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List of positive thoughts after BFNs

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Might sound like I silly idea, but I thought we could make a list together of words we tell ourselves to keep us positive after a BFN. It could help everybody! I will start with a few:

- Ok, It didn't work this time but I really don't know what will happen next time

- I can enjoy drinking wine these days!

- In 40 years time I will be an old lady and these bad times will mean little in a life full of joy and good memories

- Whenever I get my positive and my baby, all this I am going through will make me appreciate things better

- Suffering will not help. Try to remain positive; a positive attitude doesn't assure success, but will always help!

Please add those mantras that help you! ;-)

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Tugsgirl

There was nothing I could have done differently/I did everything I could

xx

There are plenty of people in the world far worst of than me.

I will not give up

Maybe our family is ment to be created in a different way

Fall down today get back up tomorrow u just never know

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Ash2016

This was just a test run; next time the doctors will have a better idea of how my body works and what is best for me.

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Fredaflintstone

We are so strong and our babies will be so loved when they arrive xx

I am not a failure. It is chance, not my fault.

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A-Jay-

It wasn't the best time for me. God has better plans for me.

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vic77

Be a warrior not a worrier. Good things come to those who wait. What doesn't break you makes you stronger xx

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NsKaz

Love this post - thank u! 💕

Being brave is not a matter of luck: staying in the battle when you are lucky is easy but keeping fighting when things don't come is the real meaning of strong. We are the really strong ones and crying is not weakness!

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Gia_9

- No infertility is absolute. You'll find a way to deal with it - just need to keep the hopes high and try on.

- Failures are not to get demotivated but to rise up stronger. Next time I'll be more determined, more prepared and certainly more cautious.

- Good things take a little longer to happen and a baby is certainly the best thing, that's what taking the extra time and effort. Totally worth it.

Lastly, a failure in pregnancy is definitely heart wrecking. But ladies, it's also a yardstick to check your relationship with your partner. Hard times let you know the real face of people. Amidst of all that distress and grief, you'll either end up having the strongest bonds or let loose the unnecessary tagging; either way you'll be at a benefit.

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luv2017

Everything will come to you at right time. if not its not a right time. Wait and get it ,you will worth it..

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