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๐Ÿ’”my heart is breaking and I feel numb.

I feel like a lot of sad posts have happened lately and unfortunately I have one to add. I had my 10 week scan today and I found out there was no heartbeat. Baby measured 8 weeks 1 day so it must have happened two week ago which I find really hard to process. I'm thinking of letting myself naturally miscarry but may move to medical.

We are both distraught and trying to process this at the mo. I'm finding this ivf process too hard and not sure how I'll ever get the courage to try again!

I'm so sorry this is sad news because I wanted to give others hope. This is why I documented the whole process. Everyone going through this journey Please keep hope. There will be a baby at the end of this journey! Love to you all โค๏ธ

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Sunshine09

Oh hunny this is so sad,๐Ÿ˜ขAbsolutely devastating for you and your partner, take plenty of cuddle time for each other, thinking of you, and yes always hope!! Hope for us all including you, keep believing it will happen โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹

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Lynnr54

Iโ€™m so sorry to read this. Take your time to grieve and look after yourselves before worrying about whether youโ€™ll ever have the courage to try again. Get through it one day at a time x

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Dream32

Oh my gosh. I am so sorry to hear your sad news ๐Ÿ’”

Take care and be kind to yourself x

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kumkums

oh my God. I am so sorry to read this. It is very devastating. My heart goes out to you and hubby. Please stay strong. Yes we will keep hoping and fighting till we get those babies.

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Penders

I am so sorry to read this. This journey is just awful sometimes. Sending you a big hug. Look after yourself xxxxx

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Amanda86

So sorry Claire ๐Ÿ˜ข Xxx

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SJA14

So sorry to read this, look after each other xx

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Filmgirl101

Iโ€™m sorry for your loss.

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kt_11

Oh I really canโ€™t believe Iโ€™m reading this. So sorry for your loss xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take time to recover and grieve together. Will be thinking of you ๐Ÿ˜ขโค๏ธ xxx

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Sa_Ra

Oh C_L_A_I_R_E Iโ€™m so sorry to hear us ๐Ÿ’”

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Hope85

So sorry to hear this ๐Ÿ˜˜ xx

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Tugsgirl

No no no ๐Ÿ˜ข almost exactly the same as what happened to me a few weeks ago. Iโ€™m so so sorry ๐Ÿ˜ž pm me if you want to talk xx

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry to read this Claire, just heartbreaking! Thinking of you both, big hugs!xx

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Sherry07

Oh no honey; this is absolutely heart breaking :( You`ve given us so much hope with your posts ... Please update us on your next moves; we are all here for you. Sending hugs and prayers x

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Daxi16

So sorry no words can you make you feel better at this time but like you said just remember there will be a baby at the end of this. Keep strong and look after yourself xx

I'm so very sorry. Take care x

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Loopielu

Oh no! I am so sorry to see this. Sending you so much love xx

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Poppy16

Very sad news. So sorry. Thinking about you and praying for you. One day at a time. Xo

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louisear

my heart breaks for you. Take time to grieve. Our baby died at 9 wks but didn't find out until nearly 14 wks so can imagine how you're feeling. We're all here for you for support. Massive hugs xx

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that's so bloody cruel when you have no idea anything's wrong and then your dreams are shattered. Im sorry of your loss.

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Shanks_21

So sorry for your loss lovely thinking of you sending you lots love and a big hug x

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ICSIRose

๐Ÿ’” so sorry to be reading this! Look after yourself xxxx

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MrsTM13

I am so so sorry to hear this. Literally nothing anyone can say will make you feel better but know you are not alone. I felt so isolated in my grief when our cycle ended in miscarriage and I now know there were so many people I could have spoken to.

Take time to heal and process your loss. I couldn't entertain ivf for over a year after our little baby died but please don't lose hope.

Thinking of you. Xx

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Lynnedevine85

Aw Claire I'm so so sorry for your loss . Love to you both and hope you find the strength to get through this . I'm so sorry xxx

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N_M_10

Oh my goodness I am so sorry to read this post ๐Ÿ˜ญ Thinking of you both at this horrific time. ๐Ÿ˜˜ xx

So sorry to read this. Itโ€™s the most heartbreaking time ๐Ÿ˜” xx

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E_05

I am so sorry to read this, totally feeling your heart break. Take all the time you need to grieve, weโ€™re all here for you xx

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kelsbels88

Oh sweetheart Iโ€™m so sorry ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

Please take some time to grieve and be kind to yourself.

