingpongg in reply to Missy_22

Thank you. Can I ask did you bleed before the D&C? Mines not til Tuesday with it being Easter weekend, I feel even more sad as the baby died the day after my dad did 13 yrs ago and I hate Easter even more. Xx

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Missy_22 in reply to Crowpingpongg

No I didnโ€™t bleed before d&c. I had to wait over Xmas I was so sad!!! Such bad timing for your dadโ€™s anniversary as well. Iโ€™m so sorry. Xxx

I'm very sorry to hear this, especially as Easter is already such a sad time for you. I had 2 mmc & D & C's .For me once the D & C's were done & the bleeding stopped I was slowly able to move on. Thinking of you xx

Iโ€™m so sorry to read this. My heart goes out to you and your partner. Sending love and digital hugs. Xoxo

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