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Unfortunately as the title says we have had a missed miscarriage and feeling rather heartbroken πŸ’” and disappointed. Going to wait one more week to see if it happens naturally and then think about medical management. Just want it over with now the past two weeks of scans have been awful.

At least we have two Frosties so we will be able to go again when we are ready.

Good luck to everyone wherever you are in your journey xxx

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry. As you know I’ve just been through my second one and opted for medical management. I had a d and c with the first one in April. If you have any questions please feel free to ask me. It’s a scary time. Again I’m so sorry xx

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Penders in reply to Tugsgirl

Thanks Tugsgirl I'm still trying to get my head around it all. How are you doing? Xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to Penders

It will take time. I’m still getting my head around it now.. Physically I’m doing ok xx

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C_L_A_I_R_E

I'm so sorry to hear this Penders. Please look after yourself. Love n hugs xxx

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Penders in reply to C_L_A_I_R_E

Thank you xx

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Dream32

I'm so sorry to hear this 😒

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Penders in reply to Dream32

Thanks x

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Lorry1984

Im so sorry to hear this. Sending you a big hug! Take care of yourself. xxx

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Penders in reply to Lorry1984

Thank you xxx

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DC13

I am so sorry to read your post and completely understand how you feel. I had a missed miscarriage earlier in the year. I opted for surgery after given three options or routes to go down. If you want to PM me then please feel free.

I know how lonely and isolating this time can be.

Take care of yourself and give yourself time.

xxx

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Penders in reply to DC13

Thank you. I don't think my husband quite gets it and we haven't really told anyone. Good luck with your journey xxx

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Lou9

I'm so sorry Penders . Such sad news. Thinking of you. Xx

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Penders in reply to Lou9

Thank you xx

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Amanda86

So sorry πŸ™ Xxx

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Penders in reply to Amanda86

Thank you xx

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Cinderella5

So sorry this has been confirmed. Thinking of you!xx

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Penders in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you xx

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misswinky34

I'm sorry ❀

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Penders in reply to misswinky34

Thank you xx

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E_05

I'm so sorry to read this, I had a MMC last year and opted for medical management, it is just heartbreaking. Take time to grieve and look after yourself xx

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Penders in reply to E_05

Thank you. I was really happy to read that you had a good ultrasound scan the other day. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xxx

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E_05 in reply to Penders

Thank you, that's so lovely of you to say when your going through such heartache xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

I'm so so sorry to read this hun. It's awful and your going to need time and understanding comforting ppl around you. Be good to yourselves and remember there's others on here that have been through the same to chat to whenever you need too. Sorry hun it's so cruel this journey. Lots of love πŸ’—πŸ€—πŸ˜˜

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Penders in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

Thank you xx

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Bumblebee15

So sorry you are going through this. Thinking of you xx

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Penders in reply to Bumblebee15

Thank you xx

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ICSIRose

πŸ˜ͺ I’m so sorry to read this, look after yourself xxxx

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Penders in reply to ICSIRose

Thank you xx

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N_M_10

So sorry to read this. Thinking of you xxx

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Penders in reply to N_M_10

Thank you xx

So very sorry. Take care x

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Thank you xx

I'm so sorry to read this - I had a mmc from my first round earlier this year and it was such a shock - I didn't even know that could happen.

I chose surgical management as I could t bear to lose it naturally but you'll make whatvever decision feels right for you. Feel free to message me if you have any questions.

Also take all the time you need to grieve don't let anyone rush you xxx

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Penders in reply to Waitingforourmiracle

Thank you. Sorry to read that you have just had a bfn it's not easy either way is it. Tho I almost lost it at work today so hard keeping a brace face on it all. Sending you a hug xxx

So sorry to hear this, take care xxx

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Thank you xx

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A-Jay-

So sorry love.. πŸ™

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Thank you xx

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sandy112

Sooo sorry hun

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Penders in reply to sandy112

Thank you xx

Sending you loads of sympathy.

