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So We got our first ever bfp two weeks ago on our 5th transfer. This wait till 7 week scan next week has felt longer than the 2ww. I am so worried that there is nothing there and the tests were wrong. I have had no sickness just tiredness and lots of gas...sorry tmi. We did two home tests and the hospital did a test on otd and all positive. I know some women on here keep testing and the lines fade. We didn't do this and now I am so worried that on wed we will be told there is nothing in there...this is just torture. I just so hope this is it for us ....love to you all xxx

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Tezzabell86 profile image
Tezzabell86

I know it’s agonising wait. It’s been an agonising 8 weeks from our 12 weeks scan and next Thursday is finally our 20 week scan xxx

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vic77 in reply to Tezzabell86

I can only dream of getting that far..congrats and good luck with rest of pregnancy xx

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Peggy54321

I was the same! Kept worrying that there would be nothing there when we had the scan. Try to keep doing things to keep your mind occupied when you can, literally anything!! It will come around. No news is good news I say, so if there are no signs that there is anything wrong,try to keep thinking positive ❤ easier said than done I know. All the best for Wednesday xx

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vic77

thanks hun xx

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Elizabeth86

Completely relatable post! It’s so hard. I’m 6weeks + 5 and the thought of waiting another 5 weeks for the 12 weeks scan is also torture! Also felt hardly any symptoms other than tiredness until today when nausea has hit hard all day!. Take care xx

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vic77 in reply to Elizabeth86

Nausea is good 🤢Although I'm sure it doesn't feel good. Yeah we 7 weeks today 😮Xx

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Elizabeth86 in reply to vic77

Best of luck with your scan xxx

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E_05

Totally understandable to be feeling that way and your right the tww feels like nothing compared to waiting for your first scan. All I would say is try not to worry about what symptoms you may or may not have, look forward to seeing good news following your scan xx

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vic77 in reply to E_05

Thanks Hun..how you doing? Xx

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E_05 in reply to vic77

I’m okay thanks, waiting for AF’s arrival to get started xx

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lianm8

I feel the same. I feel so nervous about our 7 week scan. I’m taking clear blue digital waiting for it to go to 3+ and it hasn’t yet. I shouldn’t really do it as it’s making me feel worse and more stressed. My scan isn’t until the 20th xxx

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vic77 in reply to lianm8

I chose not to do that as I can imagine it would make me feel worse and I am alreadya mess😯congrats on bfp xx

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hannahi

I can only imagine the torture...I haven't even got to a 2ww yet but the waiting between appointments is a nightmare so must seem forever waiting to see that little heartbeat....only suggestion I have is to fill your diary up & keep yourself as busy as poss until scan day (without exhausting yourself of course!) Xx

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Dreamingofbaby

Def is torture indeed and can def relate. So hard to know what going on in there until u see that scan. So hope it good news and where things shud be for u. Sure it will be. U can do it. Def try keep occupied as can though know easier said than done😕. Take good care xx

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vic77 in reply to Dreamingofbaby

thanks hun xxx

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Daisydo123

I haven't got a date for my 7 weeks scan yet and il be 6 weeks on Tuesday! The wait really does feel alot longer than that 2ww! I just want to know everything is ok in there,I took a clear blue and it's changed to 3+, but am the same as you I keep thinking is there even anything in there lol when is your scan? Xx

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vic77 in reply to Daisydo123

congrats Mrs. .my scan is wed and if all ok we booking for another for reassurance in 2 weeks then got a date for our 12 week..trying to have small goals xx

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Daisydo123 in reply to vic77

Can't wait to hear how it goes, keep us updated, am sure all will be fine it's just means so much to us after everything we have been through to get here xx

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vic77

I know..when will you hear about your scan?xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Oh my lovely. Big hugs your bound to feel the way you are you've fought tooth and nail to get here, try not to symptom spot there's lots of ladies that get nothing all through pregnancy hun. Big hugs trusting Wednesday brings you so much happiness 💗💗🤗😘😘

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vic77 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

thanks hun I so hope we see our baby on wed 😁💜💜💜xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to vic77

I'm sure you will have massive reassurance 💗🤗😘

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Tugsgirl

My lines didn’t fade at all Vic, either time so don’t get too hung up on them. I’m wishing you and your little one well xx