Xx๐Ÿ’•

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katya38

So sorry claire it is such a heartbreaking process and so unfair. Really hope you ve got lots of support around you xx

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Leo2017

Oh no I'm so sorry to read this!! Devastated for you, this is so unbelievably cruel!! ๐Ÿ’” xx

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Phoebenooby

So sorry ๐Ÿ˜ข How cruel xxx

sorry to hear that. That's so bloody cruel when you get your hopes up and then it all gets snatched away so cruelly.

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Jonesjp

Hunny this makes me want to cry, your so supportive on here with so many of us and really deserve your happy ending. Take care of yourself, sending lots of love x x

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Rubinaa

Im so sorry hun. Sending you loads of warm

Hugs. ๐Ÿ˜ข

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Lucyloo81

Aw Claire I am so so sorry to hear this no words will help right now. Take care of you and your husband xxxx

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Runner90

I'm so sorry for your loss โค๏ธ

I'm so sorry to hear this. I feel so sad for all you ladies who have lost your beautiful babies recently. I hope you'll feel strong enough to try again soon. Take care xx

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7AVA

Iโ€™m so, so sorry to hear this Claire. I have suffered from a missed miscarriage myself so know the devastation it brings. I wasnโ€™t given a choice and was left for things to happen naturally. Thinking of you and your husband. Be kind to each other xxxxx

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Jhenderson

So sorry to hear this. Heart breaking. Xx

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Tara2016

So sorry to hear this! I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now. Try and stay strong and be kind to yourself xxx

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sunshineyellow

So sorry to hear this xx

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-noodles-

i am so sorry for your loss. there is no rational explanation, life can be so cruel.

sending love & strengthโœจ๐Ÿ’•โœจ

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Sweets1

So sorry to hear this, donโ€™t give up hope, thinking of you ๐Ÿ’•

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Fredaflintstone

Oh no Claire! I donโ€™t know what to say. So heart breaking. Sending you big hugs and strength and love. Here if you want to talk, shout, scream, cry. So sorry ๐Ÿ˜ข xxx

So sorry to hear this, take care of yourself and sending huge hugs xx

Oh no, Iโ€™m so sorry. Iโ€™ve had two natural miscarriages and I would do it this way again if necessary. One was painful (very) and one was not, but I think if I had the pain again I would be aware that stronger painkillers are out there and Iโ€™d go to the dr or a&e and ask for them.

It sounds weird but I felt sort of proud that my body was able to manage to miscarry by itself if it had to do it at all. At least it was something I could do without too much help, having needed external help for every other blooming step of the process. And my cycles went back to normal straight away, which Iโ€™m sure is because it was a natural miscarriage each time.

Sending you a gentle hug.

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AllWeNeedIsluv

I'm so so sorry hun. I know what you mean regarding sad news I feel it's all around us recently. You couples have ultimate strength I swear and don't think about doing anything just yet. Just give yourselves time to process this sad news and find the strength to get through it. Remember were all here and those that know exactly what your going through can help offer advice. I'm so sorry hun. Lots of love to you ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜

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_MrsC

I'm so sorry for your loss. What an awful time for you both. Sending you a big hug and my prayers. xxx

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romaluna2015

Sorry for your loss xxx

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Shan123

C_L_A_I_R_E I am sorry for your loss honey ๐Ÿ˜ญ I know there is a baby waiting for all of us ๐Ÿ˜

I have 2 months wait now maybe in December they will book me in to see the doctor fingers crossed ๐Ÿคž lets see after that how long they gonna take to transfer the embryo ๐Ÿค”

All the best to all lovely ladies please never give up ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜˜

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Maikai

This is exactly what happened to me. I cannot tell you how sorry I am youโ€™re going through this. It is a very difficult thing to process. Iโ€™m now 4.5 months on from being told the same news and it does get easier but it never really makes total sense. Be good to yourself. Thinking of you xx

Thinking of you xxx

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Anipea

Oh no, really sorry to hear this - its so unfair. Thinking of you xxx

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Janop79

I'm so sorry for you loss xx

So sorry for your loss canโ€™t imagine what your going through be there for each other sending hugs xxx

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Dow18

๐Ÿ’”โค

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