Bfn for us unfortunately

[_MrsC]

Not surprised as we had a poor starting point. Still disappointed as that was our last funded attempt and nothing in the freezer. We can't afford to go again. Think we'll just enjoy being the two of us from now on. We're very blessed to have each other. Thanks for everyone's support. I wish you all the best of luck on your journeys. Lots of love, Vic xxx

[Hidden]

Hi Mrs C im terribly sorry for your bfn.take care of each other and all the best for the future.hugs to to you.xx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. A bfn for us hopefully means a bfp for someone else. I think a couple of other ladies were testing today. xxx

[vic77]

I am so sorry xx

[_MrsC in reply to vic77]

Thank you. x

[Loopielu]

So sorry to see this lovely. Much love. Take care of yourselves xx

[_MrsC in reply to Loopielu]

Thank you. Will do. Looking forward to getting my body back. xxx

[Loopielu in reply to _MrsC]

I hear you on that doll. But today, go have some alcohol, caffeine, cake and a fun day with hubby. xx

[_MrsC in reply to Loopielu]

Thanks. About to have a coffee. xxx

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry to hear the outcome wasn't better. take care of yourself and I hope you and your partner find peace and happiness xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I think we will have moments of happiness but I doubt we'll ever find total peace. There will always be something missing for us. x

[Hidden in reply to _MrsC]

Of course I totally understand, take care of yourself xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. Will do. x

[-noodles-]

i am so sorry for your loss - sending strength your way 😘

[_MrsC in reply to -noodles-]

Thank you. xxx

[Aleelilook]

So sorry to see this, words aren't particularly helpful, but be kind to yourself, and take some time xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Aleelilook]

Thank you. xxx

[Hidden]

So sorry to hear this, look after yourselves xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. x

[7AVA]

So disappointed for you, I've been thinking of you this week and had really hoped this was your time. No words can make it better but you are in my thoughts. Look after yourselves. XxxxX

[_MrsC in reply to 7AVA]

Thank you. Just so gutted. It all feels so very far away right now. xxx

[7AVA in reply to _MrsC]

So sad for you. Be kind to yourself. Xxx

[Rainbow_86]

So sorry.... my heart is broken for you. I hope you find your happiness what ever you decide. It's so so cruel that this has to happen x

[_MrsC in reply to Rainbow_86]

Thank you. It is hard. It will make us stronger but feeling pretty weak today. xxx

[CountryCat]

This is so sad Vic...I had everything crossed for you You have been so brave and stoic throughout all of this. I can only hope that there are better, happier days ahead for you and your husband xx

[_MrsC in reply to CountryCat]

Thank you. It's tough but I must be grateful for what I do have even if it isn't all that I desire. xxx

[Fredaflintstone]

So sorry to hear this Mrs C. It's heart breaking. I don't know what to say. Yo have been such a sippprt to all of us and are truly an amazing and inspiring woman. Sending you strength and love. If you want to talk at all please do inbox me. Enjoy your coffee and look after each other when you're ready xx

[_MrsC in reply to Fredaflintstone]

Thank you. You're very kind. Just feel heartbroken at the moment. xxx

[Tugsgirl]

Oh Vic I'm sorry to hear this. Wishing you health luck and happiness for the future xx

Vicky

[_MrsC in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you. You're very kind. xxx

[Hidden]

So sorry. This process is so hard and cruel sometimes. Thinking of you xx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. It is cruel. Feeling really disappointed. xxx

[Hidden in reply to _MrsC]

I can only imagine how you feel. Give yourself time to grieve and try and do some nice couple things and then make decisions about your future. Xx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. I will. I think our decision is made for us. It's too tough and expensive to continue. Xxx

[Hidden in reply to _MrsC]

I can understand that. I couldn't do this for years as it would just destroy our lives. X

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely. The most important thing to me is my marriage and I can't jeopardise that. Ivf is so stressful and takes up so much of our lives. xxx

[Hope_4_2017x]

Sorry to hear this news xx

[_MrsC in reply to Hope_4_2017x]

Thank you. Good luck with everything. I'm really pleased you didn't have to go through this heartache. It really is unbearable. xxx

[Edinburghdreaming]

So sorry to hear this. Life really is a shit sometimes. Be kind to yourself xx

[_MrsC in reply to Edinburghdreaming]

Thank you. Yes it is but I must remember that I am lucky in other ways. xxx

[baby2016]

Aww Vic 😢 Sending you a huge hug. I'm on my last funded round too. This whole ivf journey is a real tester of everything but if you have a strong relationship that def helps. I still laugh to myself when I hear my hubby asking me about blastocysts and how thick my womb lining was that day etc

Have some time out and see how you feel from there. DE is our next and final try.

