First IVF - Just got the call that none of my 8 mature eggs fertilised. There's nothing wrong with my husband's sperm. Everything was going so well.
I don't know what to do with myself. My husband is away on business and I'm just grieving.
I can't believe this is happening to me 😭😭😭
Oh Im so sorry to hear your news, of course you're devastated and being on your own must be awful! I cant really offer much advice apart from let it all out, you do need to grieve. I was in a similar position on my first round, although my embryos fertilised they all died by day 3 so I do understand a little of what you're feeling. I do hope you perhaps have someone around to talk to or that its not long until your hubby comes home. I suspect your clinic will want to do some tests on hubbys sperm but they should offer you a follow up appointment where you can discuss everything at the hospital. Sending big hugs.xxx
Thank you. I have a follow up tomorrow. I don't think they will do any tests - his sperm analysis always came back positive. They said my eggs were mature.
Im not sure if they did IVF for you or ICSI (where the inject the eggs individually to save the sperm having to swim to the egg to see if they fertilise this way), might be something they can look at in future. If you can try to write down some questions to ask at the follow up so you dont forget anything you want to know. Look after yourself and I hope you get some answers tomorrow.xx
How was your follow up? Xxx
I wrote another post where I asked about assisted oocyte activation and explained a little bit about my followup... it wasn't as hopeful as I would have liked.
H Hun this journey is rough. Maybe a change of protocol from long to short or visa versus? See how the consultation goes and then hopefully they will give you some options. Also read 'it starts with an egg' it helped me be proactive about supplements to help egg quality. Just pick what you feel is most appropriate for you. Love n hugs x
It was IVF not icsi. Don't think it had anything to do with egg quality. The sperm didn't even go in to the egg.
I don't know how I can move one from this ... even doing another round of ICsi - how do o remain hopeful and positive. This is such a kick in the gut
I know what you mean, I felt like it was a real smack in the face to have done all the drugs for nothing and nobody prepares you for a fail at this stage! It does make going into a new cycle that bit more nerve racking but every round is different and although I didnt reach pregnancy my cycles were very different but waiting on those update calls was agonising! You will need time to get over this huge knock. Lots of hugs to and from hubby and talking and there is no right or wrong answer, grieve what ever way makes the days easier!xx
So sorry to read this, I don’t have any words of wisdom but just wanted to say I hope you have support around you and your Hubby’s back soon. This journey really is so cruel, take all the time you need to grieve. Hopefully your clinic are able to give you some answers xx
oh hun, I am so sorry. All I can say is take your time to grieve and come back for round 2 when you are ready - its not over yet! xx
Oh no, I’m so sorry for your news. Have you got family or friends to support you? Sending hugs to you 💕 xx
😞 just sending you a massive hug xx
Sorry to hear this hun. Be good to yourself, hope hubbys back soon so yous can comfort each other.keep fighting hun. Sending you big hugs 💗🤗😘
Sorry to hear this. Don't be hard on yourself, you didn't do anything wrong. It wasnt the right time, keep a strong head, focus on yourself and when you are ready for round 2, go for it. It will happen for you x
Sending you lots of hugs 🙁xx
Oh I'm so so sorry to hear this. One thing that the clinic may take for this for a future cycle is that ICSI might be of benefit. That is not useful for you right now I'm afraid, I hope they can give you some kind of information to explain. x
So sorry to hear this xx
So sorry to hear this. So disappointing and heart breaking. When we had our nhs ivf we didn’t get any eggs but I think your situation is even harder. I’m sure you’ll get there if you try again but for now you’ll need a bit of time to grieve. I hope you have people supporting you and that hubby will be home soon - really hard to be separated from each other at this time. Sending you huge hugs xxxx
So sorry to hear this. I hope you get your follow up appointment soon and they are able to suggest a way forward. Xx
I'm so sorry to hear this. Take time to grieve and take care of yourself. Thinking of you. xx
So sorry to hear this, sending u hugs xx
I am really sorry and totally understand how you must be feeling... The facts, the failures we face during this journey are tough, but the lack of explaination... For me that is the worst as I feel empty of what to build my hope on
I just want to send you a Big hug and hope they give you useful information today.
Xxx
Really sorry to hear this. How hard for you 😞😞 xx
Sorry to hear this. But Maybe this gives you a reason for why things haven’t worked so far & Icsi will be a good option ? For me even if ivf fails it gives you answers to get closer to bfp. Hugs x
Hope you're doing ok abcgirl xxxx
Hanging in there - thank you. I found a forum at fertility friends with a number of people who have undergone the same thing I'll be going through so that has provided me a source of hope :). Thank you for message
I'm glad you've found another source of support for this difficult time - you've been a great source of support to me and setting up our group so thank you. I hope you get back up on the horse asap and all the luck in the world to youxxx
that's so bloody unfair to get your hopes up and then have it result in nothing and it stinks!
Devastated 😔
Devastated 💔😢 
Devastated 😢
Devastated 😢
Devastated!!!