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vic77

thanks hun..means so much from you. we never tested again after otd as I didn'. want to panic over lines fading or not so leaving it all up to scan next week...how you getting on?been thinking about you loads 💜💜xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to vic77

I’m ok Vic. It’s been a hard week with the bfn, being overwhelmed at the thought of finding a new clinic and being Mother’s Day tomorrow but I am ok xx

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vic77

I bet..a hell of a week for you..you are a bunny mummy tomorrow remember...hope you found new clinic..I remember doing that too.. wasn't easy xxx

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Tugsgirl in reply to vic77

Think so.. it’s not as shiny as our old one but the prices are less shiny too xx

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Dunla

I also hope this is your time, sending you lots of luck for your scan. I can only imagine how agonising the wait must be for you xx

I know what you mean! It is the worst wait! Don’t know how other women wait until the 12 week scan. Good luck with your scan x

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CheshireKit

Can completely understand how you feel, every step feels like a torturous waiting game but every step is also a step closer to our wish and you’ve already achieved the first big hurdle 👏🏻

My scan is another 2 weeks away yet and I’m driving myself bonkers worrying it will all go wrong again, I think it’s only natural. Jigsaws are the way forward!!

From what I’ve read on here symptoms can vary so much from person to person so its not necessarily a bad sign if you don’t feel sick.

Hang in there lovely and keep thinking positive thoughts 🍀🍀🍀🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼Xxx

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vic77

Thanks Hun and you tooo...soooooo excited and pleased for you...keep in touch xxxx

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Purpledazzle27

I totally agree, you think the two week wait is the longest until you get your BFP and then have to wait for the 7 week scan. I was a neurotic mess. I did a couple more tests and freaked out after one was faded. Ended up getting the clinic to agree to do blood tests on a rechargeable basis at the hospital so had hcg tests over two days and all was rising but I had spotting too which also didn’t help. I had convinced myself it had all stopped and there would be nothing on the scan but when we finally got in there after a few seconds she said there’s the heartbeat and I burst into tears. I had another scan at about 8w3d as continued to spot and was another long wait to 12 week scan but it got a bit easier after that. I thought I would be beaming the whole time but the worry just took over. I just took one day at a time in the end but still so hard. Always here if you want to message for a chat xx

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vic77 in reply to Purpledazzle27

Thank you so so much...we didn't keep testing as I am anxious enough and now I kind of wish we had as I am so worried for Wednesday. I kind of hoped things might get easier after wed if we see our baby ok. We will be 7 weeks 4 days at scan and think we will book in for 10 week scan for reassurance then we have 12 week scan booked in with NHS so I am just seeing these small steps.wecwant this so badly yet so many sad stories on here I worry life will be cruel this way to us too...I feel we have been through so much this has to be our time...ahhhhhhhh this is so 💩💩💩💩💩thanks again xxx

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Purpledazzle27 in reply to vic77

If I hadn’t had the extra scan at the EPU I probably would have paid for an extra scan so it wasn’t such a long wait. It does go faster after the 12 week one. Xxx

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Choctastic

Hiya. I was exactly the same! I think walking into the clinic on the 7 week scan day was the most scared I've ever been! Even during the scan it felt like forever before she said 'I have good news for you'. I think I must have tested every other day in the lead up. Not sure if it was helpful or not bcos the lines definitely changed from test to test. Currently 10 weeks and trying not to agonize over the next scan but I'm sure the closer it gets the harder it will be.

Good luck with it and let us know how you get on. Xx

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vic77

Hey Hun yup I am the very same. Wow 10 weeks that feels like an age away..congrats to you too....this journey so 💩 I feel I have been robbed of all the happiness and excitement that should come with a normal pregnancy 😭Xxxx

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emu2016

So much waiting for two weeks here and three weeks there! 🙈 Keep the faith. Lots of luck xx

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Hannah143

Yes isn’t it just!! I am suspending belief that it’s real until we get to the 12 weeks as I’m so scared something bad will happen!! I’m 8 weeks + 1, our next Scan is week 9 for the Panorama tests.

I’m thinking of you, it’s bloody hard to not go completely mad!! Plus throw in some insomnia, constipation and sickness for fun!

Hang on in there and let us know how you get on at your next scan

Xx

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vic77

thanks hun..I am all over the place this morning..just feel so anxious. Wednesday can't come quick enough..you hang in there too am right beside you xx

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