Hope you do something nice to keep your mind busy today xx

[_MrsC in reply to baby2016]

Thank you. I'm not sure they'll suggest DE for us as they've not suggested we should. I really hope you get your happy ever after. xxx

[Hidden]

I am so so sorry MrsC, lots of love to you and be gentle with yourself. We are al here for you xxxx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Much appreciated. Xxx

[London7]

I'm so sorry to hear that. As others have said, I really hope you are able to take some time out and look after yourself and grieve. I'm not a fatalist but do think that you can never know what amazing paths will open to you in the future or what heartbreak you will avoid as a result of what are the awful things life throws at you. So I really, really hope that as a result of this BFN there is something wonderful for you in life, just around the corner Xxx

[_MrsC in reply to London7]

Thank you. I do believe that there is a plan for us all and am

beginning to accept that children are not on ours. I'm very thankful that a strong marriage is though and feel truly blessed to have my best friend on our journey together. xxx

[Hidden]

I'm so, so sorry to hear this lovely. Totally heartbreaking. No words can help but just know that im thinking of you. Sending you & hubby hugs, love & strength. Xxxx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I'm incredibly grateful for everyone's kind words and good thoughts! xxx

[jam1982]

I'm so sorry, it's such a tough situation to find yourself in! You sound do positive! 💕 Our funded cycles failed and after 3 transfers we had nothing left in the freezer! Our last cycle ended just before Christmas! We're in the same situation, that we can't afford to pay for any more treatment! We've decided to take a year to come to terms with things and hopefully go down the adoption route next year! Feel free to message me if you like, it takes time to recover! Be kind to yourselves! Xxx

[_MrsC in reply to jam1982]

Thank you. I might take you up on that. I'm interested in how you come to terms with the adoption route. I wish you the very best of luck for your adoption. xxx

[jam1982 in reply to _MrsC]

Anytime! No one knows what it's like unless they've been there! Xxx

[_MrsC in reply to jam1982]

Yes that's true. I just am not sure about making that jump to adoption. How do you finally come to terms with it and what about your family and how they will react. x

[jam1982 in reply to _MrsC]

I don't think we've come to terms with it, we had a lady from the agency come to speak to us in February, because we'd been through ivf, we couldn't do anything for 6 months, so we booked onto a training course for june but then decided we weren't ready and that we wanted to live a little, so we're having a year out, but I think we will go down the adoption route as we've got so much love to give! The part I'm struggling with is the possibility of never experiencing pregnancy and labour! Our family have been nothing but supportive in our decisions, as are our friends! My husband will make an amazing father one day! Xxx

[_MrsC in reply to jam1982]

That's lovely! I'm really glad for you. I think our families would be supportive but I worry about those comments that will get made. My husband would be incredibly patient and fun loving as a father. It kills me that I can't give him a baby. We do have a lot of love to give too but it's just so hard to make that decision. I guess we could explore the avenue before heading down it, like you. xxx

[jam1982 in reply to _MrsC]

I would say do it, but take the time out first, it's nice not to have to worry about going out and having a drink and i can book a holiday without worrying it'll clash with an appointment! Maybe we could be adoption buddies, it's a long process where you'll be assigned a social worker, but there's also no guarantee you'll be accepted at the end of it! Xxx

[_MrsC in reply to jam1982]

Thanks. We definitely need some time out. I've read up on the process of adoption so am aware of the needing to be accepted. There's a shortage of people to adopt in our county. We're a long way off yet. We need to come to terms with our disappointment from today first. xxx

[Rosalietea]

So sorry Mrs C! It's a horrible time. You never know what is round the corner though. You are such a strong lady to be so kind to others when you are hurting so much. Be kind to yourselves and look after one another too xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Rosalietea]

Thank you. I'm really grateful. xxx

[Sunshine09]

So sorry hunny, wishing you all the best, it is so expensive when you are self funding, & I feel for you, take care xx💋💋

[_MrsC in reply to Sunshine09]

Thank you. You're very kind. xxx

[Hidden]

Hi MrsC. I'm so sorry to hear this. Yesterday you gave me some wonderful advice and I hope you are able to follow it for yourself. It sounds like you have a great relationship with your husband and together you'll get through this. Your strength is admirable. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I hope you're feeling better today. xxx

[Georgina78]

So so sorry to come on here and see this _MrsC 😔 I haven't been on here as much so I haven't seen your updates during this cycle but I'm gutted for you that this is how it's ended and where you're drawing a line under it (if that's the right wording 😕)

It's so devastating but you have an amazing attitude and are clearly grateful for what you do have. I think that's all we can do, however it's so hard to not feel angry and that it's very unfair, because it is.

