Infertility headache.

[Bennamum]

Hi everyone, I would like to share what has caused me sleepless nights. Being married for 8 years is eternity without bearing a child. I am 33 years and have gone through thick and thin trying to conceive. Being the laughing stock of the estate, I can't handle this any longer. My husband has withdrawn both financial and emotional support. Infertility is drowning me friends. I want to know how I can get my own child. I am not into adoption because my husband can't stand a child that is not his. The pressure is too much even from family side.

Any information of a clinic that I can attend and get helped is highly welcomed. I am willing to pay any amount for successful treatment. I want this infertility issue to be a thing of the past. I am getting desperate. The most painful news is that my husband is warning for a divorce. I want to win him back when he get the good news that is going to be a father. My life has changed completely since my mind is always thinking about a child. I pray to get a clinic that will help me feel the joy of motherhood. I am deaf to all those who think infertility is a curse and untreatable. I will be the new mother in town soon! Please advise me.

[Darlingm]

My heart is with you dear one. Please be strong because you need to be stress free for the sake of your health. My friend is also sailing the same boat with you. She has tried all herbal medicine and non has worked. She is also at the verge of giving up. But I keep reminding her her that tomorrow is great day. I always remind her that it was not her choice that she is facing the infertility challenge. She is married for about 5 years though her husband is supportive. The husband was the first one to get checked and found he was okay. When we find the clinic, we shall be the first to inform you dear. This challenge needs to be ktackled by the strong-hearted.

I hope your husband support you because infertility is treatable. It's just a passing cloud. Your dreams of being a mother is valid. Keep at it.

All the best. I will keep in touch.

[Bigmoma1]

Infertility is a vocabulary that I have only learnt with friends. I can't tell the pain it causes. I can't even explain the patience it needs one to have. I am not bragging to be a mother without struggle. I simply want to say that you baby will come. After all this trouble, the light at the end of the channel will shine upon you.

I know you might wonder where you went wrong, but infertility is treatable. The joy of being a mother will soon be part and parcel of you. Your hubby will soon treat you like the queen you are. I have sent an email to my aunty who can give you the direction to a popular clinic in UK that can handle your case. You are not alone in this. I will email you soon.

I know the next time you will be posting, it will be a birthday party. Your angle will have arrived and your joy fulfilled. Plus your hubby will have discovered his mistakes.

###Warm hugs friend, keep calm.

[Choosy]

I am sorry for what you are going through @Bennamum. I am writing this as a husband who had a wife who has gone through such a challenge. Infertility issue is a common problem with couples. Whether it's for prolonged or short period of time. In such a time, when the problem is identified to be the female infertility, the husband should be strong for the wife. This is not time to file for divorce. Neither is it time to go to other woman. You are only making the problem worse. When you stress ryour wife, she might experience hormonal imbalance which makes the matter worse.

As a husband, put yourself in her shoes, would you like her leave you because of infertility misfortune? Then be realistic and offer her all your support. Get her a good health clinic. Pay her treatment and always remind her she will one day be a mother.

Always assure her that all will be well with time. Infertility is real but curable. Will keep in touch if I get any helpful clinic.

Cheers.

[KatVonB in reply to Choosy]

Absolutely agree with what you said @choosy. Its appalling that the gentleman wants to end his marriage for this issue; i think @bennamum you should have some therapy or counselling with your partner to address this issue - the stress of this alone could be inhibiting your chances of success too.

There are many opportunities out there; herbs like vitex and evening primrose oil, african Maca, shatavari etc these are diff herbs that can be taken for support but remind your husband that infertility is a joint situation not solely yours. He should be supportive rather than putting further pressure on you.

Hope you didnt mind what i said xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

If you are in the U.K., please ask your GP to refer you to an infertility clinic. Also, maybe consider relationship counseling with your husband. Xx

[vinayseelam]

Hi..

My heart is with you dear one. Please be strong because you need to be stress free for the sake of your health. please don't feel sad, for every problem there is a solution .There are many specialists who are dealing these problems so, consult any one of them.I hope your husband support you because infertility is treatable. It's just a passing cloud. Your dreams of being a mother is valid. Keep at it.

Thank you..