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Penders in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

Thank you xx

So sorry to hear this, life is so cruel xx

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Penders in reply to

Thank you. Good luck with your next round xxx

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Thank you x

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MrsTM13

So sorry. It's such a hard thing to experience and nothing anyone says will make a difference. Thinking of you x

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Penders in reply to MrsTM13

Thank you. Good luck with your 2ww. Fingers crossed for you xx

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MrsTM13 in reply to Penders

Thank you. Take care of yourself. X

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Elou81

So very sorry x take care of each other during this difficult and sad time xx

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Penders in reply to Elou81

Thank you. Good luck with your pregnancy xxx

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Elou81 in reply to Penders

Thank you hun xxx

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baby2016

Aw Penders, I'm so so sorry for your loss. I've been there and it's truly devastating. It will take you a while to recover, just let the tears roll when they come and rant as much as you want. It's much better to let it all out than keeping it bottled. I hope naturally things do there thing. Sending you a huge hug xx

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Penders in reply to baby2016

Thank you been trying to hold the tears in for last two weeks, I think it will hit me more once it starts happening. Good luck with your DE journey, I'm glad you found a match. Xxx

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baby2016 in reply to Penders

Aw thank you. Thinking of you and it will hit home once things sadly happen. Be kind to yourself and only do things that you want to do and take all the time you need to grieve xx

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Sunshine09

So sorry hunny, thinking of you both πŸ’”πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

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Penders in reply to Sunshine09

Thank you xx

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Poppy16

Very sorry to hear your terribly sad news. I've been there 3 times and understand the disappointment, pain and frustration. If you need any advice, answers to questions etc please pm me and I will be happy to try and help. Thinking about you and praying for you. It is a frightening and anxious time. Take care. Xo

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Penders in reply to Poppy16

Thank you Poppy16, sorry that you have had to go through 3 miscarriages. It's so tough this journey. I hope that you get answers or that you've had answers. Don't give up hope of a sibling for your daughter. Thanks for your prayers I'll be praying for you too ❀️ Xx

Oh Penders, this is so awful for you. I’m so sorry to hear ur sad news. Wishing u every bit of luck with ur 2 Frosties 🀞xx

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Thank you. Good luck with your next round and have a fantastic wedding day xx

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Mircle2

So sorry for your lost hun x thinking of you x πŸ’”

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Penders in reply to Mircle2

Thank you xx

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Leo2017

So so sorry to read this!! Heartbreaking for you!! Look after yourself!! 😒xx

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Penders in reply to Leo2017

Thank you Leo2017. I hope you have been taking care of yourself after your BFN and I wish you lots of luck in your next round Xxx

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Magc27

I’m so sorry, same thing happened to me but after stopping the ivf meds’ two days later I started bleeding, it’s not easy but be kind to ur self. My prays are with you xxxx

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Penders in reply to Magc27

Thank you xx

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Loopielu

Just sending love and a gentle hug to you xx

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Penders in reply to Loopielu

Thank you. How did your baseline scan go? Xx

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Loopielu in reply to Penders

It was ok thanks lovely. Bit of a palaver but we found both ovaries and all is good. Lining was ok too, so we're onto to stims tomorrow. xx

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Penders in reply to Loopielu

Good luck xxx

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Loopielu in reply to Penders

Thank you. First hurdle down; rest to get over now xx

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Gifty2018

So sorry to hear about your news be strong πŸ€—

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Penders in reply to Gifty2018

Thank you xx

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lFarrah

so sorry to hear this hope your ok and are recovered. I had one at the end of September I had to have the tablets but nothing but pain I have has an internal scan showing the oregnancy has come away but nearly 8 weeks on and still no period just wondering how long it took your body to be back to normal. xx

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Penders in reply to lFarrah

I'm sorry that you have been through this too. I'm waiting for my body to get back to normal, no period yet but my boobs have gone down and my face has broken out I don't usually get breakouts so I'm assuming it's hormone related. Have you had a negative pregnancy test since your loss? The epu said that after the negative test it could be another 3 weeks before period starts and for some women it could take even longer! I hope that your body gets back to normal soon xxx

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lFarrah

hope your ok it is just awful isn't it. have you been pregnant before? yes I have had a negative test about 4 weeks ago. its just taking so long I just want my circle back to normal I just don't know how long to wait before I ring back the EPU or what to do to seek advice? thank you I hope yours does too xxx

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Penders in reply to lFarrah

The waiting is the worst bit. We seem to always be waiting, waiting for a cycle to start, fertilisation or 2ww etc! Maybe you could give it a couple more weeks and then ring epu if your cycle hasn't returned. I have been pregnant before 10 years ago now no problems with that one. This pregnancy was my first in 3 years of ttc. Xx

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lFarrah in reply to Penders

How long did it take for your cycle to get back to normal? Oh really least we’re lucky enough to both have a child each it’s just the missing jigsaw. I rang Epau they saud give it another week so I will see. X

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