I understand how you feel because while we could probably just about afford one cycle (only by selling some possessions) we definitely don't just have that money sat there doing nothing and are wondering what's the point of throwing money at it when it hasn't worked 4 times already. Can we really expect it to be any different 🙁

Hubby and I have been enjoying being off the rollercoaster and doing some nice things together, just trying to get out of the feeling that our infertility defines us. I hope you can do the same. Sending huge hugs at a very difficult time and I really hope you will be happy even though life hasn't gone as you'd hoped xxxx

[_MrsC in reply to Georgina78]

Thank you. That's really reassuring to hear. I think just some time for us will be amazing. I will certainly take a leaf out of your book. You sound happy and that's what I'd like to be. xxx

[Georgina78 in reply to _MrsC]

I'm not quite 'there' yet and there's lots of good & bad days but hubby & I have really been enjoying time together, having fun (like the 'old' days!) going to gigs etc. That seems to be the only thing that gets me through.

We're still undecided even 6 weeks later, what to do next. Adoption isn't off the table for us but it's such a huge decision and we said we'd just give ourselves some time to get our heads straight and time out before trying to make any decisions..we'll have to face it soon though, I'm 40 in January!

Hope you'll be ok, if you ever want to chat just dm me xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Georgina78]

Thank you! That's really kind.

I'm 35 in November but hubby and I have been together for nearly 14 years so it's been a long time and we're desperate to get back to that having fun stage. I'm looking forward to that element. xxx

[Georgina78 in reply to _MrsC]

It's so important Hun, and really helps the heeling process I find. We've been together 22 years and you have to remember there's so much more to you as a couple than just this one thing. Although some days it's hard to see that 😕 enjoy your fun and hopefully it'll get easier with time xxx

[Hormomalmess]

I am so sad to read this. I am sorry that things didn't work out for you. Lots of love ❤️ xx

[_MrsC in reply to Hormomalmess]

Thank you. x

[_MrsC]

Thank you. I'm sure my husband and I will stay together.

[ClarabGlasgow]

I am so sorry to hear this, yours was one of the first posts I read when joining on here and I was rooting for you. What I would say is you sound so calm and in control now which I guess comes with having a known outcome. Enjoy your coffee , alcohol and couples only holidays for now and you never know what the future holds (you are unexplained infertility right ) . All the best for the future , take care X

[_MrsC in reply to ClarabGlasgow]

Thank you. Yes we are. It seems to be the one that has the least successful outcome. I assume because something must be wrong with out embryos. Whilst I suspected it wouldn't work of course I hoped it would do the disappointment is still very big. xxx

[Cinderella5]

Awww I'm really sorry to hear this! Plan some quality time with your lovely other half!! Sending you big hugs.xx

[_MrsC in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you. x

[lorraineb61]

So sorry to hear this - this whole process is so draining emotionally. Look after one another and hopefully time will allow you to see the path that you are supposed to go xx

[_MrsC in reply to lorraineb61]

Thank you. Will do. It's a very tough process. x

[E_05]

So sorry for your loss. Take care of each ifher Xx

[_MrsC in reply to E_05]

Thank you. Will do. x

[hannahi]

I'm so so sorry to hear this hun....don't know what else I can say, I'm gutted for you. Big hugs xxx

[_MrsC in reply to hannahi]

Thank you. That's really kind. x

[katya38]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Would u consider any other options?

[_MrsC]

Thank you. At the moment I don't think so. We're absolutely exhausted after two rounds this year. We need some time to heal and get some fun back in our lives. Never say never but at the moment I can't face the trauma of it again. x

[Oakey80]

Aw so sorry to hear this xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Oakey80]

Thank you. x

[nicknick]

I am so sorry. Sending my hugs

[_MrsC in reply to nicknick]

Thank you. x

[Macca13]

Very sorry to hear this. Take care of each other and best wishes for the future xx

[_MrsC in reply to Macca13]

Thank you. x

[Gurty123]

Hey lovely, I am sorry I haven't messaged I have been off this site for a lots while but I just remembered to check on how you got on. I am so so sorry to see that you ended with a BFN - it's so unfair and I was really hoping for you. Sending you huge hugs, you take care of yourself and make plenty of time for yourself to relax. Lots of love xxxx

[_MrsC in reply to Gurty123]

Thank you. You're very kind. Yes we're disappointed but hoping that in time things will be a bit easier. Trying to look to the future. xxx